We have all heard this a million times yet still don't do it. Why is that? Well it begins with our training that to be a kind, helpful girl, we do everything for everyone else. The problem with that belief is then who cares for us? How many woman go about exhausted, wondering when they will get a moment to rest and care for themselves? Well if you want health, beauty, vitality, you must take care of you!!!!
The law of spirit is take care of yourself first so you can better serve others. It is how it works. For when we feel nourished and full, we have plenty of energy to help others. We are the natural nourishers and no one has taught us the real rules. How can any one care for us for they don't know what we need. We could ask but most woman don't use their voices or feel weak if they need help. It is a mess of beliefs we must throw out if we want a joyful life.
We know what we need and our body tells us. How lovely do we feel when we take a moment for ourselves? We have plenty of energy to keep going. It doesn't take alot of time either. When my daughter was young, just 5 minutes alone was enough to refuel me. Only 5 minutes! How about if you went outside and strolled your property, or grabbed a cup of tea and just sat there enjoying it. There are simple small things we can do that take minutes to reset. I often put on a song and just dance to it. Maybe 5 minutes and I reset my energy, refueled with oxygen and felt beautiful in my grace of body. That is all we need to do.
Over time these little 5 minute shifts add up. I am the queen of taking 5 to regroup, refresh, calm down and remember the joy in life. It creates a "Queen of your dominion" sense that I can know what I need, when I need it and do it. You too can create a practice in your life to do these small things that nourish you. It is your job. It is your responsibility and it heals you tremendously!! You empower yourself so quickly and gracefully!
So play with this idea. I inspire you to take care of you when you need it. If your hungry, sit down, eat and enjoy it. If your tired, find a way to take a few quiet minutes to rest and breath deep. If you need movement, go outside and wiggle around for a few. All these simple things reset your system. You feel cared for and refreshed. You become the Queen of your world and your being!
It is easy, fun and healing! So get to it!
I aspire to inspire others that living is a yoga. To make all acts sacred, all beautiful in and of itself, even fear or panic, spaces you pass through, with conscious awareness as you move through, this is the yoga of living to me. Being in the moment and having a perspective in your foundation that truly everything is for your growth and upliftment. Knowing truly you are not given what you can not handle. Being able to find this place within through the panorama of life. This is my high goal, the goal of raja yoga, to be present in all acts. Living this truth is empowering.
I am kinesthetic so it seems easier for me to be in the moment. I can get into this sensory mode where I notice the nuances of color, texture, sound, wind, other peoples energy, my senses can bring me present. I more often can get lost in time and see how sometimes it is fast and others times snail slow. I have spent a lot of my life trying to focus this sensing into a more mechanical, ordered trait. It won’t fit there. It is of its own accord because it comes from sensory, feeling nature, creative, flowing. This is a magic gift, not a hindrance as I was taught.
I am finally giving its due honor, allowing this sense to develop and be used as a gift has brought me towards a flowing existence. The senses bring us alert in our bodies. From here we can use all faculties to surf the world, not just the mind, we can engage our multidimensional nature. If you are only in the mind you cannot access all the senses correctly. Blending the body messages and perspectives with the mind perspective are the yoga balance we seek. It also offers an opening to our 6th sense. Blending these two perspectives of ourselves opens the empathetic gift, feeling the connectedness we truly have to others.
That is what I have discovered through doing the physical, Tia Chi, dancing, yoga, honoring my body through gentle organic movement has tapped me into an energy source I didn’t know before. As I develop my honor and connection to my body by being in it fully, it has much to tell me about the world in a subtle way that I could miss being caught in the chatter of the mind and noise of the world. These flowing movements put me in a relaxed flowing state. My body remembers how it feels to move in rhythm and calm energy. Good practice for this hectic life here.
Additionally, meditating on a place of fullness, filled and flowing with connection to this universal energy force allows me the safety to perceive the world as expanding . That I am always able to pass through. Life becomes the yoga of experiencing it without judgement and flowing through it. Seeing this way brings joy in easily. Again this practice of calling in my fullness, my connection to the one that we are all part of, helps train my body to experience life in fullness. Creating great new ways to live and move in the world.
The Eastern arts, expressive and healing, inspire us because of the pace, present awareness they teach us. To live as you move like a dance of poses knowing all have their place in the flow of change is the art. Finding a blessing in having a body, honoring it and its nuances as your ally, aligning our bodies, mental, emotional, physical and our spirit at the helm. This is the yoga of living! This is the gift I share in teaching. It allows our body to calm down, relax, get into oxytocin and joy is the natural outcome. Like Magic
I invite you to give yourself this gift. I am only a consult away! May we walk forward with the goal to make life art, to live in joy, play with it and make living a yoga of expressing your true spirit.
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Such a crazy start to 2017! So many up in arms with strife and displeasure. We have the opportunity to step up and truly speak our voice and take action for those things we desire. It is a motivating force to realize what you love, what you value and do positive things to bring about a world you want to be part of.
All this makes me delight in femininity, my divine essence of being a woman. To love life rightly, deeply, purposefully and fully! To be in woman in such a time when we must collaborate and truly use our great feminine qualities of connection and community is delicious to me for this is our mastership. We are the best at uniting and creating change. We do it daily in our lives through all the organizations, charities, churches and schools. If we can truly shift the disconnection and competition in our gender and collaborate which is so natural to us, it would make this world a beautiful place.
To love ourselves first is always the rule in all schools of spirit. To care for ourselves, to revel in our beauty, our wonder, our kindness, our feminine way of care in nourishing is the call of our times. To truly be a woman in all her insanely fun ways, artistic, creative, communicating, connecting and going with the flow. Flexible, make due out of the most harrowing conditions and find fun and laughter when there seems to be none. We can mix and mingle with everyone and blend such odd situations into a dance of connection. We gather, we feed, we love and we listen.
I call us all to fall in love with the wonder of being a woman! It is an art, a dance, a painting and creation to be a woman in todays world. So much forcing and pushing us to be masculine in our ways yet it gets us no where to act as men do. Yes, we have to adapt their ways in business but once that is done, we can get back to our beautiful flowing way of seeing life. Moving at a pace that works for us, taking time to care and be involved, enjoying all others and supporting the world in a nourishing way.
Femininity is a gift and we need to honor ourselves and our creative style of being. We are the great tenders of the world. We are the nourishers, the space holders, the lovers, the listeners, the beauties, the fun. Let's fall in love with ourselves truly. Honor the gifts that we offer fully. Revel in our joyful beings. Savor the love and care that we give humanity. Allow the world to see us as the peacemakers and collaborators that we are!
And what beautiful fun it will be!
Well ladies, we are the playful spirits of the world! If we are not engaging, enticing, alluring ourselves and others in this way, we are not engaging our true essence of being a woman! Youthfulness, flexibility, communication, beauty passion and charm are the qualities of woman in the yoga system. The petals of the Svathishana they are called, our area of creativity, where the womb and kidneys are housed. If we do not engage in these fluid, playful ways, our health will suffer for the energy in this area will get blocked.
This nonfluid way of our lives in the current society, creates all kinds of health issues in our body. Flowing is a key word about woman. We have a cycle which is rhythmic, cyclical, fluid. We do not realize what this tells us of ourselves. We are the negotiators, the flexors in most all situations. We are the nourishers, the gatherers, the ones who bring in fun and play to life. We are not moving about in a flowing way, our body is designed to operate best when it is flowing, at a slower pace where connection and communicaton can occur. We are using the pace of men, marching. Thus we have adrenal burn out, cortisol and no oxytocin which is our healer.
I encourage you to seek out this woman in you, your playful spirit. Consider when a group of woman or girls gather. What is happening? Playful, giggles, chatter, dancing, fun, food, laughter, support, silliness. Yes for these are the healing powers of woman. We are acting out the traits of the svadisthana chakra! Communicating with each other, being flexible together, acting youthful, sharing our passions, feeling beautiful and often helping each other to be that, and being our charming girly self. It is no accident that we have the children and usually raise them. For we are youthul and childlike in our essence and it is good we are this way.
Embrace these qualities in yourself and cultivate them daily. It is not hard for us to be healthful as woman. We just do the things that are natural to us. We enjoy them. Our world has kicked these ideas out of our everyday life and it is killing us and those around us. Know these 6 qualities of yourself as the power of woman. Spend time each day using them in consciousness. Pull them in your life in whatever way you can. This creates relaxation, oxytocin, the parasympathetic nervous system to engage and heal our body. You will gain such health and peace of mind by riding in this flowing way. It is who we are. It is easy to be a woman for we are them. We just need to embrace our natural ways and live more fully in our beauty!
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Ahhhh yes! We are in the season of glitter, magic, sparkle and light! So exciting and delightful all the sensual beauty around us! We are the masters of all this beauty, color, texture, scents, aromas, reflections of our inner sparkle and feminine artistry!
Let's not forget that we are the creators of this incredible Holiday scene! We decorate, cook. invite, create, spruce up, lighten, inspire and give! We the nourishers, the householders in their greatest season! We love the sacred space of home and create it with our own unique magic. It is a leading role we as woman have and we truly love it to our core. Our space to host and nurture others gets such a lift in the holiday season. Full on celebration is in the house and we are the creators of it all!
Let's not stress over this creative art so natural. There is no true perfection in art other than that it is complete. We call it complete too for it is our creation. We don't need to criticize ourselves as we do our best, our art and get done what gets done. It is in the creativity, the playing with this role, that our greatest healing occurs. Our greatest nourishing of ourselves and others comes forth. Stop the pressure and desire to overdue. Do what is fun, natural and inspires you. Leave out the extremes and must be's so we get our true healing through this season.
We are all Martha Stewarts in our own way. Revel in your way, your style and what fits in and delights you. This is such a healing time for us as we get to share in our greatest rituals that woman love. Decorating, feeding others, giving love, conversation and gifts, gathering our loved ones in a wonderful ambiance that soothes hearts. Be free and creative with this endeavor for it sings your heart. Don't get too caught up in it being a certain way. Let is flow from you so the true health and healing of this feminine season soothes and inspires you. Going beyond that will only lead to adrenal stress and illness. Why go there when this is our highest time of the year for the feminine essence of nurturing in all ways.
We are the true masters of beauty at this time. Delight in that! Use it in ways that fill you as you share to fill others. It is the time of love! Woman, mothers, it is our sacred role and gift we give humanity, the nourishing of others on all levels. Use your artisty so it gives to you as well. We so delight in all this hoopla and detail. We create it, we sparkle it up and we savor the season so clearly about our hearts!
They say confidence is the best cosmetic. Someone who feels good about themselves, has pride and power in their direction, takes care of themselves, exudes confidence. Not in an arrogant way as though I am better than others, or a projection, mask or pretending, but in a way that comes forward as an equal meeting others equal. Confidence says, I am magnificent and come to meet your magnificence. None better or worse, individual and unique.
Our culture frowns upon being full of yourself yet who else are you to fill with. You, your spirit, your way, your divine spark is the only way to fill! Often, especially among woman, if one appears confident, others less confident will secretly criticize or separate from one filled with confidence. It is quite crazy! I was fortunate to grow up in a crowd of woman whom all felt special, beautiful, powerful in our own ways and all were celebrated.
To be in love with yourself is to carry your wonder eloquently. To feel your are witty and intelligent in whatever subjects you are. To feel beautiful in your skin, highlight your assets and accept all of your body being as it is. Yes, maybe be working on some parts but not concerned that they are what defines you or you beauty. To feel able to speak, share your wisdom, have a voice and be counted. To feel comfortable in your own skin and open to others brilliance. To love and nourish those around you as well as yourself. To be an asset to all you get involved with and know you contribute.
The list could go on and on. It is truly accepting yourself, filling yourself and having less need from others. Not that you don't love to receive from others, you just aren't hopelessly waiting for that. You can get your needs filled yourself. This instills confidence so you are not dependent on conditions or others to do for you.
We all could do this more. Truly find the things we so love of ourselves. It is part of knowing yourself. Knowing your assets, what are your skills, traits and gifts that make you a sparkly gem like no other. Often these things are so natural that we forget how valuable they are. They are what we, uniquely add to the world. They are needed and necessary and we should be boldly aware of them, feel grand to have and share them. There is nothing wrong with this!! It is important and a worthy practice to take inventory of our greatness to ourselves! We should revel and cherish what we are, even cultivate other wonders.
Our world has us all looking at the wrong, bad, distasteful, unruly parts of ourselves. It has created horrible self talk that we in reality, use against ourselves and it will never clear these traits. I am for a movement to shift that perspective to a positive self talk for us to feel our magnificence. Certainly, we all have things that need to grow and learn but why make it such a hardship. We love to expand, explore and become better for we are spirits. Life would be boring if all was well in place and there was nothing to do. Feeling your strengths, knowing, acknowledging your gifts, riding them to the fullest to get through the other parts is a smarter way to grow.
As we are in this month of gratitude I suggest we all spend time in self gratitude. I have no doubt that most of you will be thankful for all the blessings around you. So consider focusing on the blessing you are. Really defining it, noticing and reveling in that. Even making a list of all your assets on all levels so you can begin to feel the sense of self love. We love others, our children, our parents, our friends, our pets but what about ourselves? Do we look with eyes of love in the mirror? Do we have gratitude for all the good we do without even trying? All the giving, kindness and support that we don't even think twice to do?
So fall in love with yourself this holiday season! Take time to really celebrate you as you are celebrating others. It will create such a glow and beauty that will be like magic. Appreciate your body for all you put it through and it still keeps going. Celebrate your outer beauty, your eyes, hair, shape, smile or twinkly eyes. We all love parts of our body so embrace and adore them. Honor all you do for others, your family, community and even those you don't know. The power you have to lift others or sit with them in strife. Revel in the growth you have in so many areas for it is natural part of life. We are growing, changing and becoming. We don't always notice for we are too focused on what isn't working rather than all the things that are.
Go ahead and give yourself permission to really love yourself! Buy a present or two for yourself. Take that class, get that massage or facial. Take five to regroup and find peace. Serve yourself the best piece of pie or the best part of the turkey. It is not selfish to care for yourself. It is necessary and will honor the greatness you are. Ride by all the training in your head that yells at you and says no. You are important enough, you deserve it, you earned so enjoy the fruits of your work.
Waiting for others to love us is a waste of time. As we fall in love with ourselves, others will as well. Confident, well kept people attract the same. So above, so below. As within, so without. That's how the reflection works. These are not just words they are laws. So play with this idea of falling in love.
Fall in love with you!! Your inner glow will mesmerize all and be reflected back. And watch the magic happen about you!
We are far too stressed in life! We have forgot what relaxation feels like! We are in cortisol, the stress hormone of the sympathetic nervous system of fight or flight. It is a great system when used in balance with our parasympathetic nervous system of oxytocin, the relaxation and rejuvenation hormone. We must retrain ourselves back to using both health systems. A key to loving our life!
In stress, not much love of anything is about. How can we see the beauty, feel the calm, dance our own rhythm, enjoy the simplicity in life. These are things that indicate we are in relaxation, in this oxytocin and we can bring it in quickly when we understand the feeling of it. It is a body awareness, an energetic state, it is being in a different nervous system than we usually are in. It is uncanny though when we are there and our body just oozes bubbly feelings of golden sparkle as I feel it.
So how do we shift to this system? When we are on vacation we are there, when we finally sit down and just chill in the evening we can often be there, a healing treatment takes us there or an expressive art class. There are many quick shifts that work. We use many but to have awareness, feel the body there, and create more of that is the magic. Then our body begins to do so alone. Music can shift us into all kinds of states, relaxation being one. Taking a few breathes outside can do it. Reading inspiration. Reflecting on our blessings. These all have the power to shift us into parasympathetic healing.
The key is to feel this feeling when you shift. Really sink into the mind, body and emotions that are with you in that moment. I teach lots of ways to do this and people get to experience this shift in a knowing way. It is a clear way of body presence. Once you get it, many of your own actions and simple pleasures can do it. The awareness is key. It is not easy to switch your body out of adrenal stress. It becomes a health practice done in many moments. The innate health system will cooperate with you and take over after some point. But we are really getting into the energy of it and the vibration. Not just a thinking or words.
I have a video on my site with the "Ha" breath of pleasure that is effective for learning this shift. We use sound to trick our body into relaxation. It helps you get the energy of it which is hard to put in words. Definitely give this some playing and practice. It was a great tool for me to learn. You will find more joy, magic and silliness in things. All ways to love your life more in each moment!!
Woman are naturally tied to nature as we are the life bearers! There is great power and connection through this ability to give life that we forget. Our traditional roles as gatherers and the tenders of the earth is forgotten. However this connection still exists and heals us on all levels.
Did you ever notice the wonder you feel, the relaxation, the sensuality that enlivens when you step outside? This is very key to our health, beauty and vitality. We must use nature as a guide and tool for ourselves. It supports us in feeling beautiful, settled, open and healed. We must play outside in whatever way calls us. It resets the atoms in our bodies and it offers us sacred healing. Woman are so much part of the creating process on earth and nature is our healer.
Woman are the flowers of humanity. We are the flowing, beautiful, scented creatures full of color and sensual delight. This is perfect and a forgotten secret of youth and beauty. Playing in nature is key to loving ourselves and our life.
Love yourself and your femininity through engaging in nature. No matter how you do it, it will support you. The Goddess in you knows the Goddess of the earth. Find ways to cultivate this knowing, this intuitive connection. We play in nature so freely and easily. Whether with our children, with ourselves or walking with others. Find your way to engage weekly in nature as a way to embrace your divine feminine awareness. It is part of you. It is healing for you. It is a way to connect with yourself and your magic. Use it and it will unfold uniquely, creatively for just you!
Embrace your Inner Goddess through nature! A simple way to love our life!
And thank you Terree Yeagle of The Moment Photo for such a beautiful image of myself!!
As woman we are the catchers of all issues. We find time to serve our neighbors, families, children, friends, community and random others. There is great loveliness in this and it is part of our role here as nourishers. There is a line that we have to be very aware of. Our training has taught us to serve all above ourself. This is not how it works.
There is a law, take care of yourself first so you can better serve others. This is a challenge to learn but you must take the path to really see if these things serve you? Of course our instincts and nourishing role naturally calls us to support others, being concerned that if we don't who will. That is a lovely trait until it effects our well being. We know how the martyr role goes and we end up depleted with no one to fuel us. To avoid this, there are times where we can't help, shouldn't be part of nourishing another and it is ok.
We have to find that place inside us that gives us, our energy, our health value equal to others. If we run out, we can serve no one. It is like the car without gas. You have to go fill it. So consider that is as important as helping others. Helping ourselves is our responsibility or we become part of the "others" that need nourishing. So fill up yourself first. Find ways to say no when it is not going to feel good to yourself to help. It is a training, a practice to go through this at first, but it pays off. Your intuitive nature becomes more active and you find your own answers valuable.
Sometimes others need to be serving, people need to find their own way and resources and we need to step back and allow the challenge to teach others ways to their power. So it is truly important to find these lines that we determine from within, using our heart as a guide. Helping another to our own depletion is not the way it works. It is in truthful giving, when we feel good to support, that it works as the nourishing circle we are part of. So be prepared to find that way with yourself and others.
We all know when we serve and it fills us up to be able to do such for another. We also know when we have barely anything to give and we do give and we find ourselves resentful or looking for a payback. That is not real giving. It is our job to give fully and freely. When we can't then it is our job to use our nourishing way on ourselves until we can get back to rightful giving.
Learn the truth to service for yourself. it will give your greater joy and energy as you do support others. You will find you love your life, you love the way you support and you will love yourself for knowing when and how to do that best. It is a practice so play with it! You can find the right line and it will be freeing!
Beauty is all about us at any giving moment. Whether it is nature, a gorgeous building or home, an idea someone shares, fashion, jewelry, art, oh so much beauty all around. We wonder how to have more beauty and there is an easy way to participate in it. Notice it!
It is as simple as that. See beauty everywhere! In seeing beauty it inspires beauty within. It gives us a good feeling inwardly. Once we get the feeling of beauty at something outside, create the feeling of beauty inside, we exude this joyful feeling. In essence it is the beauty within. In reality, as you feel beauty even if it is not of yourself, it creates you to look more beautiful. Beauty is beauty is beauty. So by noticing it, generating the feeling, you relax, create oxytocin and actually feel more beautiful. The loveliness is that you look more beautiful as well. It is an energy. You can easily grow that vibration within and about you.
It seems so simple yet it is the sparkle in the eyes! You know how you feel when you see a beautiful things, it energetically effects you. You take the beauty of it in, you become that energy, you exude that feeling, that energy. It is felt by others and they sense the beauty, they see it as you! Kind of fun!
It is the law of within without. Get the feeling inwardly and it is naturally projected out. Get the feeling outwardly and bring it in which then projects it out. We could play with this so many ways. To see beauty, to notice, to participate is to be beauty. It creates relaxation, calmness, the euphoria feeling. Woman are masters at this!
All part of loving your life! Look for the beauty! See it everywhere. Let others see the other stuff. You will gain an eminating glow! Delicious, heartwarming beauty!
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Lyn Hicks’ passion is to awaken others to their true joy.. Educating others on The Art Of Relaxing, Self Care, learning of their innate health system, coaching them to activate and use the parasympathetic nervous system and find more health, rejuvenation, beauty, power and JOY!. She is a health and beauty coach to woman through sharing divine feminine wisdom that educates them on their sacred body and cultivates their magic intuitive nature.
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