We have a culture that supports us to be like others, look a certain way, act a certain way and express according to a set of norms. With the greater the energies about us with this Aquarian Age upon us, there is great support to be your own unique, individual expression. No one fits the norm. Trying to is a waste of time and creates alot of dis ease within us.
There are many beliefs within us that don't support us being ourselves. Our whole life we have been told to be this, do that, success is this or that, talk this way, blah, blah. Important it is to watch these come up and observe the silly stuff within us. I listen to the advice people give me, the ideas or comments they make about my attitude or way and it is really not so supportive. People want us to succeed but they don't know what will work for us. Only we do and we know ourselves and what feels authentic. It is a challenge to clear these ideas for they have been part of us forso long. Yet, we have an obligation to be ourselves, authentically, uniquely and in truth.
I was watching the Houseswives Shows last night and was in such disbelief and even sad. Such beautiful woman acting so negative. I have been around woman all my life and that is such a odd representation of who we are. I don't know if they are comfortable with themselves for such behavior and back biting indicates that maybe not. Caught up in the better than or competitive edge doesn't suit any of us. Especially in this time when we are being called to honor ourselves and express that. I was part stunned, dumbfounded at the insanity of the behavior and saddened that this is what is being presented about beautiful, well off woman. As though anyone wants such an unhappy life. Yes, they have many things but by the situation and conditions they were in and creating, it didn't seem fun to me. My preference of sisterhood is much different than that. I know of a sisterhood that supports us in adoring ourselves and each other.
Adoring ourselves is the answer to health, beauty and well being! It opens us to express who we are to the world. It is not looked as appropriate to adore ourselves for it shows in great confidence outwardly. I often have men tell me that I am too open with my confidence. I feel good to be me, pretty as I can be and filled with hope and excitement for my life. I know I am a good seed and I must support myself in lovely ways if I am to shine in the world. I let it go when they tell me these things. I feel powerful and maybe that makes them feel different or uncomfortable. However, I will not back off from feeling good about myself for others whom are uncomfortable with a confident woman. Often others look at this as arrogance yet feeling my magnificence going to meet others magnificence is what it is all about. I love to see others light and seek it. So I let it all go.
I practice this adoration daily! How do we do this? We consider ourselves as divine wonders. We see what we like, how we are, what our natural gifts are and we revel in them. We find what we like in ourselves and focus on expanding that. Our world seeks problems and solutions yet it seem easier to find your strengths and expand them. Trying to change a weakness is already the wrong vibration to start. Noticing your strengths, your gifts and wondering how to use them in a challenging situation sets up greater success and confidence. I am done working things the way others do. I am creative so my process in most all things is very different than logical mind and I embrace and use that.
I daily do things that inspire and delight myself in all ways, big and small. I study spiritual things in the morning to set myself up for my day. I get ready and really get into my artistry and creativeness of how I will present myself to the world. I like my clothes and put on colors and styles that I feel good in. I try to move at my own pace rather than others when I can. I do things for myself like savor my coffee in slowness. I hike outside or atleast go outside between things for it settles me and clears me. It inspires me in the beauty of the world. I delight to find new people and reach out to others in my field that I find their cards or a tip from another. I get healing treatments when I can and do self help of Jin Shin, self massage, meditation and facials at home. When I notice I am in not so good a place, I reach to balance, shift, find support or something to get back on track as soon as I can notice. I listen to music as much as I can to get inspired by the sound vibe. It is important to schedule in delight as much as I can. It won't just show up.
These are ways of adoring ourselves. Finding what delights us to feel good and doing them. As you do, it expands into a vibration that is continually operating in you without conscious choice. Your innate health system thrives when you add relaxation or delight. It brings in this vibration of it's own accord for it is healing and supportive. I seek ways to have automatic good habits rather than just what is considered negative. I practice soothing, calming and centering myself continually through the day when I notice I am feeling not so good. I reach to feel good and it works. It is my intention and I work it. This is adoring yourself.
Each of us is a divine spark of spirit here in a particular way purposefully. We do not need to learn new things as much as let go of stuff that isn't supportive or true. Allowing who we really are to express outside of our training to be this or that. My whole life has been a telling of me to be different and I finally realized that being different as I am is what brings me the greatest success in all things. I let go of the other stuff and really find the divine me that is here wanting to be. I see her and adore her, coax her out, tell her with my mind I am her best friend, support and she can be who she wants. For me it is the child like empress inside. I let her play within me, create in my mind and offer me new ways to overcome the training that stops me from liking this spirit of me.
Consider practicing ways to adore yourself. You can do it quietly, inwardly if that works. Observe what thoughts come forward or emotions as you do that don't support you adoring yourself. It is really quite funny. I remember when I learned a practice in the feminine arts that involved talking to my body deva as I was in the shower, using the finest products, thanking all parts of my body for its support and beauty. As I was doing it this voice came in, "What are you doing? this is absurd talking to yourself in this way. Do you really think this is helping you?" It jolted me and then I thought, " If I don't feel this way about myself who else will? Then I must endlessly seek others that adore me?" It made greater sense for me to love myself in the shower and I do that to this day. I allowed that training to come forward but updated my thinking to a way that was greater truth. This is part of loving yourself. Kick out those beliefs!! They are wasteful to our energy and beauty.
Play with these ideas and adore yourself. You have your own ways and they are delicious! I constantly seek new ways and find feeling good about me to be my pattern more than feeling bad. I love my body as it is and it gets healthier and shapelier. I honor my giggles and they come more often. The more you adore you the more you find others that do. It is a great reflection of within/without. It raises your vibe so only those with that match come around. I find it an amazing magic that we all have. So do please play with this self adoration!! Magical!
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