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Lyn Ann Hicks

Growing Your Beauty!

Give Up The Savior/Martyr Complex

12/10/2022

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As a humanitarian and leader in change, this is an issue I want to address. I think healers, leaders and the like have to review themselves on this through out their lives. We can't help everyone and it is not really our place too. If we are to help others is won't be everyone. It will be those who align with us, those on our ray, in our tribe, whatever you want to call it. I will start with a poem I wrote that explains much of this.

I Am Allowed
I am allowed to walk away, to honor me.
I am allowed to not go through others stuff with them.
I am allowed to not understand, not to fix, to step away and find my peace.
I am allowed to leave others, to re-center alone.

I don't have to hold the space if it gives me anxiety and I want to escape.
I can go away and find my spirit within.
It is ok to not be there for another if is not working for me.
I can step away, I can still be loving, doing good in this action.
All is not fluffy every minute. Others have to sit with their own unfluffiness at times.
I can do what works for me and it be spiritual, helpful and kind. 

I give myself permission to honor myself FIRST.
It is good to honor me. Let it all go.
I don't have to do anything. Just let it be and that is doing kindness.
I let the light in, I find my boundary. It is necessary to self care. I don't have to solve others issues.

I can "not help".
I am allowed to go.
I can love and leave.
I am still loved. I am allowed to do for me and me only.
It is helping others when I help myself first.

I am allowed to help or not help. It is my choice not run by what others need. 
I help where I want, where it fuels me, when I have overflow and feel power through supporting. 
Otherwise I can walk and that too is kind and helpful. 
It is knowing my power, welding it rightly and flourishing from using it.

These are powerful perspectives we often forget. Keep in mind you don't have to help all. The line being when it is not fueling you. You are not here to save others. You are here to hold the space for them and often add wisdom. You are inspiring others. that doesn't always mean doing anything "for" them. Often you are giving light energy for them to use for their change that they make. Some times that is not what is going on. You determine this and be aware of this "support" process. The key is it will fuel you truly not drain you. You need to be clear on this line. We all need to draw it for ourselves. This clears the martyr, the savior and all the other roles like this. 

Blessings to you all as we find our own fueling, know how to get fueled by supporting others and realize when we are and get out when we are not! 

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