I can so feel the energy of rebirth this year! Maybe it is where I am in my life, the changing of the guard from one way to another really settling in. Ending a marriage of a long time and regrouping is not done in one year or two. It has been my experience that it is quite a journey. Letting go of so much, patterns, ways of being, identities, feelings of all types, friend circles and your reference points. All this letting go takes time and filters through all your being. it is certainly a process and I have really allowed it to take the time it needed. Finding my way to newness had to begin with opening parts of me by this letting go.
In many spots there was a void, an opening that I wanted to fill but it wouldn't quite fill at first. Now with this spring it feels like many things are flooding in to fill the void that are most perfect for me. That waiting, that anticipation was challenging at times. Now it seems I have rolled through it to where the new things more in alignment with this new life I have been creating are showing up. These transitions in life longer than we desire yet purposeful and filled with divine timing.
I feel at times, I am at the gate of heaven where you get to review your life, the things, people, experiences that occurred flashing before me to look one last time as I leap into this new budding flower I am to be forth. Very key to rebirth, a final let go of those things that were hard to make peace with and had to come forward a few times for me to review them until the light of goodness and right perspective came forward. Maybe it is more like a neutral perspective that I was seeking so the release is effortless rather than painful.
At this point in rebirth, as with the earth revving up, I don't carry anymore sadness, resentment, hurt or dissatisfaction with what was and how it played out. Things are complete and I am settled with that. It took a bit of effort to get here. I had to go through loss, sadness, wishing things could be different yet I believe that is part of the honoring all the good that was. It is natural to long or want to keep the good with us. It truly is, it is inside and it is what makes me this version of myself today. I find myself crying now more in such gratitude for the experiences and people I have had and do have in my life. It is the most exquisite space that I can only consider it to be a major rebirth. It is really an uncoiling of something deep inside that is coming into expression and all the old negative stuff is just falling off effortlessly.
I am finding how I am different than I thought in many ways and different than others that I thought I was so alike. It is not a bad difference or something that keeps me separate from others but an honoring of my unique way rather than trying to fit or suit what I thought I was. It is a beautiful discovery of my own essence of truth rather than some ideas I had of who I really was. Truly a Lotus Project as my book title describes. Growing up through the muck and mire of life to the unfolding of the petals of the lotus flower that opens its core center to the sun. I feel my own unique, exquisite bloom for this time is coming forth and is far more fragrant, beautiful, big and magnetizing than I ever dreamed.
The differences feel good. We are taught this clan mentality and I do love my tribe and having one. It is more like finding my own sparkle in the diamond. My own face on that diamond that puts me as part of the whole yet I have my own sweet part that feels so beautiful. Holding my own small side of the magic stone. It makes me even a greater part of the unity for I am seeing my special way I add to it that only I could. Proud that I have my unusual gift that only I could sparkle and add, loving my special place that is all my own. Really a falling in love with me and my mission, my message here.
We all are naturally in a rebirth each spring. Another year, cycle, season comes upon us in life where we step forward in a zesty way, breaking the ground to grow. I inspire you to really feel and revel into this process happening outside with nature and inside as all spiritual paths. The rebirth, the ascension, the resurrection all about us in and out. May you use this as a wonderful time to love who you are, find a greater expression of yourself and savor that you are here, that you are needed and your most exquisite wonder is being called forward into being.
We need each one to be their real, true, authentic self as the world evolves. Join me in this celebration of yourself! May your awakening be rich, deep, transforming and ecstatic! Mine sure is!!
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These past weeks so many old things, people, situations have come forward out of no where. It can be perplexing for we think, "Why is this here, I thought that was done?" Part of the weirdness is what they call Mercury Retrograde. When this occurs, you are brought forward these things externally and internally that you can upgrade. All the "re" things like reflect, recallibrate, release, rest. It is a recollection of parts of yourself that you gave away, looked at wrong, reshape, reorder so it is a slower pace for this to occur.
Slow down, look at things that come forward and look at them again in a new way. Letting go is often looking at a situation differently, a new perspective, collecting what you learned and leaving behind the negative feelings, the hard of something to the juice you learned. I had old friendships come forward that I needed to look at differently. I can take the fun and good of it and realize that maybe those folks just aren't part of the future movement. I also see the relationships that are good for me now and how I need to cultivate these friends.
I even had an old love interest come out of the blue to reconnect possibly. It was astonishing for he ditched me. I was surprised he had the tenacity to come forward but I took it all in humor. I didn't need to feel hurt for what occurred for it wasn't right. I found it humorous and enjoyed the look at the funny we had. i felt the kindness that had been there and sent forth blessing to his life forward. No need to hold any crap in myself about something that obviously wasn't meant to be. I can claim the joy in friendship of it all.
I have had to put boundaries out in so many ways. Clearly putting forth what I want or need in situations for me to participate fully. It is so important to be clear in what you want and to tell others. No one can read minds. We think people know by our innuedo and they don't. We all create own stories on what we see so make it clear what you want.
Feel the power of letting go! It is such a freeing experience. Don't keep going over the same things. I know the mind likes to do that but quiet it up for the energies are here to move beyond! We don't need to keep things alive that need to move on no matter how fun they were at a moment. Don't give the pain or sorid details oxygen or energy. Just consider, who cares, I learned and time for new fun things rather than letting old stuff limit you. Let it free you into a better things with learning and space for newness to come in.
I feel lighter, giggly and honoring of all this retrograde! It feels like completion has landed to many things and I am grateful. Loose ends tied up feels good! I also have excitement for new things, spring surprise, fun and growth in a new way. Take a moment to savor, be patient for the space to hold and draw in the new things. Patience after letting go is the wonder of reveling in your pride, your self value, the gratitude and allowing the space to open up for new. Patiently reorder, reshape, and renew!
Good luck all and enjoy this new season coming in! Answers and ideas are coming in soon!! Open your space!
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In this day and age, how could we not love being woman? Surely we have a health crisis and seem to be working for equality yet these things only inspire us to be more of our authentic selves, forging the way for future woman! This is a powerful transformative time for us on the planet. We are collaborating like never before, surging to break down the walls of competition between us, building true sisterhood and honoring our gifts as a gender, different than men.
I was always more of the feminine experiencer than the masculine results oriented way. Innately, I knew this was a gift of being a woman. Yes I can get results yet it never fulfilled me as doing things for the experience of creativity, friendship, community, beauty, collaboration, communication, the collective bigger picture. I am playful, youthful in spirit, less serious than most and find myself supporting in more challenging situations than fun ones. I feel like I can bring a celebration to anything, find joy, beauty, laughter and richness in all ways, in all things. I have a very childlike perspective than most and always kept it no matter how the world try to change me.
Today is International Woman's Day and it fills me to feel so good as a woman. I spent some time reviewing and sharing Ted Talks on femininity, the yoni, sisterhood, menstruation, cutting edge science and thinking on womanhood. I was taught woman's health and beauty through ancient lines of Persian, Egyptian and Indian cultures. Today, all kinds of woman are sharing this very information through science and experience of how to truly embrace our femininity! I am delighted and have waited years for woman in all fields to start sharing and expanding this Art of Being A Woman. I wrote my book, The Lotus Project, the Art of Being a Woman almost 8 years ago. It is all so timely now.
We love to experience the world, be in our senses, sensual by nature. We are not results oriented as men. We certainly can be but is our nature to bring in the richer, more delicious things of the world in community, conversation, collaboration, negotiation and pleasure. We are the equal balance to the production, the nourishers of what is produced. Maintaining, holding together, bringing in accord, supporting, caring and loving. It has been looked at as second class ways yet it is the very thing most are missing in their lives. Deep connection, laughter, joy, creativity, relaxation, pleasure, youthfulness. Production has no time for these things and the results are not measured in the same way. The results of the feminine nature are in emotional joy, health, happiness, community, contentment, satisfaction.
I am thankful there is Goddess, The Mother Component of God. I am thankful I get to be in a woman's body and experience the world in such a pleasurable, rich, deep ,delicious, sensual way! I thrive on supporting, caring, growing and nourishing, inspiring, playing and enjoying life. I don't measure my world by what I have or what results I got. I measure it in relationships, freedom, cause, making a difference, giving and receiving love, how much fun my day was, how often I laughed and how much joy I shared.
There are more woman on the planet now than men. It shall be interesting to see the beautiful balance that occurs in the world over the next 100 or so years as woman grow in being themselves. As they clear the competition among each other, stop comparing themselves to men, stop acting like men and claim their unique and balanced perspective on the world that supports men and production in a beautiful way. It takes both the sperm and egg to create life. Neither is greater, one swims the other floats. Both are needed and equally important to sustain life!
The magical tantra dance of masculine and feminine energy in balanced ways is coming in soon! I am glad to be a initiator and supporter to usher it in! Thank you God and Goddess that I am a woman!! Oolala!
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We have been taught to keep going, 24/7. It doesn't make any sense if you look at all the world around you. There is nothing running full on while awake! Not even man made machines can do that. If you over push them, they break down and need repair! Yet somehow in this world, we all act like more, faster, always is the way. I know the mind thinks it can yet even that must shut down or it will go looney!
I was an organic grower and grew incredibly with much less work than more seasoned growers. They would ask me how and I would say, I ride the cycle. I waited and used my energy properly and knew I wanted healthy blooms. I didn't weed every day the same patch. I would rotate and wait til the weeds were larger and easier to get the root systems. All grows in cycle and I would watch and when ready, it was easy to clear up the garden. I watched the cycle, how nature did it and thus had incredible blooms with less work.
I didn't try to control conditions. I worked with what was happening. It taught me so much about life and I still ride the cycles of things. I was thankful for natures training, it killed the training I got in school. I am quite lazy and like to be efficient at work. I like to play most of the time, have fun, enjoy life, rest. I find ways to do that and keep leisure time high. I forgot that for a few years when I left my farm but after health crisis issues, i remembered the way of nature. I am of nature, we are the animal kingdom. Our mind separates us in thinking but our body is of that kingdom so it has different rules than the mind.
People don't realize this and get caught up in the doing and doing never remembering they must rest so the creative, the open space, the relax brings in the best ideas. You act when it is time, not before or through pushing. All nature plays that way and works harmoniously. We think ambition, move, push harder is the way, but exhaustion, disappointment, jet lag sets in. It is just not how it works here.
You see successful people with illness as much as poor people. There is not rule of money that wins against this crazy pace. We over work ourselves and it may gain you in the short term but in the long term, you are killing yourself. Our body is not designed for this. It never was. The most successful cultures do not work 24/7. It is impossible. We have 12 awake, 12 hours asleep. Night time has purpose to the physical body of the world as well as humans. We have seasons, We have weekends. All is cyclical, plants, animals, the mineral kingdom, the things we are made of and surrounded by shows us the way.
I inspire you to notice how the world exists. When you push the cycles you get weak links in the chain. You get odd mutations that don't survive. You get things that produce weaker generations than more powerful stock. It is just how it is. Woman especially have a cycle they ride with the moon. They are not meant to go full force 30 days in a row. Their body has monthly changes that effect their energy, production, mind and emotions. Men are cyclical too. Not in the same ways as woman for they are quite opposite but they are of the same kingdoms. All kingdoms around us work on cycle. There is no way to escape it.
If things are not working rather than push and resist, take a break and do something else and allow the cycle to play out. Release it! Let it go and see what occurs next. All has a season, it is law. We are taught to force through and most times that just doesn't work. Think of all the times you pushed and it did work. Not as many as you would of thought. It is not how the system works that we are part of. It has a timing, a birth, a growth, a production, a blooming and a decline and then it goes over and over again.
Consider putting more cycle into your life. Take some down time to play, to inspire yourself, to leisure and open your mind. Imagination is the creator and it happens when you are in stiller spaces. We don't allow enough still spaces and wipe ourselves out. Receiving is key to how nature creates and it is the most creative power. When you actually give time to all pieces of life, including play and relax, receive, you find happiness, production, movement forward, all increase at a pace that inspires thriving.
Moments after writing this blog, a fellow sister in education shared with me this TED X talk on this very thing. A Woman educating colleges, businesses and clients of this very cycle of Rest, Release and Receive. Here is the link!
It is what is happening whether you ride it or not.
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As I write and go out about sharing with others, often people think, I am just a happy person with no stress or understanding of it. My disposition bright and my passion to share inspiring only because I have walked through incredible amounts of stress that effected my health! Your mess is your message so to speak and I was one in quite a quagmire a few years ago. I wouldn't even say I am out of it but I still have a happy life of joy and pleasure in spite of that. It is why I teach for what I share WORKS!
I left my home where my "job" was as an organic flower farmer. I left a man I loved but couldn't make things work and moved into a friends home in quite a scurry. I just needed peaceful energy. I had no job, was a bit broken hearted, dissolved my family of sorts and started anew with nothing of my old life. Many friends disappeared, my income had to be created, my kingdom was gone where I balanced and played and I was a mess. Yet something inside said this is how you will thrive eventually so I kept going.
2 years in, I was exhausted trying to manage all these things of a new life and I got very ill for 2 weeks. Just exhaustion. That illness brought on migraines that I never had before and upon getting better, I couldn't see fully out of my right eye. That became misdiagnosed and a year later, as I thought I was getting glasses, I was sent immediately to a glaucoma specialist. Upon arrival there, a panic ensued over me and my eye which I still wasn't sure what was going on, was there for hours for the pressure in my eye was the highest the expert had ever seen. She was saving me from losing any more vision at that moment for the pressure on my eye was 70% and it should be 15%!
Needless to say I was under pressure both emotionally, mentally, physically and in a very scary position. Had I known how hard it would of been, stressful, burnout, exhausted and in adrenal stress enough to lose vision, maybe I wouldn't of ever left! However, i didn't know and I knew that something had to change in life. I would never suggest anyone do this "runaway" thing that I chose for I didn't have cash, didn't think it through and just knew I needed a shift in living.
Fast forward 5 years, I am here, happy, healing, more joy filled and living the mastery I was taught. Thankfully, I had some Himalayan masters drop into my farm 3 years before I left that taught me of my body vehicle and physical ways of living. For I needed that brand of understanding for the next leg of life or I would have graver health issues.
The radical lifestyle change and stress upon me was incredible. Smart I was to put into practice for 8 years the understanding I gained and continue to do the things I was taught. There is no easy road here on the planet. We all have our issues. They turned me on to a wisdom that helped me through the hardest ordeal of my life. Still finding joy, bliss even, learning of my body, how all life dramatically effects it and how to keep going, find my balance again and again until I could reach a greater level of awareness and health.
It is an unfolding continually for we are in a stressed out world. Yet, the understanding of my body finally kicked in through practice to where I am healing my eye and have no doubt that my sight will come back again and this glaucoma pressure will be healed. I learned intimately how the emotions, mental thoughts and body unawareness can hurt us physically. I learned how to manage despite conditions that life is still beautiful, birds still chirp and can bring me back to precious states of loving life in all its maladies. I learned that stress can be released and flow can exist in the worst of conditions. I learned that mind, body, emotions are so connected to health and must all be dealt with or we do injury ourselves terribly.
Had I used Western medicine only, I obviously use it for my eye currently, I would of been on antidepressants, stress drugs and who knows what else. Instead, other than my eye drops, I used all of these issues to learn of the healing and expressive arts more fully to balance my health. With the body wisdom I learned from the Masters and continually investigation into all healing modalities, I am finally on the back side of this great healing crisis.
I fully understand stress, fear, guilt, anxiety, survival, recreation, loss, loneliness, displacement, no home of my own, sadness, all the deep dark emotions of life as well as running in full adrenal burnout. I am also a minister and at the same time, I still supported others and walked through challenge with them. I had to learn to care for me first and not be the endless caregiver. I learned to live in the moment, not past or future for all scared me. I am just now realizing the full brilliance I was taught. I understand my emotional nature implicitly and that is a saving grace as a woman. I know energy vibration from all sides and was powerfully instructed how to enjoy life through it all.
When I go out and teach, share my knowledge of pleasure, play, oxytocin, relaxation and less mind, I am very clear on how and why this works. It is powerful and although not of your normal fare of answers to stress, I watch science back up those Masters wisdom as time goes by. it is a powerful shift to be truly aware of your body and its magic. It takes time but the results are faster than anything else I have seen or tried.
I wanted to put my story of anxiety, burnout, adrenal stress and health issues so all could see, I am not different with those issues. It is the approach to healing and life that I share. The Yoga of Living is indeed a great way to ride in the flow!
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There is only one way to get out of stress and get into flow. Your body state must change. It is not a mind thing although the thoughts can effect you. It is not even an emotional thing, although you will have pleasant emotions when in the flow. It is a physical reset of your body that creates flow. You can't do it with just the mind or just emotions. It is an alignment that is felt in the body, thus called a "state". The emotions and mind are positive. Your body can't be in relax while your feel crappy feelings or think negative thoughts. It just isn't how we are set up.
The way your body operates, it must be in the parasympathetic nervous system to ride in flow with life. You are not in the sympathetic nervous system of fight or flight, adrenal stress. You must be in the other nervous system of rest and rejuvenate or tend and befriend. In this state, you relax, you are fresh and alert but calm and open. You observe rather than react. You move slower, you are using all senses, you feel good but peaceful as you ride, this is flow. It is not unproductive, It is more productive and you are in power.
Your nerves determine your energy. Are they frayed, frazzled and feeling nervous as we call it? Are you rushed, behind, hurried, exhausted? These are the nerves of fight or flight. In tend and befriend, your nervous system is calm and welcoming to the world and what it offers up. You world glides, feels magical and you feel in charge of yourself, your authority over the world rather than it dictating to you. You only have those two choices, one or the other nervous system. You can determine which one you ride in with consciousness. If you follow the larger word and energy of it, you will be in panic or adrenal stress. It is how most exist.
To be in your own heaven or glory, you choose this other state. You can create it with your attitude, your mind, emotions or physical body. It is a choice and a healthy one at that. For you only rejuvenate, rebuild, renew, detox and gain clarity in the parasympathetic nervous system. Life is not hectic or reactionary, It is abundantly open, aware and observing. You move slower to be able to perceive things and then act in accordance with what serves you best.
I share the ways of these two systems and how to get into the calmer energetic state of oxytocin, the pleasure hormone. When you get this state in your body being, life has a whole new way about it. You flow with all things, less stressed, more graceful, more aligned to create what you want. It is all energy, all nerves, all choices of how you want to be in the world. If you do default you will be in adrenal stress. If you are a little aware, you can enjoy life more just by paying attention to your body state then change it. Once we reset our body, it will do this naturally for us over time. We are very mental, in our minds and disconnected from the world when we are in sympathetic, fight or flight. It is a reactionary experience. When in flow, it is a power position, a creatorship, dominion over your world. It is far more pleasant to feel this power and pleasure is an outcrop.
Pay attention to your state. It is your tool of awareness to know how you are feeling physically, mentally and emotionally. Each can draw the other into its web of energy. All aligned, unified in calm offers great well being, a flowing experience. I can be no simpler about it. It is not rocket science to have a greater experience here. It is about awareness, paying attention to your body and senses, noticing the world around you in a deeper way and acting from that calm center that brings the greatest health and joy!
It is not hard,
Awareness + right attitude= FLOW and Pleasure!
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