I have a part of me that I call temper tantrum girl. I have many parts but she is one I must contend with often. I like everyone else, want my way and think my ideas are the best. Of course, they are the best for me but I am an initiate in highest good and often that is not my way. So I must embrace this unruly side and find ways to work with her. If we don't embrace all of ourselves, we push it into our unconscious and havoc ensues. We wonder why? The answer is the less beautiful parts of ourselves we try to hide and stuff away so no one can see them, are running our experience.
Temper tantrum girl is not hidden anymore. She gets her moment to bitch and complain to me. She is a powerful part of me that lets me know when I am not happy with what is happening. I allow her the voice of whining, resistance and whatever else she has to say. I don't allow her full reign for very long but I do let her have her due so I can see what information she is sharing with me about myself and my life. She is allowed to express and I am grateful for her. I am not saying be unruly and selfish outloud and revel in it. I am offering you the option to hear yourself when you are not so delighted by circumstances so you can redirect yourself.
Not long after she has had her moment I do recover back to the older version of Lyn. It varies how long but usually over night or often after a few minutes, I hear her and see what she is trying to tell me. Sometimes it is just the ego of a little girl who doesn't like what is occurring and there is nothing to be done. I hear her, I still must accept the conditions before me and move forward. I always listen to her now for if I do not she will create havoc for me. It is like a dialog with a 5 year old or as my latest boyfriend calls her "a brat". I can see that, for when I want my way, I will try many approaches to get it. When it is kiboshed, at some point, we all see that a new direction has to be found. I will not get my way sometimes, it is just life.
Most times she is in tantrum for something very important. I am aquiescing beyond my boundaries and I am getting to a place of resentment. Woman do this often and it creates a challenge to our self care and worth. Yes, I am to serve the highest good but it is not always appropriate to do so if I am not filled up. It may not be where I can best serve. If she keeps coming about in certain patterns or situations, she is letting me know that it is not the place for me. I may know this on some level but I do not always listen to her. There is no worry though for she will come out again and again to alert me. I no longer talk my way out of her presence. I take it as an important key to find greater balance and happiness. We often know when we should ditch something but we don't. She is my reminder.
Energetically, our emotions, our tantrums and our joys are to be embraced equally. They offer us guidance, information about ourselves and our world. It is key to listen to ourselves and all parts of our expression. I have so many sides to me that I could be Sybil of many personalities. I embrace all of them for they are just expressions of me and ways to understand myself. Nothing is static on earth, all is moving. We move in and out of so many emotions, personalities as I call them and it is normal and good. We need to embrace all these facets of ourselves and integrate them together. They offer us important information about our environments and how to be happy.
I am not one of these lil girls in me anyway. I am a spirit of wonder and I must inhabit a conditioned body, mind and environment that is set up different than the freedom of spirit. The goal is to bring in that wonder to this limited physicality. It is tricky to do or we would all be blissed out. We are here to learn lessons and grow. In doing so, do not hide or not recognize your inner facets that are here to help you. Be glad in all your parts, emotions and characters. Work with them to understand their purpose and why they are acting up. Yes sometimes it is just childlike but more often that child has an important message for you. All parts of us exist for support.
I inspire you to consider taking heed of tantrum girl, angry girl, any negative side when it shows up. It is usually offering you important information. These are facets of our emotional nature that have lots of energy. It is our guidance system. When any of these crazy girls show up, I know to notice what is going on around and in me. Chances are I am not in the best place for myself. I am in protection when I feel attacked and I am in tantrum when things are not supporting me. These are good indicators and I need to pay attention and make wise choices to support myself.
Play with these many characters of you. They are such fun pieces of other times and often just need to be noticed so they can grow up. Don't let them run you, observe and learn. I love these parts of me for often I am in the rose colored glasses of life. These girls support me to remember I am allowed to move into comfort, joy and happiness. I can work with conditions that I must but by golly, I can move out of most of them that create dismay. I am the one in charge here of my experience.
Listen to yourself. You know exactly what is needed to find a greater life. It is just a matter of listening!
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