I must share a delightful story of one of my clients that I will call Jane. She is a pharmacist, in her early 40's and had gained weight, felt stressed and overwhelmed in life and knew it was time to do something different. I met her as she was waiting to hear about a new job, had started losing a few pounds and was ready to take care of herself on a deeper level. She was a working mom and had children, all the normal woman stresses with so much to do. She was neglecting herself.

We spent many weekend mornings doing what I call Nature Fitness. We went outside when the weather was cooperating, I began sharing with her through movement practices and just chatting, principles of her feminine body and energy. I teach ways to feel the experience of the right, peaceful oxytocin energy that we should be in most of the time.  Jane was ready to look at things differently and she got all that I shared. She would leave with tools and actually use them every week! She would come back with stories of how she used them, how they worked and how it changed her experience.

Over time, Jane lost more and more weight without dieting. She learned to really enjoy, savor what she ate, have pleasure and listen to her body when she was filled. She became aware of how real food really supports her body. Noticing that much of the weight was stress and eating for pleasure for she was in exhaustion and strife.She got the job and left the old one which she realized was very negative. Jane saw how she could of just stayed there and pushed through as we all do. Yet leaping into the new opportunity, she realized she was so overwhelmed by the outside forces at work. Scary facing a new job, she used the tools to expand and find a new way with work.

Her marriage was having issues as well. We chatted about masculine and feminine ways, tantra and ways to see her issues differently as more of a man /woman thing than the two of them personally. As she cared for herself,  all changed as well. Living differently with herself, she was able to really ground her family with her health getting in line.

I taught her of movement and oxygen nourishment. She learned easy, graceful ways to move in calm beauty that supported her physical health, her beauty and her body getting in shape. Cooperating with her body, giving it pleasing ways to move and get oxygen and use the healing power of nature to our woman self.

Her glow, as she comes each time, is just so astounding. She opened to a journey with engaging more in her sensuality, reveling more in her senses. Jane has begun experimenting  with her pharmacy compounding creativity by making lotions and scrubs for her body, feeling the power of real food elements, no preservatives. Feminine ways of  honoring the sacred body.  She has engaged in essential oils and the power they have on her body, moods, alertness. Truly embracing her natural feminine nature to support her life in wellness.

She uses the stress clearing techniques often as she comes in contact with other negative people and situations. She stopped letting others energy drain and effect her.  These are quick and easy tools that can change you in a moment. Taking control of what nourishes her from others and environments as well as food. Jane has learned to fill herself first and in doing so, her whole home is more ordered, peaceful and calm. She took control of her sacred space which woman enrich or allow havoc energy be the base of their home. Their energy runs it and others just react to our state. It has been the most beautiful experience watching her use and engage in her natural femininity.

I could go on and on but the base truth is clear. She has retrained her body to ride in oxytocin and allowed her natural feminine way to come forward and nourish her. They call this Shakti in the east. It is a well of lovely, flowing energy that is within us. However, we can't tap into it in speed. It is through the slower pace, parasympathetic nervous system that this creative well and joy comes out. I delight when a woman gets this, flows through playing with it and experiencing that life is magic and good.

I told her she has all she needs now. Her Shakti, intuitive sense is her gift of enjoying life. It is natural for us as woman to live in this grace and ease. We are not lazier in this slower way. we are clearer,  still get all our things done. We just do them in a calmer, clearer space that actually gives us more energy. Of course, we will still gather and she will continue to enjoy her woman friends gathering. This is very key to ourselves as well. She is well on her way though, and this brings me such joy!

Get the glow for yourself! It truly makes life more magic! Jane exudes this glowing beauty like never before and it is enticing and alluring to bring in all she needs. I love it!

​How lovely to Be Queen!
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Energy to live is the greatest commodity. Often we are exhausted by life, circumstances and it seems there is not enough time in a day. In some situations that is true but there are other factors that are so important to look at. Our emotions, energy moving can zap our energy very easily and make life seem more exhausting than it needs to be. Compounding that is our ability to connect and feel others that drains us as well.

One of the greatest learning's I had was to understand my own energy field. It is a continual learning but it is powerful.  I share Aharaj Yoga in my Nature Fitness class so other can get this incredibly brilliant understanding. We lose so much energy by feeling and experiencing others and their strife, emotions and challenges. It is kind to have compassion and be present to support others. Taking in their strife, worrying about it and getting involved in things that are not ours is very much an energy loss. It takes away from energy to live our own lives joyfully. Lets face it, there are many things going on in our world that if we put time towards it when we are not fueled, we will get exhausted just thinking about it all.

Being clear of what is yours to handle and what you are witnessing that others are to handle is paramount. It is as Steven Covey put it on the mental level, your circle of influence versus your circle of concern. We are concerned about many situations in our larger world, with our kids, our friends as our circle of concern. Our circle of influence is infinitely less.  I have experienced that loving and kindness are the only ways to affect our circle of concern. Often letting our concern go by defining what we can influence and what we can’t is a way to lift our energy.

Knowing this, what you can and can not do for another is very important. Knowing what we can do for ourselves even more important. None of us like to experience a friend or loved one in strife and we automatically move to support by lend a helping hand. However, giving love, bearing witness and showing kindness is different than getting involved, worrying and participating in “curing” or “saving” others. We often get over involved, over worried, over emotional about others stuff. It is an endless energy drain for we can do nothing to change others circumstances. We can offer advice, support and listen but after that, we are all on our own mission here.

Too often, especially woman, find themselves involved in others lives beyond what is effective and lose lots of energy doing so. Not only do we have our family, our lives of challenge but then we tend to want to support and save the  everything.  It is our nature for we are the nourishing force but it has rules and limits. We need energy for us to move and be helpful. We need to know our limit and then our energy is stronger and used wisely, with discernment.

When you truly understand your own field, how to sense and fill that for your own tasks, then you can decide when and where you overflow and support the larger circle. Sometimes you have plenty for support. Other times me are so tired ourselves and “no, I can’t” should be used to support our energy.  Listening to others and then leaving it go, praying, sending light, all these things support others. We don’t have to get involved and “fix”. Men want to fix things too and often it is not our place to fix anything. It is our loving way to be present and then get on with our world and tasks.

This empathic gift of being connected to each other is beautiful in its design. However, a great understanding of knowing ourselves from others, our influence from our concern is very important so we do not lose energy in over participation in others. Keeping ourselves abreast of our own limits, feelings, energy level is the only way to live with good energy more often.

Many are overwhelmed by the condition of things in the world. You add that to their regular life which has learning  and we are easily hindered to move in joy. With all these burdens, sorrow and challenge in our lives as emotional drains, how could we feel joy to move onward? Learning how to create joy, uplifting energy is a support to you and ultimately others. From there knowing when we can overflow to support and when we need to harbor in and renew ourselves and our love of the world saves us so much in health, happiness and ENERGY!

I invite you to consider what are really your challenges in life and write them down if that works. Then list all the other challenge around you that you feel. What are you truly responsible for? What are you doing that is not really your responsibility that you are taking on as loving another, being a good friend, a good worker, a good sister or daughter, a good community member? You are a good nothing if you are over doing. You are mismanaging your energy, your attention and time. We are here to learn and find joy and love in that. We are not to be doing it all, helping all or doing for another. This is such a drain on our energy creating ill health. See clearly where you are moving beyond your limits.

Truly begin to learn your concern, your influence, your involvement and be diligent in only putting our energy towards those things you can effect and move. You will find your energy of joy grows and your power to support others rightly will be greater. Your feeling others strife is a gift to know who and what needs support. Support is not getting involved,  it is offering love and listening. Seldom is more truly needed. We all must do our work. You don’t need to listen either if you are overwhelmed. You can send light to others, take time to recharge yourself and find your own joy. Our most important and first task is to care for ourselves so we may better serve others in the highest, most powerful way.

Play with this idea. Watch yourself get over involved, catching others emotions, seeing your ego surface as the savior and fixer. See yourself get all drama about things. Huge waste of energy and you will see it. Then you can laugh, do something to refuel or step back and redirect to taking action where it counts, where success will be had. It is a magic to know your field of energy! Play with your own true power!

You can generate joy easily when you understand your limits!


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