I enjoy the changing of the year! So much fun through the holiday. I am filled with love and joy, even with strife mixed in, the vibe so high. This sets us up for the inward cycle of winter where we dream up what to bring forward in the coming seasons! A perfect time to reflect on what was good last year, what was not so good, what must change and where we are heading in this new beginning.
Many of us are in for great movement forward this year. The last few years have been cleansing for us all. We have been seeing what is no longer good in our lives. This process of getting to reality and out of romancing our not so beautiful life. The results we get to see in the coming years. We are all moving to a more spiritual, values centered life. Dropping the shoulds, the false images, the pretense we have been trained in and allowing our individuality to express. We are creating lives that work for us, not ones that follow a predetermined path. The greater world is not predicable, most all our systems in a restructure as we individually are recreating our worlds. The microcasm, macrocasm principle. both shifting to new.
There is great freedom in this! I, in process for 4 years and finally feel the endings are clearing on all levels! Now there is space for the newness! It feels good to have a blank canvas!! At first it was a bit daunting. Now I feel the desire to paint in full color! Our process through change is not on our own timing. We are taught to be aggressive, ambitious, make things happen. Often this creates anxiety for things have their own timing. When you play with the larger laws and the current energies, pushing doesn't create what you want. I find patience, holding to the direction often more of the journey than resisting what is happening by doing more.
As you design the next year, put forth the desires and determine your direction, keep in mind the idea of pleasure. Joy, happiness, peace, all are attitudes and can be found in most circumstances even challenging ones. We often are so scurrying toward the next thing that we forget the current joys, blessings and moments that are right here now. This allows greater ease, a more present awareness and easier happiness. It is not all about getting to the next space. That quest never ends nor should it. The phrase "it is the journey not the destination" is the truth of it. Consider living that more fully. Really experience the process as the fun, the pleasure of moving toward the goal, not just the ending. For every ending just means a new beginning. Keep an eye out for that rat wheel thinking.
In transition, I have had to keep to this simple view of happiness. I don't yet know where this new life will lead me. Rather than get lost in the uncertainty, I continually remind myself of the mystery and charm of that. We are not settled with uncertainty so I shifted to view it as mystery! it offers allure to my creative image making tool, aka, creative imagination. There is no definite cause effect in this world. The variables so many and the greater world not following an order either. We need to adjust how we see it and how we play in the changing conditions. Old rules don't apply and I am not sure they ever did. it just appeared more predictable.
An open mind, an eye for beauty and an awareness for simple pleasures is the simple path to creating a life filled with joy. It may be filled with many less pleasing things yet these directions will add greater happiness. We don't know what unexpected turns will come in. There is no controlling much but ourselves and our perspective. When we stay in that truth, we can see the year in a new way that adds to our health, relaxation and pleasure. Making lemonade out of lemons is the master art. Tasting the sweetness in all situations so you get the juice of life is the highest form of living. These the great elixirs!
May you find great blessing, prosperity and joy in this new cycle. We are bright spirits and coming to see this within ourselves. The mastery we have to enjoy life comes through seeing it as the adventure it is, This is the Magnus Opus. This is the direction that makes the most sense. Finding our power to have joy, happiness and giggles in whatever occurs is the way to mastering in this new cycle.
Happy 2018 All!
It has been my interest to learn of the forgotten feminine wisdom since I had the Himalayan Masters land at my farm, 7 years ago. I think I was so amazed that there was such knowledge of being a woman that I had never learned. It was quite easy to learn as well for we are woman and innate care givers. To know how to tend ourselves and live in our body quite natural.
As I have been on this journey now for quite a bit of time, I am amazed how many woman do not take to this wisdom that so sung my heart. I feel such a call to share what I have learned and what is still transforming me in so many ways. So trained we are in the ways of the productive world, against ourselves and our "frivolous" ways as I have been told. We take no time to ourselves yet expect to produce beyond anyone's capacity in health. Yet this wisdom of ourselves bursting through the edges all around us.
As I deepen my study and find so many others sharing these natural ways of woman on all levels, I feel at home with the web and the world wide tribe I have found. Many are younger than me for they are more open for what is going on is not working for woman. They are not so hip to jump onto the martyr bandwagon either. In so many ways, these red tent practices, Persian ways, Egyptian ways, Indian and all ancient cultures are flooding the world with these, Goddess, Womb, Wise Woman, Priestess, , Moon Cycles, Earth Mother, Mary, Intuitive, oh so many names and it is all so valuable!!! Each just a tad different culture or time.
So incredible that finally, woman are learning of this innate brilliance and nature of their intuition, their incredible creativity and nourishing gifts that have been smoothed by in name of production. Our physical health can be reclaimed, our understanding of our body be rediscovered rightly, our power of change and flexibility rebirthed, our innate gifts that we all have re-membered to feel the power and wholeness of being a dynamic woman. Femininity so honored first by ourselves and what a delicious gift that is in a man's world!
I encourage you all to find out more! I wrote a basic book after the masters came, The Lotus Project, the Art of Being a Woman that can be found on Amazon. I have videos, blogs, mentor, teahc and share my understanding that continues to grow. I do know that circles upon circles of woman will build all around the world with woman gathering joyously learning of this wisdom. It is the most empowering way of woman to be together and learn of these graceful, simple ways of themselves. Beauty, flow, joy and greater health will be had by all woman as they gather and reawakening their innate knowings. I am part of this movement so proudly! I am delighted by it and can not wait to share with all my sisters, globally and locally these ancient mysteries of woman.
It is magnificent, fun, empowering and beautifying! It is of relax, play, oxytocin, healing and the parasympathetic nervous system of regeneration, rejuvenation and renewal! What woman doesn't want these things? Magnetism, sisterhood, true power and health! Oolala! My time has come to shine!
Join in ladies!! It is for our greatest hour to come!
So often when we think of pleasure and sensuality it calls up sexual ideas. This is only one way, an avenue to pleasure. By using this as our reference, we miss out on many experiences of pleasure that are around us at a moments notice. There is a vast world of pleasure at our finger tips!
Why pleasure is so important? There is the old saying "All work makes Jack a dull boy". We relax when we do pleasure, leisure activities just for the joy of it. It rejuvenates us for all our activities so we can work smarter and with greater clarity and brilliance. When we experience pleasure, we fill our body with feel good, healthy neurological and chemical processes. We step into the parasympathetic nervous system where renewal, healing and restoration occurs. If we are not in this system at all, we burn out our organs, our energy, our life force that needs daily rejuvenation to stay balanced and create health. We reset our mind, body, emotions and spirit as the sun goes down each day for rest and renewal. As physical beings, it is the way of the cycle.
The greatest reason is that it feels good! To be happy, have joy and be vital is a process of positive emotions. This causes positive chemical processes, activates healing and balances life stress. The science of pleasure is amazing! The magic power of our body, our innnate health system can do wonders when balance of all emotions and states occur.
So how do we find more pleasure? Expand our experience? Pleasure is an experience of the body. The mind doesn't do pleasure, it is more of a computer or calculator. The body, the sensations, the senses provide us with pleasure. To be in our body is paramount, That is why so much is written and many speak of presence and being in the now. Your can only do that when you are in your body and noticing not what the mind says but what the other senses are telling us. What do we see? How do we feel? What do we hear? What smells are about? What texture is it? These are all gateways to pleasure.
Senses, sensing, is what sensuality is all about. Tantra teaches this connection with our senses, the many receptors on our skin. How we can feel things with our hands, hear with our hears, smell with our olfactory sense, see with our eyes and taste with our mouths. These can be refined way beyond how most use them. Many times closing your eyes and inwardly feeling all the senses is supportive so we don't just look and label, we experience the sensation. All things become more exciting and enjoyable when we allow our senses to play in our body. Our world of thinking cuts us off from all these others ways the world communicates to us and we connect to it.
Seeing it from this angle, pleasure is everywhere. Nature brings in natural presence so we can let go of the mind and experience being in a place with all the beauty the senses bring to us. Eating should be pleasure where not only do we see our delectable food, but we taste every bite, we smell and feel its texture and notes of flavor. We are nourishing our bodies to build them and we can experience how different foods, herbs and tastes effect us.
Engaging with others can be amped up. Noticing what they are wearing, how they smell, the sound and of their voice which tell their emotion. The twinkle in their eye, the or the volume of their laugh. Digging into common experiences deeper and with greater perception rather than thinking of what to say next opens to more creative and pleasurable connections. As we touch others, really feeling our hands connect or the energy of touch. Sensing from the inside how that heat and sensation of touch opens and affects our bodies. Our skin is filled with so many sensors that we rarely activate. Touch can go so deep and feel so vital.
Walking from place to place, slowing down to notice your surroundings rather than speaking to yourself always. Hearing the birds, noticing the trees and shrubs or scents in the air. Present awareness in all things. Movement brings in pleasure, not just for exercise or strengthening. Why not make your health regemine be a pleasurable way to connect with your senses and body? Instead of denial and hard, make it strengthening, a path to feeling good as you move, enjoying the body deva. Noticing when it is hard and get back to the joy of feeling your body positively. Pushing ourselves a bit but when pain or exhaustion happen, stepping it back so pleasure and enjoyment can be felt in connect with our movement, our body presence. Stress, strife, low emotions are transmuted through moving for it burns excess energy. It doesn't need to be hard or taxing to do this. It just has to get the energy moving through release, leave our body and inspiring good emotions, endorphins, relaxation thus pleasure! All movement can be made pleasurable!
We can put on music, close our eyes and find pleasure in sound. Drum circles create healing through sound and playing as do singing bowls, gongs and digerdoos. We drive around listening to our radio engaging in pleasure seeing how it causes us to speed up or move our body, activate our singing voice, create an attitude. Happy songs lift us, sad songs bring in lower emotions, all bringing pleasure to our body and what is happening in it. A great song can change our whole day and bring in healing. We can perceive the nature sounds outside deeper, the peace of a snowstorm or the calm of a loud ocean to being in gentle settling pleasure through hearing.
As you see, our lives could be filled with pleasures. We can use almost anything to create this healing, peaceful and vitalizing state. They say to relax through life is enlightenment. If you study any spiritual path it is about just that. Relaxing, seeing the greatness of the moment and feeling the pleasure to be alive. Play with your senses. A magic world of pleasure opens up. I am certain no one will overindulge with the beliefs and mindsets handed down through the generations. Remember, all work and no play is a recipe for a hard, boring life with no fun in between!
One of the biggest challenges is our understanding boundaries! Woman, empaths by nature, struggle to be clear on their own energy and others. As energy fields, we are constantly blending with others with or without our awareness. We often start out feeling wonderful, then interact with others and wonder just what happened to our happy mood?
Understanding this energetic blend is the first step. Know that often we are feeling others, their emotions, it affects our state. Next we become aware of our own feelings from others. This takes awareness, paying attention and knowing yourself from others. Check in with yourself before you go anywhere and see where you are at. This way you can at least start to see how you are affected and create barriers to support yourself.
Not all will like us, support us, enjoy us or be excited by our presence. This is important to realize so we don't set up ourselves for falter. If there seems to be a situation where this is the case, just move. There is no need to go into self questioning. Some energies just don't coincide. We realize part of our discernment is to find those that inspire us and we them.
We may be around those we enjoy and they or we, may be having a challenge. This can affect us and our relationship in that moment. With awareness of your emotions, you can realize their struggle, seek to understand how to support rather than take their negativity as personal. We often inflict on those around us with a crappy mood without realizing it. It saves us drama when we are aware of ourselves. We can see others clearer and even support them by having a detached view and protecting ourselves from taking in the negativity.
When we know we are going somewhere or doing something that may create a stir or we are not so comfortable, be prepared to have your boundaries set. Know your power, intention and purpose and be prepared for those who may not be open to you or your ideas. Being prepared, having an understanding that all may not enjoy and protect yourself from taking this personally, knowing those who you are seeking will find you. No need to let others differences effect your self esteem or mission just because you feel the disconnect. Preparation, awareness and protecting yourself so important. Not everyone will be in agreement or blending with you. That is part of our experience here.
Realize when you are depleted. Listen inwardly to know when saying "no" is the best choice for your own balance. We have not been taught nor do we engage well with self care yet it is the key to health and happiness. Fill yourself first so you may better serve. If service is overwhelming, chose not to do it and do something to bring yourself care. You may have to bypass or release some voices in your head that tell you others wise. That is ok, We don't understand self care completely so we must change our beliefs and patterns regarding this. Say no anyway, nourish yourself and learn a wiser way to be. Your body, mind and emotions will get by the self talk to a new experience in understanding how to support others and yourself in a way that fuels all more easily, gracefully and in love. This is the greatest tool to balance.
Worry is a negative use of our imagination. Often we take on others problems which is not truly supportive. Yes, help if you can but then move back to your life. Feeling their energy often makes us uncomfortable so we think we must do something. That is not necessarily the case. Listening is a support enough at times. Taking this on, moving through your day with others problems is depleting your energy. Feeling sorry for others is also wasteful. When we do that, the energetic message is that they can not solve it. It is better to understand and listen and offer compassion and support. Thinking we must help, do something is often because we took their worries into ourselves. Then we may use their emotion in our life with our problems and it is not really ours. You feel others, then drop that emapthy rather than live their experience or one similiar of your own. In knowing how they feel, detach and offer compassion. Empathy is a gift to know how to support others, not take on their worries or problems.
This is a vast topic that needs greater understanding. We practice as we learn. Be gentle with yourself. See the value in this precious gift to truly offer compassion and love to others. Be aware when you are over involved. Notice when you have taken on others energy, emotions or worries. Let it go once you are aware. Pay attention to what is truly your emotion versus feeling others. Just ask inwardly and you will get your answer. Boundaries an important issue for health, well being and supporting the world. Pay attention and have fun with it!
Living in the senses requires that we are more present, in tune with our body messages. So often we are caught thinking as we move about the world and miss so much stimulation that is occurring around us. We don't even notice our body sensations, hear things that are being said, see the textures and colors about us, smell the world or even truly taste what we are eating. We miss the present goodness in life by being run by the thoughts rambling about.
During the holiday season, the sensory stimulation is amped up! Sparkles and glitter everywhere. Lights, decorations, wrapping paper, colors galore, all is just calling us present. The food is spectacular often reminding us of days gone by. Walking into homes with delicious aromas of baking bread, cookies or some ceremonial meal just warms us. We get to eat such delicious hor de vours, meals and dessert that may not be around at other times of the year. We can revel in filled plates, cultural tastes, celebration drinks, all pleasurable as can be, if we truly notice. We touch others so much more. Hugs, smiles, toasts, deep conversations, time spend close to others. We hear songs playing where ever we go. Sounds of holiday, the salvation army bell, carollers, chatter of happy words, our ears filled with sounds. Love is present in it all.
Consider this time so known for love to be filled with such sensuality to bring us back to the textures of life. To let go of yesterday and tomorrow, be present with what bounty is before you, forgetting the small things that could irritate us or the self talk of hurry up and slowwwww down into the magic of the season. Love is so present in all these delights. It shows up in every form possible calling us to just revel, savor and enjoy what is truly right in front of us. We can relax, stop pushing ourselves with all these ideas of what should be and truly engage in what is.
As woman, we get to truly express ourselves in all ways. Our magic of transforming our sacred spaces into a wonderland that delights ourselves and all who enter is play and healing to ourselves. Cooking, wrapping, shopping, entertaining, chatter and nourishment, these are our greatest gifts of nurturing that fill us and others. Let go of the desires to push through and get everything done perfect as your mind sees. Just enjoy this process of creativity, be present in doing it and feel the joy of your most sacred gifts be expressed at this time of year. Slow down, be in the artistry and creativity and ENJOY doing it. We are the masters at this art of love and bringing it forward in all the textures and senses. We heal, transform and fill up doing these things when we are not pressured through this process.
And we get to sparkle ourselves as well! The creative artistry goes into our look if we choose! We the canvas with our clothes, adornments of jewelry and scarves. Make up, hairdos, glittery everything, beautiful footwear with boots or racey heals! Our finest gems can be seen, our biggest smiles and beauty glows. We feel beautiful like queens and princesses coming out to sparkle!
I invite you to realize the power of this time as the great gift of sensuality it is. To be present, to enjoy all the sensory stimulation around that woman create. To fully engage, revel and participate in it with all your heart for the love that is being expressed and offered. Let the stress go and see the blessing of healing creativity that soothes us all. Be loving of yourself as you do it knowing the healing and gift is in the doing not the things or how but in the process and intention. Ground into your body and enjoy. It is the most magic time that stimulates all of you. Notice, slow down, engage, be present, savor all the delights with all of your senses and receive of the blessing that is present in that.
Enjoy every minute! Prosperity, health, well being and joy to you all!
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