I often get reprimanded or criticized for my youthful, childlike nature. I am messy or unordered. I don't do things "right" or efficiently. I have my own topsy survey way to do them. I try new things and find doing things new and fresh are fun and make life more alive. However, to a well ordered, adult as I have been told, I am not grown up in my thinking. I think this is one of my favorite qualities about myself. I love the curious, youthful, wide eyed, innocent way I look at things. I have a very smart side and a very flakey or childlike side for certain.
I find especially now, our youthful whimsical creative way needs to lead us so we can have joy as we do life and to lighten up the field. People feel isolated, annoyed, angry, scared, uncertain and filled with the adult like thinking. I am not saying being alert to what is really going on and having a sense a safety is not foremost. It just doesn't need to be so serious. When I can step away from my problems or issues and see them with curiousity and silliness, it is not so bad, I can find a creative way to walk through it. It is like a brilliance comes from that innocent giggle about it all. Being so lost or so fucked, you have to giggle. Then lightness comes in. Often then so do directions to go.
As we get old it is natural to get more rigid. Arthritis is a disease of criticism in Louse Hays work. In
Tai Chi, it is considered a disease of not moving fluidly thus their exercise is in flow and feeling that, so rigidity is softened. You go, "Oh, this is what flow is like and it is not locked up in opinion and stiff thinking." Getting older we think we know more and indeed we do. We don't have the answers though any more than we did before. We just know to not be so serious, all things pass, calmness and grounding is important. We move slower when we don't know as when we are young we move and move and move. Or at least I did. With age you realize pause is effective.
Now in a new strange world, the ideas of curiosity and wide eyed wonder is a good approach. We know it will all work out somehow. There will be a solution at some point and life is new right now and will be then. We are all more alert and awakened. We are more tuned into our inner self. Maybe that is what it is all about. An awakening of the youthful look at the world that says "Oh my. What can we do to make this better for everyone?" That is expansive and opening. It is good to look to see how we and all can work together at a greater way. Rather than take sides on issues, be open to a third way of listening compassion. Of "Oh well. We don't see eye to eye so lets get to a place where we do." There can always be commonality, we all are breathing if that is the only connect, it is there we do.
To me that was how I felt in youth. I thought the older people didn't get it. I wanted to be part of a better world. In my 20s I was part of a charity for many years and loved that I was making a difference. It felt good to use my energy toward a purpose that helped the world. I did it as an organic grower, a green business and in sharing beauty and health with woman and even water now. I keep looking for a way to add into the world toward a better place. Big or small, it doesn't matter. Joy and participation in giggling and enjoying something is part of lifting the planet.
So I am all for this youthful way. Even if it is annoying with all that comes with it, as I spill things, I drop things, I lose things yet in a bind I have all that is needed. It is an odd way that my character adds to the world. Often teaching others that the coffee maker going all over the counter because I didn't have the lid right isn't the end of the world. I giggling and yes bummed that my coffee will be weak, clean it up and spin it that the counter could of been deep cleaned since it hasn't got its attention lately. The young girl of me that isn't refined or graceful, reminds me nothing is so bad.
Realize that many of us are youth in adult bodies. I would say all are. Especially with survival all around our childlike fears are activated. They too have an innocence as they find their way with their conditions. We all have this youthful, hopeful, curious way at life. I think we are trained to bury it in away as to be more refined as a mature adult. I never quite got it. Maybe others haven't either and the giggle and fun are part of their world often, daily and even hourly. Accepting the fucked up things of life and moving on and through and hopefully together with others is just what is happening.
Honor the youthfulness of yourself and all adults. We don't know any more about this whole mess than we would of before. It is all new, we are part of creating it by our energy so curiously look how to place your energy into all things. We have this reset moment to re-emerge into a strange world with a updated view. We have awakened out of our way that was so we can create a new way. Rather than this or that, we get to a third creative way like a baby of both points of view to a blended one. Youthfulness will help this. Forgetting you know it all and be open in curiousity. This is how this can be changed.
Not all will appreciate you but you will add fun, happy, innocent energy into the world and we all need more of this!
As always, it is important for woman to gather! We fuel when we gather. A magic happens that supports us like no other group. It just is. There is a very important connection that we must cultivate consistently in our lives with each other. We are part of a web that existed before us and will exist long after us between woman. It creates a magic, a youthful charm for us so I encourage this as a huge health practice!!
There are many ways to create tribe with woman. The one I am talking of is the deeper connection we have as woman. The feminine way that in most of the history of the planet, we hung together with the children. We played ands supported each other to nourish as part of our lifestyle.
I recently was asked to start a circle of woman. They were much younger than I, so I felt honored to support them to build a group to empower with. We had our first gather last month at a beautiful farm, Willow Farm in their DoJo for Zen practice. We had so much fun! I forgot the joy I learned from may feminine leaders on the power of woman together. I encouraged all who attended to consider running a circle with their wisdom. I inspired some play with our intuition. We began a magical journey together.
A new friend out here, Brenda Rigley, just published a book called Lady and the Tribe. It is an awesome book on friendship. She goes into some fun detail the dynamics of woman friends. All an inspiration to remind us how powerful we are together. She has a goal to create 1000 new woman tribes. It is the time of Sacred Femininity! I couldn't be more delighted!
So at this odd time in the world, reclaim your power of femininity by gathering with other woman in whatever capacity feels good. We need each other. We run most all things in the world, behind the scenes of course!!. We need to be strong, inspired and supported as this new way of living unfolds. We are the network of support that is just there. Use it. Encourage it. Participate in it. Cultivate woman gathers. It is powerful stuff for us.
IN the end whether we dance, sew, knit, do ritual, sell Silpada jewelry, drink wine, it doesn't matter. That we have a deeper connect, honor our desire for communication and giggle as girls that empowers us. More like a 13 year old slumber party silly that really creates our youthful glow. When that energy is about, you know the Goddess in us is present!
Participate if you can ladies! It is an elixir par excellent!
It has been a harrowing world in many ways. We are ourselves, or surrounded by others, in challenge and the whole health crisis has us disconnected in weird ways. I have found keeping my opinions to myself unless asked is a good strategy currently. Some are born to stand up and hold for a cause and I thank them. I am not one. I like to bring awareness to expanded ways to see things yet in these times none of us as open as before. Being misunderstood, hitting triggers of others, even making choices on what is the right information is different these days.
As I am in a new town with few established connections, I find it more important to observe what is going on. I notice how people feel, what they consider right and stay in the background. I was far more visible in PA. than I am here. I find it to be a good thing as well as an updated version of me. It pays to switch up how you are approaching the world. My mouth and ideas have gotten me in trouble throughout my life. I know I would do well to talk less and listen more. Connection and finding commonality rather than difference important right now!
I do find that the same few things stand the test of all conditions. One is being kind. Offering smiles and simple support through out the day to others known and unknown. Kindness is a great vibe to add to a world in tension. It supports me to feel safe and produces that in others around us. Safety very important to us all. Things feel less safe these days so add into the field of kindness and safety.
I find playing in nature more than ever as a key to health and feeling good. We don't have to worry as much about the "health" conditions and rules of establishments as we inhale clean air. Beautiful colors, changing seasons, fires, pumpkins, fall beauty is just intoxicating. This keeps me feeling passionate and healthy. We find all melts when we are in beauty! Stimulating my senses and enjoying the simple pleasures of nature are inspiring me to hopefullness.
Keep all your connections close. Being in touch with your peps helps no matter how far away they are. I am blessed with angels across the country that reach out to me to see how I am doing. I do the same. It is the wonder of zoom, the phone, face time, whatever you want to use. This connection to a tribe is important when strife is about. Check ins, chats, going out for coffee or walks, all these things remind us that life is good and we are safe and loved.
Move your body to clear out emotions, yours and others. I have not been so active as I was when I was in PA. I had to recover from some adrenal burnout and I have allowed my body to recover. This has been a stretch for me! These days I feel the inspiration to move. My body wants to detox, move the energy, let go of pent up emotions and stress/anxiety energy. Movement is the best way to reset that we often forget. I am not one who does "workouts" but I like to dance, hike, bike, move. I think with the tension high in the world, more movement makes us all feel better. Find ways to feel good in your body! Ways that you feel good are key to clear out energy!
Savoring what good is about! I do find myself really reveling in the simplest of things. The sun shining, the leaves slowly turning, the delicious stew I made. So many small things. A kangen sale. A fun game of pickle ball. Bringing out my favorite winter stuff. Giving away clothes to others as I clear. Sitting quietly with a cup of tea. Always looking for a celebration to have! Very key these days for life is good on many levels if you seek it.
Lastly, I give myself more space than ever. I take my time, listen to my body, rest more and find less intensity nets greater results. I am less reactionary. This helps us all for reaction is such an easy response especially when seems there are sides to every issue. I bite my tounge more and step away. I offer what I can but don't push and dominate like I used too. It doesn't seem like the time to fly forward with great fervor. Yes, get your things done and be dedicated to excellence. Don't push as the old paradigm. It is more of a slow magnetism!
May you find smarter strategies for yourself these days. It is a changing world and the tension is high. We need leaders in collaboration and connecting together. A tall order yet one that only brings in change that is awaiting to come in. It is like a tower moment yet we can add connection, kindness, joy to support a new world where different ideas are welcome to coexist together.
Happy Fall to us all!!
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