You Already Belong

We all have different lessons to learn while we are here. One of my lessons is in belonging. Others may not have this lesson so I am writing for those who need to hear this. To feel like you don't belong is like being cut off from the field. You feel you have to do something to fit in, contribute, make impact. Not that these things are not valuable but to share or express so you can belong vs share and express because you have value are two different starting points. 

If you ever felt you didn't belong, you may have this lesson. What come to me today was that we belong or we wouldn't be here. I already belong. I am here, alive, participating and part of the field so to speak. I don't need to earn anything, I am already here so I must belong here. Here doesn't even matter where that is, for you already belong. 

When you had the black sheep role or perceived that role, it was a feeling of not belonging. So you felt you had to morph or perform or shift yourself so you could belong. Then your actions were of proving your worth so you could feel you fit in. It is a subtle thinking. It is very nuanced. To fit in I must..... fill in the blank. What a survival position to begin from! Wow! It makes us have to perform for belonging rather than be and already belong because we are there. 

Maybe you can't resonate with this for you don't have this lesson. If it does, I hope you see this shift. If we don't feel we belong, we will morph ourselves into what we think will belong. That is a lot of work to be the round peg in a square hole. Instead we could think I am here so I must belong so what can I add or express coming from I belong here? Not I don't belong and I better do this or that to belong and then add. That is  a lot of steps! It requires reading the field, knowing what is appropriate, finding a way to do something that adds value and be part of it. 

If you decide you belong already and you are there for a reason, you already have value then offer something, you are coming from a place of authenticity and value. It is a simple shift and it can change everything. I belong by just already being here. I am connected to all that is because I am here. No proving, nor fitting in, just because I am here. I think our training has been that we better add value or we won't belong. How about we add value just by being? That washes so many patterns away. 

Your field begins with an inclusive sense rather than an outsider sense. The inspiration to do comes from a whole different place. For many of us that are empaths or different than others in what ever way, as we all have our own different ways, we have misread the reason for this. It is to bring that different way, that different perspective to the table not to change ourselves to fit in. Whatever our thing that makes us feel like we don't belong is not real. It is some child like training you got that said be like this or you will be cast out or you won't be loved. It is a child like perception. Maybe the world you landed in, you were different and you're there to bring in that difference rather than hide it through conforming. When you were little you just thought I will model what I perceive as the way to be so I can survive. You misunderstood.

Now, as I sit in a new place and new everything, if I ask where I belong I will be motivated to find places that I think I belong in. If I say I am here now, I belong already for I am here now, what comes forward to do? It is subtle but it is very different energy that moves at a different pace and from a different startng point. I have built communities, created friends all looking to belong. Instead, I could just consider I belong and then see what shows up rather than seeking belonging. 

In seeking belonging, I come from the I don't belong yet so I have to find where I belong. Instead I belong, I add value already, where does that go? It is participating in all around me from a very different point of view. I will see what it brings. I belong here in the mountains of NC because I am here. So what stirs next? A very different question than where do I belong? Belonging is so huge in life. It is the juice of living. To feel recognized, seen, helpful, participating, it is a genuinely a wonder of being human. It is already here for we are here. We belong because we exist. We don't really have to seek that.

As I say I am here, I belong here so what do I want to do now? It comes from a whole different energy than seeking to belong. Do you see and feel that? It allows us to express, to participate in belonging than to look for belonging. This is a huge shift for me to see this subtly in my thinking. It transforms how I expand here where I belong in NC. I don't look for belonging. I look to express my belonging or because I belong. I get to exhale. I belong so how do I want to express here? There is no urgency or need anymore. There is a restful moment of grace and then allowing the answer to "how do I want to participate that is me adding me because I belong." 

Life is filled with these simple ideas that take time to really see the network of weird ideas we gathered as children and were trained to believe for survival. As a child, if you are not approved of, you will not get cared for or only partially loved. We saw through these survival eyes how to be. It is not the truth of it here. We were born so we belong. How and where we belong changes when we stop seeking to belong. Shifting ourselves to different groups and ideas so we fit in is not necessary. If we do that, we don't really fit in for we are not really being us. And a part of us knows that so it creates not belonging for your are shifting to belong so you don't belong there for your reasoning is off. The not belonging is showing us our reasoning, not that we don't belong.

Life is trippy. I am always learning more about how to ride this wonderful experience of life. Same days I get it, other days I am so innocently unaware of it. As we grow, we can unlock these silly ideas we have and change them to more accurate information about what is going on. For me today, it is about belonging, which is really got proving in it, and doing so your are seen or known or add something. What if my presence here without saying a word or doing an act is enough? Just being somewhere is enough to say I belong and I am participating.

For me this is a big "AHA". I already belong here. Now where would it be fun to add value? Where would it be fun to just be? Where do I feel most comfortable being me? Allowing this to sink in and see what comes forward from this angle vs where do I belong? How can I experience life from this perspective rather than the old one? I already belong. I am adding to the world just by being. I already effect things. I don't have to do anything more. If I get inspired I could do that but if I am not in this moment, just being is enough for all things to flow anyway. 

I will keep you posted on this revelation. It is very different than I saw before and the desire to belong. That desire is now fulfilled. I do belong. We will see what happens next!