We have such expectation of life, our mission, our goals, our relationships, ourselves! No one gets away with doing everything right as our beliefs and minds would see it. Judgement a dangerous thing. Sometimes shit just happens. We make bad choices, we get lazy, we get irritated, we find ourselves not being this great version we want to be. This is part of the human condition. We get tired, we get off purpose with all that comes at us, we just don't preform to our best. It is really no reason to feel so bad as we have been taught!
Allowing ourselves to go through the twists and turns of life is a skill of mastery. We don't really give ourselves permission to be off. We give it to others though. We have allowance for them most times to not be so perfect. Yet when it comes to ourselves, we can be the worse critic and revel in it too much. So my call to writing this is to remind us to be gentler and kinder to ourselves.
I get feeling crappy, down, depressed even sometimes. I get unmotivated, wanting things my way, temper tampering when I don't like what is occurring. I use escapism, illusion, imagination and do stupid things that will not bring me closer to what I want. However, after so much spiritual study, being an initiate and a minister, I realize deeper and deeper that this is just all part of life. It is actually a way to know we are off course or need a rest, an inward direct. The process of this less than wonderful choices just is a reminder that we need to relax and sit for a minute and observe.
We allow these parts of ourselves, these thoughts, behaviors, stories to exist as all the good stuff. We just watch the process of this go by us and often really need to observe more than do anything. "Allowing". We really are not so good at this action. To just allow what is to be. Not have to do anything, work, think but observe what is in going on. If we did this more in life, really observed a bit more, in presence, we can save ourselves from negativity.
Often when we do get through something we consider "bad" or "negative" we eventually get to the place where it just doesn't matter. We move on, we go forward, we forgive or forget. We finally just get moving onto something else. If we could use this strategy of allowing more often, we could get to that in less time. It is not always so easy to just stop, allow, observe and let things go by without having to get so involved. Yet it is a simple strategy not to get more off track by making a mountain out of a mole hill. Practicing this can support and in the long run, it is one of the great strategies I have learned through all this seeking of en-lighten-ment. Just allow what is going on to be going on. I don't necessarily have to participate in side myself with what is occurring or on the outside with what is happening. I can just watch!
We all get off, tired, whiny and just unsatisfied. It is part of the experience here. Making a greater decision that this is part of what is occurring in a less attached way rather than qualifying it as bad, or something to escape. Yes, let us not hang out too long in these states but lets not forget we will get into them. It is not always so helpful to think we have done something wrong or need to change. Sometimes it just is part of this experience here. Letting us know that joy have its balance, strife its renewal, crappy turns into elation. Just states of being here. Not necessarily anything other than that.
Last night and yesterday, I had that cranky, confused, unhappy feeling. I went through doing what needed to be done and wanted to just get home, rest, vegetate, be safe in my yuckiness. I had to remind myself that it was ok. I didn't do anything wrong and let my mind ramble into what was the matter. I just needed to be in low for a minute for whatever reason. Not need to invent anything or dig into my deep conscious and find a solution. The solution is that we get to experience it all here on earth. Yesterday was what we call a low spirit day and it is equally perfect and complete to an elated day. I just allowed it.
I slept so good and then today, I have back my bright, sparkly attitude! I could of tried to understand it. I could of went through my mind making up reasons that I was not so upbeat. I could of went into a trail of lots of negative self talk or took inventory of what wasn't so great about myself. I didn't. I know better. I know that I can just allow my less energetic emotions to be. In doing so, they pass quicker and with less strife. I also got rest, did not much and enjoyed the relax and reset that I feel good now. It is all just states we travel through. We are whole, we experience it all, we need to allow that and be okay with all that rolls through. The resistance, the wondering, the not allowing creates greater havoc and often a longer experience in low.
I invite you to consider practicing with this "Allowing". Especially with our physical and emotional energy states. All is part of the whole. Often the low is just needed to regroup our vehicle of the body. Our emotions are real in the essence that we can feel them and they are right no matter what they are. Maybe not right in how we see the world or why they are around but they feel real. So we let them be and watch them. They disappear like "poof"! We have not been taught so well about this emotional nature and how to surf it. Most often it is just to watch, give recognition and do nothing about it but allow.
I find greater movement through all states with this allowing. Life is more dance like. I can flow easier if I drop out of the minding. Experiencing a greater teacher and opens you to wisdom quicker. Practice this allowing and see how it can support you!
We birth things throughout our life. We are in an evolution and continually in shift toward wiser and more experienced. Nothing ever really goes as we expect and so often crazy things come in that you could never expect that are so perfect. As I grow forward with my business, new life and expanded studies in what I love, I feel like I am in a rebirth. Like a new version of myself is being created through the divine essence that I am.
Birth of a baby takes nine months. In our quick world, we pressure ourselves that if we get an idea or sense of something we should act and bring it in. If we don't do it at hyper-speed, we can beat ourselves up or compare how another did it better or quicker, in greater ways. As I am really embodying this feminine nature that I am, I realize that this hyper-speed outside and mentality is not in alignment with how my spirit wants to work. I have been embodying this femininity so innate in me for years watching it work me and my experience here. Despite learning of this way of myself as a woman 9 years ago, I am still discovering the basics and how it really is another way of doing.
I am in some "challenges" to get things going in my new business direction. I love having the accountability to keep doing small expansion each day for entrepenuers often are solo and appreciate that support of group energy. As I do these challenges I realize this quick speed of things doesn't particularly support the creative muse in me. Creativity doesn't move at speed, it is a slower, richer vibe of timelessness. As I work all these levels to expand myself and ideas, I am realizing the true analogy to the birth of a baby. The baby comes out of the ethers, is its own essence, inhabits the mother, grows and stirs with her support, then comes into the world to be its own expression.
Looking at this new Lyn Hicks expression and what I am to share with the world, I see with new eyes. What I am doing of course, is of me but is coming from a greater spirit that I am into me, embodying me. It is being nourished, drawing on me, my experiences, my wisdom to grow into this new thing that has yet to express. The time that it lies in me, works through the gestation so to speak is very important and speed or rush won't do anything to support it to grow. This cycle, the time it takes is part of it, purposeful and the way it works.
I get settled in realizing this, letting fall away the masculine way of seeing this as do it now and make it happen experience. In production and systems, or if it is a developed idea, yes it just needs the system to bring it in. But I am not to that place yet and am not sure this way will ever support me in creating in a feminine way. There is a time for system but it is not yet. I am embracing, embodying this way of birthing this future that doesn't have rush and timelines on it. In the feminine mysteries, the feminine way of nourishing and the mother, she is just loving in the process and knows the process is and takes what it does. There are not all these stipulations on it, just a nourishing focus to support it's unfolding. The Mother God principle.
We do need more of this energy on the planet. I see the nature of things that have their time and season. I must truly internalize this to support myself fully during this re-creation. I am not changing in some big miraculous way. I am just finding the next way to express myself on the outside. I am the same on the inside. I creatively am gestating how I will next share my bright, caring, wise light to the world in a way of inspiration and support to those that need what I have. There is no rush to this process for when it comes forward in clarity, it will be birthed and then I will not need this time of gestation as I do now.
We don't allow this gestation, this process of transformation the time it needs. Our speedy do it world doesn't support this creative process fully. Those who do create, personally step into this process and shut off or let go of the rules of production to create. They allow the world to spin, others to charge forward and step out of the wheel for a bit so this slower, unfolding can occur authentically.
I share this for all those who are in new creations that yes, it takes it's own time. Our world doesn't support this in ways seen. The big transformation coming is reminding us there is not only production in this world for we have overproduced to waste. There is a nourishing time, a time to enjoy, to play, to support things being created. There is an enough is enough principle and a way of sustainability that we are missing. Our imbalance of how we are doing isn't using all our parts, the creative, slow, nourishing part of life is not supported or being used in balance. This is creating too. This nourishing aspect to all things is being cut short, speeded up and it is not in full embodiment or balance.
Be sure to offer this to yourself. Support your life, ideas, relationships, days with plenty of this nourishing, gestation and watering that the world has yet to truly embody. I certainly am. It comes in as slowing down, pleasure, playfulness, relaxing, reflecting, meditation and just enjoying what is in the moment.
I am in a learning once again on expectations! It is a tricky word and depending how you use it, it is a blessing and curse. When you expect from others rather than anticipate, it gets problematic! Here is my learning most recently and a tool to support you in self awareness.
I love the Gene Keys, if you haven't checked them out, it is a great system just to get your words alone. It shares by your birthday multiple shadows, gifts and mastery of many parts of yourself that I have found to be right on. Fun system with key words. Consider checking it out.
One series of words, key elements of my chart I guess you call it involves expectation! Expectation is the shadow or the challenge to watch out for. Detachment the gift of that challenge, learning not to expect and not get caught up in outcomes. Not so simple. The mastery of it is Celebration or celebrate whatever comes. It is funny these words would be part of my Gene Keys when infact, the beginning of my ministrial blessing also speaks of celebration. That life is a celebration and as I grow, I will know this in every level of my consciousness, realizing all is a celebration. Pretty much the same thing principle.
As I learn this challenge, I must say it is hard to not get caught up in wanting others to do what you want, join you as want them to, play, collaborate, whatever it is. We do as humans expect things from others not in a bad way but often just thinking we are on the same page and we are not. Then comes the disturbance. When we realize others act differently, mean different things for the same words, do what they want. It is important to learn this clearly for I want to do what I want. Yet how often is there disagreement with what one thought from the other?
I walk through it again, still playing with whom I call wild boy, I was perplexed last night again at his behavior. He is such great learning for we are sooooo different and I really must pay attention, understand, be open and communicate. He not so good at any of that. I do see this shadow of myself though, where I make my own mess out of overthinking things. How many times do we do that and will continue to be caught in the imaginary tale in our head when truly nothing is happening. We are just minding and creating all kinds of conversations in our head. Such ridiculous inaction!
However, as I was in it, I just realized you can't fight this bear of mind. I tried to watch it and observe knowing this has nothing to do with wild boy, it is one of my buttons or patterns with others. I tried to do the "who cares" which can often reset me. Nothing really worked so well and sometimes it is just like that. That is karma and patterns. They are no easy deal.
I did realize "here I am again in the "expectation" shadow learning to get to detachment". Sounds so easy when you are not in it or over it. I saw this pattern of mine and tried to switch to anticipation, seeing what I wanted to occur as well. All tools through our minding. Nothing worked but finally sleeping. When I awoke, all was gone like magic. I could easily say who cares and keep going to the next thing on this fine day. Truly fascinating how this vehicle, our bodies roll through life. Never sure how it all fits, how we surf from our mental to emotional, to physical then spirit. The key to align all and why I like these gene keys to support me to lift if I am in a pattern. Awareness the ticket to clear these negative habits. It may take many times but each time supports the incremental change.
So play with this one for I am sure you will run into it. Some days it is easy to detach from what is going on and celebrate whatever comes. Other days we get really caught up in wanting what we want. Remembering that when you are in expectation, detach is the gift of that. Learning that we adjust and keep going rather than get disturbed by others choices allowing freedom to do what they want. Then the highest state of detachment is celebration of all that comes in. Knowing that some times what you want is not as good as what occurs. Rising above to know 20/20 hindsight brings in clarity.. We see why certain things didn't occur. Living from that place as often as possible will clearly support detachment.
Just thought I would share what I find to be a good set of words, keys when we are in expectation. A pathway out where you could call in the other ideas to support you through, rather than just complain on how it is not going the way you expected. Not that you won't have to walk through some feelings about it which is important as well. Learning of yourself is the greatest gift of relationship and the only way to see many sides of yourself. Expectation is a big problem in relationships when things are not clear. Finding tools to detach and in fact celebrate a good practice. Even if you don't and can't get out of it, in spirit you are always learning. May look like you missed the challenge when in fact you don't. You are always learning there and this plane not a good indicator of progress always.
So watch out for those expectations! They can get you in some hairy places! You get to go though some shadow of yourself and love it anyway!!! Learn though, then it is worth the understanding.
The greater my experience of life, the more I realize present awareness is truly the ticket to loving your life! You have to love all that it is, right here, right now, in all its beauty, abundance, craziness, confusion, strife, challenge and adventure. Just love whatever it is, in this moment!
I am really opening into my new life after divorce, struggle to re-creation. Reflecting on what it is I know, am and want to share in this world. I feel magical most days. I feel mean other days and frustrated with things. Bewildered, confused plenty and over indulgent too. I have come to realize this is life which contains it all. We are not wrong or uncool if we are a mess. There is no perfection as they portray it yet it is all perfection in a different way.
I find magic by loving all that happens even if I am saying so in a pissed off tone. It isn't about loving just the lovely things, but loving the ugly ones too that allows this whole experience to be magical. We need the villains, the drama, the unpleasant to have the heros and saviors and bright shining ones!
Today as I write this, is one crappy day. I awoke after a restless night, had digestive problems extreme, felt toxic and sick. My brothers both in a Hail Mary procedure to support my very sick brother. I got the hourly update from one brother on this toxic process of my other. Depressing information. Fortunately, a meeting I had was rescheduled for I was not into collaborating. I lollygagged in a bewildered, odd way all day. It was low, yucky at times. As fate would have it, a silly friend unexpectedly showed up for minute. I was laying in bed midday kind of crying and listening to a healing meditation so I jumped up and put on lipstick to entertain. Yikes but thanks for the diversion! It was just a mismosh! I had productive ideas of how to promote being a magical woman, ate almost 3 biscottis to illness and drank way too much coffee, (decaf atleast).
Despite it all, the low sickly vibe of the day, I embraced that this was my state of being and loved it anyway. Instead of not feeling the crap, using escapism of sorts by doing something other than roll with the mess, I just participated in it. I did what I could. I flowed with what was. I went from one thing to the next with no plan. I ordered my second bedroom in a fog, did all kinds of random things in my discombobbled state. I embraced it. Went through the emotions, tears, laughter, brilliance and self indulgence. I just lived it exactly as it was and as it flowed.
I still feel a bit blah, with a itchy rash on my chin, writing while sitting on my big bed when I should just sleep, yet somehow, I love my life. I love this dark kind of day too. I can only embrace the high joy and ecstasy I have because I embrace this unloveliness. In it there was a friend who made me laugh, I spilled creamer all on my stove and down in it which was challenging to clean but I just had to laugh. Of course, I made a huge mess and then had to clean it for these are the things of hard days. I imagine it could smell tomorrow when I cook! But I kept flowing, being open, receiving of whatever was to come today and make due.
We always forget that the strife is a contrast. It makes joy feel really good if you have felt really bad. You have to be creative to find the silver linings and be imaginative to giggle at big mistakes. You have to be okay with yucky states. They are part of us, we feel pissed, throw ourselves pity parties, get lazy and can be downright nasty in our heads with annoyance or frustration. These are all part of our lives and to love it all is to be more present and neutral about the mess.
There were a few times I tried to see if a state shift was necessary but every time I did, I just knew it was to be one o those days so just embrace it fully. Life is just a drag some days. There is no bad about it or way to shift your feelings. You need to process this yuck and be okay with it. I am ok with it. I embrace my low days too. They give me a chance to just be and not be "anything else but my human condition. It kind of feels good to just love it. To not judge it or want to escape it, just be in the muck and mire knowing it will be different the next day. Unless I carry it forward, it is gone. In experiencing the beness of things, you don't. You complete it as it is. You move on, let go, know it is just part of this planet and that everyone goes through this.
The key to it all is to be alright with it. That is why I say love your life. I love my life as it is. Filled with it all. In loving it all, it seems okay that it has mess in it. I am not trying to make it look like this or that. Or pretend I have myself all together every moment. Or pressure myself to get happy quick. I just roll through and find humor where and when I can. That makes the less pleasant days loveable. Yes, allowing, being present to what is with no wondering why, rolling through the "shitty" things and getting to the end with a chuckle. Yes, I do love my life. I love all of it. And that is the magic right there. Love it all!!
A spell, intention with great power! And today, I feel energized again! Here is a writing I got in my email this morning that offered the same idea!
"The prime purpose at a physical level is to maintain your health for as long as possible, but there is another core purpose built into us - to evolve. For a human being evolution means creative uniqueness. We are each born with a creative purpose that no other human being carries. If you are to release your true creativity into the world, you must meet your own dark side. In other words, you must at some point face your deepest fear of death.
To be total in the sense of this Gift means to live without allowing your mind to dictate your life. This is life lived for the moment, in the full knowledge that life purpose can only be found in the present moment rather than the distant future.
Whereas Totality means to live life to the utmost, Immortality means to die into the everlasting moment. To do this, your sense of identity and separateness must first die, leaving only life in its place. Once there is no localised centre of awareness, there is no death because there is nothing to die. Only consciousness remains, moving from one form to another endlessly."
- The 28th Gene Key, the Shadow of Purposelessness, the Gift of Totality and the Siddhi of Immortality
I am never good at the elevator speech for what I do has no current words to describe the process. Perhaps pleasure coach then that conjures all types of professions! I have learned great veins of wisdom in the health/wellness field so how I use them is multifaceted. If there was one way to describe it I would say energy management through pleasure. I show you how to work with your energetic state so you can feel more joy, power, happiness and positive vibe. This rejuvenates the body, renews, cleanses, all things health and beauty . It is a matter of self awareness so maybe you could say I share that.
Most don't know they are needing what I know for there are not common words about it. I assist others in tapping into their emotional energy which is the movement and power in this world. It stregthens the intuitive nature which is the wisdom par excellent. You can think all you want but with no action emotion, it is just an idea. Supporting others to move in the world in a more playful, graceful, productive way is what I do. Most people do not put play and productive in the same sentence and that is ludicrious!
In creating greater states of pleasure, relaxation, small doses in your day, you allow your body to reset and rejuvenate. That is the way to manage energy. If we are in constant stress, we will feel tired, overwhelmed, unclear, behind the gun so to speak. To relax, have pleasure, recharge, rejuvenate, clear and refresh are the ways to fuel yourself. There is no other way! It is not hard to shift and balance the body more though out our day but it does take awareness and an understanding of the body, cortisol and oxytocin. Just knowing what our body feels like in oxytocin is enough to allow you to switch, create health practices and turn it all around. This is my gift!
I share the most about femininity for I am a woman and understand the blight, misuse of a women's body at this time. I was not using my body correctly even though I did health as we are taught. We are using more masculine energy to operate which kills our body, our energy and emotional nature so we feel unfulfilled. it is part of the time that women are rising for they are not using their innate ways so they can't fully thrive.
To thrive as a woman is different than a man. Our core, base needs are different so operating in a world of success with a way that suits men's body, with not fully satisfy woman, support her body or her passion. Woman could have all the success they want and still feel like something is missing. That is what I hear all the time. They are exhausted, tired, overworked and needing something. They are often not sure what. Understanding energy, the emotional nature and how to flow in their body is the answer.
I am to be a Clinical Homeopath. I love this art for it is based on energy medicine and healing your emotional state or atleast managing it. Once you can get awareness of your emotional state and use something to support it, the world changes and so does your attitude. Most illness comes from a mental or emotional state that we are chronically in. There is science to this like a worrier will end up with ulcers. This fits in so well with my work to inspire people to tap into their emotional nature for it is a great power, the intuitive nature stems from it. So Clinical Homeopathy supports that path to self awareness and health, energy management.
i share eastern arts, Tai chi and Persian dance to support flowing states that bring oxytocin states of relaxation through movement. I share education and practices on how woman can find these states through mundane tasks they are already doing. I will share Clinical Homeopathy to support this connect with the emotional nature and healing of it. I awaken others inutuition through these two paths for they are more alive to their emotional nature. Again, in creating greater states of pleasure, relaxation, small doses in your day, you allow your body to reset and rejuvenate. This creates greater health and beauty!
I also inspire others to play in nature for it is the great oxytocin healer. I play with organic flowers for it is my creative art and keeps me engaged in nature. . These things I share are the ways you become a magical being or a be beautiful, thriving woman! There is no easier, quicker path!
Know your emotional state.
Play with your emotional nature so you can manage it to high vibe and hear your intuition!
Use your creative way with all things.
Learn how to be in more oxytocin throughout the day!
This is how to be Magical!
Self development is about seeing what is really going on. We love to romance things and use our mind to logic our way into places that we know inside somewhere are not our true expression. Patterns, beliefs we were raised with, ideas of how we want things to be allow us to live in illusion of what is really going on. This plane of 3 dimensions is called a school and Maya or Mara, the great illusionary kingdom.
We know things we thought yesterday, today we don't believe anymore. Our experiences shape what we believe and how we operate. It is ever changing, growing and we are becoming. So how do you see your way through to truth or the truth of the moment? We need time to look and reflect. Usually it shows up as dismay or disturbance in our lives. Something isn't right and it calls us to its attention. That is where we work to uncover our true nature. It is learning in the sense we experience things and we decide that we don't want them anymore. So we see how we are creating them. What silly belief or limited view is blocking full vision. How are we messing with ourselves and not being authentic? Then how do we reorder or rework it. Unfortunately our lives don't have alot of room in it for this reflect or stillness. Yet to have the best life, we must make it part of our lives.
I find I am often uncovering the same beliefs over and over, deeper and deeper, in yet another area in my life where that block is working. It is the onion unlayering we hear of. Often the same aha moment just richer, wider, more expanded and deeper at the root. So much of our illusion is created when we were small and didn't quite understand the world as we do today. We created these weird pictures of the world that today we just need to grow up. Nonsensical unconscious. It is unconscious, not known. So we bring the light of consciousness to rework it.
Since it was created when we were small we stacked experience on top of experience and created these tangles over time about what is real in the world and ourselves. I find it kind of funny for it is a ball of unwinding. You don't always have to do it consciously and know though, that is where spiritual light can just untangle it. Intention the power not mind or understanding. It is how we are set up so prayer, chatter with others, meditation, these things have a power that can support and we don't necessarily have to know or understand. It is good to have a way to develop your spirit so this spirit of you can clear some things up to for it knows the game here. This wiser part of us knows and can support us for we are not always in connect or using it for our lives.
I call them lucid moments when suddenly I see what is happening. I am not in the emotional story, it is like being above it and the plot so clear, the mess so evident, the solution easy. Through self development or uncovering our spirit, we can have these supportive moments come forward more often and in the areas we need. It isn't like a systematic or set way this occurs. It is more that we have the intention to be our real best selves as our direction, we work it and then many magic things can occur. I am not sure how to explain it but through my process to express my true spirit, unfoldment comes.
It is not easy for we are shifting an illusion and it is in an area that has disturbance going. Yet it is clearing up a challenging part of our life thus ourselves. Another and another will come for as I said it is the plane of learning. It is ok. That is what is going on here. So we flow with it, make tracks, develop our connect to our spirit more each time and sail for a bit in shining
. Then another change or wind or occurance, unbalance comes forth and we do the clearing up of things again. Simpler it becomes, yet deeper it is. That is why we call it Light! We bring in the Light to areas. We eventually get the light on it and we clear up. But all that new light works us to find some more dark that has to be lit up and cleared. This is what is happening. Each time we become more of ourselves, more light filled and more aware of how we create.
The good news is our power of true spirit does get to be in greater control. When that happens, more magic and synchronicity, serendipity, coincidence shows up and life has a lighter feel. it is a worthy thing this creative self development. I inspire you to be involved in this as consciously as you can. When you are, miracles occur everywhere and THAT makes life much more joyous. Pain is part of here but so is joy. For me finding my spirit and connecting as well as expressing it is how I get to have more joy here among the pain!
We clear consciously for a lighter view. It is happening anyway so may as well use it all for upliftment!
We all have our own way to do things yet there is a described way to do business, to do this and that. Everyone acts like you should do it your own way but how many times have you and someone rolls in with criticism?? I have had that happen my whole life. Others feeling the need to improve me and the system I use. "Why do you do it that way Lyn? Or how is that going to work? "Wanting me to offer some science that has proof or fits in with preferred practices. Well..... it just isn't the way things work for me!
My whole life I have listened, tried to blend my style with the way of things. I have attempted to shift to the way it works and guess what? It never works for me!!! FINALLY, I am going to full force do life the way that feels right and perfect for me! It is still a challenge with the opinions and concepts of others who seem to think they can improve my method or don't understand how my way will lead me right. Yet I have realized through my experience that I can accomplish best when I use my own magical way.
I have no real science to it other than that it works. Creatives roll through the world differently. There is a different pace or timing we use. It is whimsical, rhythmic, appears not to be work, flows in an un-syncopated way. It is not a task master, logical route. It is more like a swirl that flows in many directions at once but leads to the same point as the other. There is a focus, a plan that is more lose yet directed. It is just how it works for me. It looks like a mishmash but out of it comes great production.
I need to look at tasks from a playful angle or i won't want to do them. If I am not all on board fully, I don't give my best and then I am doing things half throttle. I am realizing how to work with myself to get the best results. It goes against the systems I have been taught. It looks like I am not working. Many get annoyed at how I operate for I get results and make it look like fun! I would tame myself down, try to be more solemn doing things, quiet up, get serious, all those things that just aren't my nature. Why? Because our society expects a certain way of being and we do get shunned if we don't fit the standard. It just is what it is.
This new age, the creatives will get their place. I may not get to see it fully but it is the way the world is going. Why? Because to get the best selves of everyone, the individual path must be honored. There are no cookie cutter people or true said paths to anything. Give 4 people a task and 4 ways will be created. We are given the gift of creative mind to solve issues in unique, fun ways that are endless. The evolution of this creative mind is the step coming forward. It is a more magical, exciting path! New ways, easier methodologies, out of the box roads are being forged before our eyes. Our world needs this for a whole humanity to get along and solve together.
We are becoming more aware of the greater whole we are. As that expands, ways to work together in harmony will take creative, unusual paths that have never existed. So we need all to be their best self so we can get the best work out of them. All the individuals make the whole and each has a one of kind way offering their unique mix to it. So we need them in that unique power so they can add their piece to the solution. We need that or we will not find the answers. Honoring the individual way is paramount.
At this time it is the initiators, innovators, inventors that are leading into this way. We have set methodologies that are agreed upon that effect us from stepping out in our individuality. Peer pressure or pack mentality scares us to step out for ridicule and criticism comes at us. At some point, the magical creator within us can stay tamed no longer. It must express and be no matter what others think. It is a force, the uniqueness we came here to share. I am embracing this part of me and supporting others to do the same. We will reach a tipping point where more will find their power in this than the trying to fit in to the sameness mentality.
I am doing a 90 day "challenge" and doing it my way. I am considering it an expansion of self rather than competitive project. I do not thrive on challenge. I learn from them but I certainly don't want to create anymore than the world throws at me. I make money in ways that have no rhythm. When I need things, some project comes in. I did a wedding this fall and 2 days before it, the bride added another 30 centerpieces! That is unheard of but at that moment in time i needed a couple thousand dollars and guess what, it cost that to create her day. How could I have seen that coming? Or planned it? Synchronicity, serendipity, all those things come in out of plan. I wander more about in the world and things just show up in the oddest ways. I find myself in places wondering why I am there and suddenly in comes the reason and it is perfectly something I was doing or needed.
This to me is the magical way to live. This is why I teach others to be magical. Not like some dark magician creating manipulation. Like a force of creativity that flows with the larger wave of life, allowing the greatness to participate. We are not in full charge but going in our direction fully. Then all the things about us can move and fall into place. It is like we are the director of ourselves to stay true and the rest is happening and we fit into it with this more open presence.
So I inspire us all to do it our own way. We need all the magical creators to integrate this greater experience we are in. If we do not allow this creativity that we have as individuals to express, it creates shadows pieces in us and plays in destructive ways. That is our shadow. Our unique way that the world has asked us to hide to fit in. A life of this has causes us to be addicts, do hidden behaviors, be less integrated and authentic. Then we beat ourselves up for doing these "wrongs". Yet that force that causes these destructive behaviors is the very magic that just wants to be it's unique self. It is quite a quagmire!!
Meanwhile we are "medding" out this great wonder we are. Hiding it. Pretending we are this or that in very subtle ways. It is just how the world is set up at this time. Yet it is opening and I am a force to support this greater way. This honor of the individual and uniqueness. There is some really cool magic out in this world when you start to open and work in this way. The old methodology is missing it for it is too limited in its vision and scope!
This is how my magical self sees it. I inspire you all to take yet another look at yourself and the world and find your own, magical way to see it. Drop the limits, the proposed way and expand into your own way. It is greatly needed! Life is way more fun too!! You can be open in your expression and this magic force in you has great power to create. Take it out of the dungeon and play with it!!
I came upon a personal crisis that had to do with money. This is a big fear to many and we have long term patterns regarding this. I have worked to shift my thinking on abundance of wealth on all levels so this was a true test. We all get afraid when we feel lack or don't see a solution to any challenge. Being a single woman, just getting my own place which is a stretch financially, creating a new career, I am definitely in the bold move club. I knew it was the next step of empowerment so went for it knowing that sometimes you just leap and see if your spirit of faith and trust supports you.
I am reaping the many benefits of my own space but was challenged when expected money didn't flow in. I had a back up plan so I thought, "I can do this." Then Monday morning, the back up plan had an unusual occurrence that made it not work. Normally, I have a large cash stash but the move has it a tad low. I went into panic, fear and the usual self questioning that occurs in pattern especially in crisis. I was smart enough to notice and observe and thought, "I was through with this wasn't I?" I was being tested to my resolve, I knew that and my being didn't want to go into the pattern of fear. I redirected my thought quickly and knew I would be over this in a few days. I felt better but my mind started frantically searching for a solution.
When frantic is around even in your mind, you are still in panic so I decided to use my tools. First I held my finger, a Jin Shin technique for fear to calm your nervous system. Then I decided to meditate to see if solution could come in through connecting with my highest self or atleast calm me down. Earilier a wealthy friend had mis-texted me and I was kind of annoyed for it was meant for another. During meditation, I realized this was no accident for he was wealthy, I was feeling money pressure. Hmmm! I stepped into his energy field of money and felt, i got this. I pretended I was him, felt being a billionaire and suddenly, my issue seemed small. This is a power of using the imagination. A clue as to how to get above what was appearing as a panic.
This shifted me to calmer waters and I thought,"I have all day to find a solution and truly believed one would come". I also shared my fear with others knowing that help comes from others in advice, support or often just from naming your fear. Later in the day, a solution came in, one offered support. A part of me wanted to have some miracle greater come in, where I did it all by myself. I had to redirect and instead of feeling bad for needing assistance, consider this works. Not how I wanted something different rather see the solutions appeared. Give up the " oh you need help and that makes you weak "thinking! I have helped many others and sometimes that is the miracle. God works through others. It was a solution for the moment . I relaxed.
Then along came yet another event that made the financial situation stressed again. " Your kidding me!!" An error from a supplier created an added layer to the scene. I started to go back into the fear. I recovered quickly though, for the stuff I did earlier, remembering my power. Remembering, I always make it somehow. I just kept saying you can do this. Even though they seemed like words, I just kept saying them. I kind of giggled at it though, saved one minute then challenged again. I consider this is the work of the Lord o Karma! Can you really keep above your pattern?
It was kind of funny for I saved the first situation, felt good and then along came another. It was truly a lesson in watching myself, my emotions, thinking and physical sense. Crisis is like that, it keeps coming and that is why it is a crisis. Really being aware and observing yourself is truly the path. Although you start in your repetitive thinking, you can stop it sooner, use tool after tool til you calm down. Then you don't ruin your week just maybe a few hours. You also stop the energy of swirling down before yet another thing comes in. Energy is like that, it attracts to the same. That's why we often run into slew of bad things. The energy collects about the same energy.
Crisis is filled with cortisol and adrenaline. it really effects our physical state which effects our mental and emotional state. At moments we can be really clear, like in an emergency which is what adrenaline is for. But only for a bit. When we extend it to hours or days, we start to get foggy, confused, tired, agitated and disempowered. It can become a chronic state of how we move and it is not clear so solution seems far off.
I am still finding my way through this untangle but it was averted, my pattern shifted sooner and I walk through the rest of the details. Nobody likes to challenge themselves in any area. This could of been a health crisis, an emotional crisis, any of them all call us to step into our power. Money is the perfect one for me as I am stepping into a different level of financial responsibility.
Later that day, I found a misplaced $100 bill. Cash makes me feel powerful. It was also another layer to this "crisis". How could I lose a big bill? Well after all this work, shifting my state, calming down, suddenly it appeared. That chuckled me. It gave me this surge of power. Yes you got this girl! Step by step we ascend. It really is a mental game and playing with energy, mind and action. I did it. Found my stash to begin again, solved my issue, had a playful giggle at my fear and danced in celebration for the $100 bill.
Use shifting tools, (Jin shin, Mediation, flower essences or oils could of worked, as many others)
Share with others
Be open to support on whatever level
Keep your eye on solution or outcome.
Dance that you shifted and got through!
Onto the next thing! And blessing to the support of others!
As I journey through continually learning of my body, especially as a woman for we learn not much about the feminine body, I find that gentle movement and treatments are greater support to me. I find my body more powerful and lean through this honor of its flow and flexibility. It grows my power of shape with greater grace and ease. I am thankful for I am not into push or hard. I have tried it and proved to myself that it is not good for my beautiful body.
I got a treatment yesterday of Feldenkrais therapy which I think is the most fascinating thing for building your body and learning of it. I share Tia chi health, dance and other Eastern arts so I am educated in flow for the body and how it effects our health more powerfully through gently working with it. This therapy yesterday was so educational in experiencing the power of how connected all parts of the body are. The greatest learning was that I was not standing in my feet fully and that was glitching my body up at the neck because of my riding my feet to lightly. It was amazing that as she worked on my feet, showing me how using the edges was not using the power of my full foot and energy or power. As she showed me the way I was riding and the way I could use all of my feet by grounding, I could feel the energy clear through my body to my head.
Standing tall, fully in your feet, feeds the whole body with energy. Grounding it is called, using the support of the earth and the blessed full feet we have, electrified me with energy. Filling my legs fully powered all the way up, opened my heart and shoulders, expanded my rib cage, relieved my neck and widened me in a good way.. To feel this while laying down was truly amazing. I had to share this magic of grounding in your feet so you to could observe yourself to see how to feel greater power and energy in your body.
Grounding, standing on the ground, feeling its support is something I know. We hear it, we do it but to experience the power that we are missing by not fully standing in our feet was amazing. We don't fully engage our legs which causes us to use our hips and shoulders in less open ways, creating constriction and often pain. It was so simple that I was awestruck at how just simply becoming aware of my feet fully engaging with the earth could electrify the energy in my body. You hear to ground and maybe you do that but to really feel the full power of it was new to me in this way. A body presence is necessary and a subtle sensing of all your parts. Indeed this simple learning and adjustment in how I embody my body has energized me today in a new way.
We do these things yet don't know the power to the subtly of presence in our bodies. When we begin to use our senses fully and pay attention on these other levels, we can have more power by not doing much of anything but correcting inhabiting our body. I am continually surprised by how I can keep learning of these most simple body mechanics and be more powerful and energized. It is an amazing learning that inspires me to continue on my mission to support others to tap into their bodies, their senses so they too can have more pleasure and joy, power in their bodies. It is not about doing more or strengthening through movement always but just being fully in your body with all consciousness. Retraining how we ride in it.
Ease and grace is my motto. Why? So I do it, so I enjoy it, so I can find health and beauty for I engage and understand how and why. This was so powerful. I don't know how I was walking before but I can feel myself stand straighter, glide really about rather than tip toe topsy turvy. I never would of gotten such an understanding of how to walk, how the use the ground, how to "ground" as it is called in a new way and stall tall. I feel my whole body, the power in my legs, the opening of my rib cage, heart, the widening of my shoulder and, ease in my neck. Truly amazing therapy and learning.!!
So glad I am curious to check out all these healing arts!! Great Goddess Play!
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This is the topic for all woman!! Men seem to have a better handle on taking care of themselves and their needs. As a stay at mom for most of my life, I was used to other care and the catch all for most of the community. I was available for sick kids, airport runs, hospital visits, flat tires, all kinds of odd emergencies. I enjoyed being the grounder and one available. After my daughter grew up and left, it was apparent my role was different and being me in a new way was up for creation.
When I became a minister, my goal was to learn self ministry, a very important part of ministry. I knew how to care for others and often over cared in ways or atleast put others needs first. I believe this is part of being a woman, nourisher, our innate role that does delight and fuel us. However, with the onset of being in the workforce, trying to run a home and take care of others, self care has dropped out and near impossible. We don't seem to know how to do this or give ourselves enough. Then we get upset that no one cares for us but we act limitless. We need to share what that is and often, it is something we can only give to ourselves. This is a big quagmire for femininity at this time. We hear about self care, we try to do it yet we often fall short of doing it in a way that fills us enough.
I was awakened to how, the true value and energy from self care by Woman Masters in Femininity. It is a continual journey that I find so delicious! It is being given permission to manage myself first and then I have the most power. We hear these words but when you really practice this daily, it is the most expanding, sensual experience that just keeps getting better. Your Shakti, this well of energy within us is blocked by our current thinking and culture. When we learn of this energy well, begin to do the things that activate it that are easy, natural and fun for us, we have boundless energy to serve and support. It is truly a magic teaching yet so present in us all as woman.
Learning of our body, how it flows, what oxytocin is and how to get in this state bring us health easily. We are cruising in the wrong nervous system most of the time so we begin to train our body through easy ways of being that we love as woman. In fact, if it is hard, it is not healthy for woman. Just is. The no pain no gain is not for woman! It is a masculine principle and we are so entrenched with. It must be hard or we can't find true health is wrong for woman. Our bodies are pleasure vehicles of sensuality. Pain kills our sensory connection and the connection to our gift of intuition.
Yep, and people will battle me on this. Science will prove it soon enough. Why wait when it is the truth of our body and has been part of our sacred femininity for all time. We just don't have the feminine community that we have spent thousands of years in over the last 75 years so the knowledge has been lost to us. The wisdom is always around and in this time of "divine feminine" the truths, the health, the practices, the stories, the Goddess way is resurrecting back to our world and culture. You may think against it or feel it is not for you but you are a woman and this is your heritage, the wisdom of being a sacred woman. This art and magic has been lost yet it is our true nature.
I often wonder when people tell me, "You like Goddess and I just don't buy into that as a woman". It is almost like an oxymoron. Really? There is a masculine, Father God and feminine principle, Mother God, in this earth existence. Two poles. How could you not embrace that which you are? We are woman and Goddess is the divine representation of divinity in feminine form. What is there to reject or not buy into? It is the lost wisdom of woman that creates all this odd thinking and competitive disturbance among woman that are truly the great collaborative nourishers of all things.
We all do things our own way and each is perfect. I embrace the wisdom of self care, Shakti, Blessed Mother wisdom, Persian Red Tent knowledge that we had longer than not. As you learn it, it is amazingly simple and delightful for it is all about femininity and if your a woman, this stuff is in our DNA. Self care, the right kind, understanding our body and selves as dynamic change and will o wisp beings we are is the quickest way to health and a magical life experience. I was blessed to be open, challenge my cultural untruths, play with these ideas and find it to be so transforming I have made it my purpose!
So ladies, I invite you to investigate and participate in daily self care! Little by little you learn to honor yourself in ways that delight. It is all about delight and pleasure with woman. If it does that, it gives your health and juicy essence. It is that simple. We play with life, we make love to life, we are the creatures of nourishing. We do it for others and the power you receive as you do it to yourself is 10 fold! You can help so many others in a more enjoyable way by reversing the order of care! Like magic! The nourishing forces of Blessed Mother, of Goddess. of Mother Nature all support us for it is our purpose and gift.
I encourage you to check out this Goddess, Divine Feminine, Red Tent Wisdom or Captivating Ideas!! It is magic and just part of who we are! I co-host a day retreat quarterly at The Room at Meadowbrook called "How Lovely to Be Queen!" A whole day of self care practices, hour long Jin Shin treatment, self help, tai chi health, good food, inward time, dancing, numerology, lots of stuff. We only have at most 9 gals for it is intimate fun. You walk away after a full day of this with an understanding of how to nourish yourself furthermore and a plan you created. It is a delicious day and the results create magnificent health!!
Check out this self care study!! It is the most powerful transformation to woman, divine connection and health, beauty and magnetism I have found!! It is fun, playful and fulfilling on all levels!! Ooolala!
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