It has taken me time to understand what the Feminine Teachers I learned from meant by woman will not be fulfilled in life if they do not develop a relationship with themselves. We spend our lives nourishing others easily and with abandon. We often do not put time to nourish us. We may want to but we get exhausted by nourishing everyone else. 

What I learned was that nourishing yourself was so powerful to nourish others. We have so many martyr rules that go against this. We feel guilty if we put ourselves first. It seems wrong or not nourishing. Yet if we don't nourish ourselves first then we are looking for others to nourish us. As we wait and look, and many don't know we need it or we don't tell them, we are left resentful and unnourished. In the feminine mysteries, the woman filled themselves and got their needs met themselves. They spoke up, asked for what they needed if they needed support. Many woman supported each other and shared their ways to nourish themselves properly. It is lost wisdom to us.

Over the years I have let this wisdom seep with in me. I have a few friends who naturally take care of themselves first. I missed that and saw more of the martyr role. And then heard and hear resentful woman that are expecting others to just know they need support or silently suffer putting passive aggressive energy into the room. How we are nourished and filled up is an individual thing. That is why that said woman must develop a relationship with themselves. Know their own needs, find ways to fulfill the and this is unique to others. 

I find when I awake and use my morning routine to fill me up I am nourishing myself. Considering my day, being greatful for what I have and then doing my tai chi, qigong practices sets me up. I drink a big glass of water and also take moments to savor my coffee while appreciate the beauty of nature I am surrounded by at the time. Being on the road and in new places, I have used this routine to center and start my day filled for the newness. I also find nature spots and moments in it so I can remember the parasympathetic nervous system oxytocin to calm my system from all the newness I have most days. 

I am strong in my spiritual study so I also listen to things that expand me in health, how to live better or inspiring information that support me to be in joy. We call all this high impressions which can be music, a book, quotes, videos, scripture, whatever it is that nourishes your spirit. The movement I do also brings in new oxygen, allows my lymph system to flow and supports the mechanics of my body. That is considered the second most effective nutriton behind high impressions.

Food wise, I eat colorful and organic, local or regenerative produced food when I can. This is the 3rd tear of nutrition and takes energy to create energy., so we spend less time being concerned about it.  The closer to the vine with the least preservatives is easiest for your body. These are basic nourishing with food that we all know. I also share this with my family and others. I do not cut costs on food. This is intuitive to most woman.

I also drink lots of water and am concerned with the water quality I take in. I have  filtered clean water in my home and shower. I also use hydrogen rich water from a Kangen ionizer to clear my body. I  use it for a chemical free home. When you experience your body in its true state without the chemicals in water and food, your hormones balance and find life to be more joyful. You also experience your body in balance in all ways so being positive, experiencing higher emotions is just a nature outcrop of this which many have never felt. My ionizer has been life changing for me.

I also am moving to NC where most of my family is. I think community is a great way for woman to nourish and build a relationship with themselves. For me this is fulfilling to see my nieces raise their children. I also need a environment that has lots of nature to nourish myself. Like minded growers and healers also nourish me with community. Womans groups as well so we can all learn from each other and realize woman have the same problems and we are not isolated or alone in our issues. Together we share solutions or ideas and support each other. 

I do feel for me my own spiritual study and aloneness with myself, a high impression is the way I fill with the sparkly gel of spirit. I am not tied to give this words as I feel we all reach for this wholeness of spirit. Whether it is called God, source, unity, light, love, each has its own word, it is the nourishment of self from the spirit of you or the spirit you are created from. It fuels me the most and love is the best word I have for it. When I take time to fill myself with this love, it then can flow out to others and I am not seeking them to nourish me.

I inspire you to find this relationship with yourself that fills you so you too can overflow. When I get resentful or feel exhausted, I go inward. It is my clue that I am not being a good friend to me. I am not putting me as a priority fueling myself with love from God so I can not begin to help others with clean energy. I have learned this is what they meant when they said as a woman I wouldn't be fulfilled by life unti I have a relationship with myself. Knowing me, what makes me feel good, energized, healthy, happy and content is my job. I get to chose my unique way to do that which can shift at any moment. I find it my job to learn and do what will fill me so I can better serve others with love and joy. 

May we learn this as woman so our world can be nurtured through this most challenging time.
Love and blessing to you embodying this. 

Gosh what a day! I have so much newness and change that a few things in the day are a big feat! I am sure many feel this way about some area of life . If not, the larger world climate is enough to find your bravery. To be hopeful, engage in bringing in bright energy and doing life is quite a feat these days. 

Today I spent time with chat gpt finding routes and towns to visit along with business events and family gathers. It is so brilliant but it answers so fast, I often keep going until it gives me far more info than I can digest. I have multiple routes and think around Lake Norman may be my new home. We will see. I chatted with an old friend that I will visit in Myrtle Beach, my sister about family matters, a new prospect who wants to get into the filtration industry that I met on neighbor, met a plumber about an install, spoke to a new sales rep on my team, visited with my Aunt whose 90 and had a computer issue so went to my cousins to get it fixed. I just finished a cup of tea and thought I am proud of me. 

We don't take time to appreciate ourselves enough. I have been so brave doing all these new things and still finding balance and joy.  I did not think at this point in life I'd be finding a new town in NC to live and explore. But life has it's way. Things go in all kinds of directions so you make the most and enjoy the ride. I figure this last 30,  I want my dreams fulfilled. I think being by a lake and mountains with beach not so far is good environment. Healthy people living in places that are active, care about health and wellness, enjoy the outdoors and have fun. That will be perfect. I am not far from famliy either. 

I do miss my daughter who was so heavy in my life. Her life has shifted to creating family in the UK. Very shifted. No more podcast, biz together, just a weekly chat. That is why I moved back east to be closer to other family. Who would of thought this fast twist all in a season? It is life. You keep going and play and create with the shifts. It takes bravery!

Living well is a commitment and a travel beyond what you thought. So many pass, children issues, parent issues, marriage issues, financial ups and downs., It is all life. The trick to joy is to go through it all and keep your heart open. It is all things and a challenge but there is great joy, beauty and love too. You get to choose what way you see it. Times get dark and tough but you feel, pray, connect with loved ones and you keep going. It takes bravery and a persistent attitude. This is life. When we get the moments like this 4th of July, you gather and celebrate. Good food, good chats, laughter and play. 

I just thought yesterday of the bravery it takes to live well. It made me think of those who came to the country to explore and build life in this great country. What bravery and courage our ancestors had. No electric, no cars, no stoves or appliance, a rugged bunch. So I too will feel that seed of bravery that is in my genes, my DNA and know this is our gift to live well. Through it all, we are made in to who we are today. The past paved the way for us so let us use and enjoy it.

May we treasure ourselves, our ancestors and our life we have here. Be proud. Recognize your own bravery and accomplishments. We ar in this together. Love wins in all ways always!

​A blessed holiday to you!

As I continue my journey to find my new spot in NC, I find myself in a quiet stillness. The intensity of my daughter moving to the UK and clearing her stuff from my garage, to packing my belongings, driving across the country in adventure, teaching in PA a woman's retreat, restful connection in PA., heading south to Greensboro, a beach week with family and now back to Greensboro to start the new chapter. Whew! A lot of change and action.

It is 4th of July week and between the activities and the next step, I find myself longing for quiet stillness. It is a thing I haven't done well in life. When I choose to rest, I can engage for a bit then in comes the what should I do? Get going? Stop wasting time. Our training against rest. A fiery sign that wants action, adventure and pleasure. I may be tired inside and wanting to sleep for a week so I can integrate all this change but that mind, that charge to do runs deep. Does anyone relate?

Often, especially with personal change and even with our world change of speed, it is hard to keep up. The mind, body and emotions need time to restructure. We feel it. I feel it. It is necessary yet the mind wants us to be productive forgetting rest is productive. I, too am playing with this. I am expanding my health practice to open to this rest regardless of the mind chatter. This is the work these days. Taking time to listen to other parts of ourselves and overcome the chatter of the mind. The raw energy that wants you to do when it is less productive for health than to rest and be. It is a learning of humanity at this time. With a world moving so quick and emergency news multiple times a day, we need to recalibrate.

I have always been one to be more playful and restful. I probably enjoy it more than most. The world today calls for far more than before. Personally, with all my shift, I feel that more balance in quiet stillness will only support me in health and life. So funny that we need to practice this rest, this relaxation. We all work and work, produce and produce and do it for the moments of rest. But when we get those moments, it is hard to turn off. We don't easily just relax. I know from all my teaching of woman and my own experience. Crazy to work for rest and then not be able to do it. 

So for this month of July filled with activity and connection, I am cultivating quiet stillness in between. As hard as my mind will contradict, I will honor the body, the emotions to sleep and calmly rest. Sit in nature. Take soothing walks. Look catatonically out into the beauty. Sounds simple and lazy but our world needs more slow and more calm. Simple joys. Simple contemplation. Building a new world is not all action. We need to allow our nervous system to get back to rest and rejuvenate. Newness brings in excitement which is of the fight or flight system. We are fresh and on alert. To sit cozy and smile from inside brings us back to the joy and simplicity of balance. 

I inspire you to do this as well. I know my whole life, July was a busy month that I could burn out on. The sun hot, the activities many, the action packed summer in full swing. Be sure to balance and notice when enough is enough. It is part of health and wellness. These next two months are the standard burnout months from the sun so intense. We all love the beauty and action but fill in with the rest and recalibration. I am finding I need it today. I will take it this week between the fun I will engage in.

Balance the key to living well at the intense time of fun. Fun and action can be exhausting so do take care of yourself. My self reflection and rest has always been quick to recharge me! Love to you all!!