I wish I knew when I was younger that self care was survival! To take care of yourself, needs and desires first, the rule of vitality and longevity among other health benefits. To feel nourished, cared for, supported, beautiful, high vibe, begins with fulfilling your needs to feel safe.
Whatever that is to you, you must provide it for yourself. Others can back you up and support you, but safety is different to us all. Our latest podcast with a girl in recovery from brain injury. hit the nail on the head. Those in chronic pain and all of us, need to feel safe and self sufficient in some way. Know that we care for ourselves by seeking ways to it. Not in monetary terms, but it could include that for we are all different. We know that money guarantees nothing so it is the deeper essence. The security that we can give ourselves what we need. We put ourselves in a safe situation and from there we can flourish. It is survival to feel you can manage what comes.
I do a lot for myself now that I am older and have time too. When I was younger, I was so busy doing that I exhausted myself and wondered how to not be so worn out? The ticket is do less and do what you like. There is always a few things we don't enjoy but safety is the power to be in jobs, neighborhoods, friends, lovers that we like and feel good around. That is our only task. Do the things that make you feel good. Our training told us to do all these other things. Some that make you feel good but many that do not and are "said" this must be done to be ....... blah blah.
My hope for this next generation is that they do take time to understand themselves which takes down time. The pace must be different. You can get the same amount of things done at a slower more focused space. The world doesn't inspire that smell the roses but indeed that is the ticket to energy management and completion of things. Work smart as we call it. We have balance and joy as we do work and hardship. The hardship comes of life and we can be directed enough to balance that with things we love.
I guess that is the wisdom of the late fifties. We are on the back side and do have more time to care for ourselves. We should teach it to teens so they know the law of balance and that they safely create that for themselves. Balance of good and bad, happy and sad, gentle and tough, yin/yang, whatever poles you want to use can be mastered by going for balance so you can rest and create again.
Yes I do a lot for self care now and find it is the right use of money. Massages, facials, chiro and rest is key. These all create rest and rejuvenation. At other times it was other things that inspired oxytocin. We seem not to have time when we are younger yet I remember when we played we had the feeling of rejuvenation. Our culture and lives need to inspire it. It is a wonderful life! You must take moments to enjoy it, savor and rest in it and hold the vibe. It is the elixir to creativity and all other things. It is more valuable than clothes, furniture, art, money, all of it.
Covid gave us all time to balance. We got a moment to realize we like lazy here and there. It is good for our mind, body and soul. Taking care of us, allowing an exhale feels good and allows us to reset and get back in the game. We need to place more value on it rather than considering it selfish and luxurious. We are animals and part of the cycles on this planet. Rest at night and rest when you have worn yourself out is just the right way to operate in health. Knowing what we need and then providing it for ourselves by being or asking another for whatever we need. Learning this oxytocin space of life. My mentor Maria would say, Make love to everything as you move through life.
I am glad I am learning this now and hope to share it with those younger. It is the ticket to less aging, less panic and less illness. Find your safety and then use it as the gift it is. Cultivate feeling safe in the simplest ways for yourself. Feed yourself well, enjoy eating. Move in ways that your body loves and feels good at. Go to bed and really shut down so you can rejuvenate for the next day. Get up and start with filling yourself with whatever could bring in a good day. You know what you need so consider it mandatory and make it be.
Taking care of yourself is the way to survive and feel strong in this world. Cultivate a life that inspires and it will draw you in on the wave. You have to take time to be aware of what that is as it changes. Drop the story of the world for you can see no straight paths exist that work 100% to get some perfect life. This is a creative endeavor where error, crisis, surprise and magic happen throughout. Your never sure what comes next but your can begin each day feeling safe and filled by yourself.
By the ways that work for you. Because you deserve the best life you can dream and you begin with yourself feeling good and capable!
God and Goddess Bless Us All as We Change How We See the World ! It is Magical! We can participate in making it safe by creating our safety within.
Inspiring ways to love your life! Simple writings on how to see life in ways that bring joy, relaxation, oxytocin, health and vitality giggling through life!
|Lyn Ann Hicks
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