We have such expectation of life, our mission, our goals, our relationships, ourselves! No one gets away with doing everything right as our beliefs and minds would see it. Judgement a dangerous thing. Sometimes shit just happens. We make bad choices, we get lazy, we get irritated, we find ourselves not being this great version we want to be. This is part of the human condition. We get tired, we get off purpose with all that comes at us, we just don't preform to our best. It is really no reason to feel so bad as we have been taught!
Allowing ourselves to go through the twists and turns of life is a skill of mastery. We don't really give ourselves permission to be off. We give it to others though. We have allowance for them most times to not be so perfect. Yet when it comes to ourselves, we can be the worse critic and revel in it too much. So my call to writing this is to remind us to be gentler and kinder to ourselves.
I get feeling crappy, down, depressed even sometimes. I get unmotivated, wanting things my way, temper tampering when I don't like what is occurring. I use escapism, illusion, imagination and do stupid things that will not bring me closer to what I want. However, after so much spiritual study, being an initiate and a minister, I realize deeper and deeper that this is just all part of life. It is actually a way to know we are off course or need a rest, an inward direct. The process of this less than wonderful choices just is a reminder that we need to relax and sit for a minute and observe.
We allow these parts of ourselves, these thoughts, behaviors, stories to exist as all the good stuff. We just watch the process of this go by us and often really need to observe more than do anything. "Allowing". We really are not so good at this action. To just allow what is to be. Not have to do anything, work, think but observe what is in going on. If we did this more in life, really observed a bit more, in presence, we can save ourselves from negativity.
Often when we do get through something we consider "bad" or "negative" we eventually get to the place where it just doesn't matter. We move on, we go forward, we forgive or forget. We finally just get moving onto something else. If we could use this strategy of allowing more often, we could get to that in less time. It is not always so easy to just stop, allow, observe and let things go by without having to get so involved. Yet it is a simple strategy not to get more off track by making a mountain out of a mole hill. Practicing this can support and in the long run, it is one of the great strategies I have learned through all this seeking of en-lighten-ment. Just allow what is going on to be going on. I don't necessarily have to participate in side myself with what is occurring or on the outside with what is happening. I can just watch!
We all get off, tired, whiny and just unsatisfied. It is part of the experience here. Making a greater decision that this is part of what is occurring in a less attached way rather than qualifying it as bad, or something to escape. Yes, let us not hang out too long in these states but lets not forget we will get into them. It is not always so helpful to think we have done something wrong or need to change. Sometimes it just is part of this experience here. Letting us know that joy have its balance, strife its renewal, crappy turns into elation. Just states of being here. Not necessarily anything other than that.
Last night and yesterday, I had that cranky, confused, unhappy feeling. I went through doing what needed to be done and wanted to just get home, rest, vegetate, be safe in my yuckiness. I had to remind myself that it was ok. I didn't do anything wrong and let my mind ramble into what was the matter. I just needed to be in low for a minute for whatever reason. Not need to invent anything or dig into my deep conscious and find a solution. The solution is that we get to experience it all here on earth. Yesterday was what we call a low spirit day and it is equally perfect and complete to an elated day. I just allowed it.
I slept so good and then today, I have back my bright, sparkly attitude! I could of tried to understand it. I could of went through my mind making up reasons that I was not so upbeat. I could of went into a trail of lots of negative self talk or took inventory of what wasn't so great about myself. I didn't. I know better. I know that I can just allow my less energetic emotions to be. In doing so, they pass quicker and with less strife. I also got rest, did not much and enjoyed the relax and reset that I feel good now. It is all just states we travel through. We are whole, we experience it all, we need to allow that and be okay with all that rolls through. The resistance, the wondering, the not allowing creates greater havoc and often a longer experience in low.
I invite you to consider practicing with this "Allowing". Especially with our physical and emotional energy states. All is part of the whole. Often the low is just needed to regroup our vehicle of the body. Our emotions are real in the essence that we can feel them and they are right no matter what they are. Maybe not right in how we see the world or why they are around but they feel real. So we let them be and watch them. They disappear like "poof"! We have not been taught so well about this emotional nature and how to surf it. Most often it is just to watch, give recognition and do nothing about it but allow.
I find greater movement through all states with this allowing. Life is more dance like. I can flow easier if I drop out of the minding. Experiencing a greater teacher and opens you to wisdom quicker. Practice this allowing and see how it can support you!
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|Lyn Ann Hicks
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