Does it Serve You?

As woman we are the catchers of all issues. We find time to serve our neighbors, families, children, friends, community and random others. There is great loveliness in this and it is part of our role here as nourishers. There is a line that we have to be very aware of. Our training has taught us to serve all above ourself. This is not how it works.

There is a law, take care of yourself first so you can better serve others. This is a challenge to learn but you must take the path to really see if these things serve you? Of course our instincts and nourishing role naturally calls us to support others, being concerned that if we don't who will. That is a lovely trait until it effects our well being. We know how the martyr role goes and we end up depleted with no one to fuel us. To avoid this, there are times where we can't help, shouldn't be part of nourishing another and it is ok. 

We have to find that place inside us that gives us, our energy, our health value equal to others. If we run out, we can serve no one. It is like the car without gas. You have to go fill it. So consider that is as important as helping others. Helping ourselves is our responsibility or we become part of the "others" that need nourishing. So fill up yourself first. Find ways to say no when it is not going to feel good to yourself to help. It is a training, a practice to go through this at first, but it pays off. Your intuitive nature becomes more active and you find your own answers valuable.

Sometimes others need to be serving, people need to find their own way and resources and we need to step back and allow the challenge to teach others ways to their power. So it is truly important to find these lines that we determine from within, using our heart as a guide. Helping another to our own depletion is not the way it works. It is in truthful giving, when we feel good to support, that it works as the nourishing circle we are part of. So be prepared to find that way with yourself and others.

We all know when we serve and it fills us up to be able to do such for another. We also know when we have barely anything to give and we do give and we find ourselves resentful or looking for a payback. That is not real giving. It is our job to give fully and freely. When we can't then it is our job to use our nourishing way on ourselves until we can get back to rightful giving. 

Learn the truth to service for yourself. it will give your greater joy and energy as you do support others. You will find you love your life, you love the way you support and you will love yourself for knowing when and how to do that best. It is a practice so play with it! You can find the right line and it will be freeing!

Blissfully,
​Lyn