I am in a learning once again on expectations! It is a tricky word and depending how you use it, it is a blessing and curse. When you expect from others rather than anticipate, it gets problematic! Here is my learning most recently and a tool to support you in self awareness.
I love the Gene Keys, if you haven't checked them out, it is a great system just to get your words alone. It shares by your birthday multiple shadows, gifts and mastery of many parts of yourself that I have found to be right on. Fun system with key words. Consider checking it out.
One series of words, key elements of my chart I guess you call it involves expectation! Expectation is the shadow or the challenge to watch out for. Detachment the gift of that challenge, learning not to expect and not get caught up in outcomes. Not so simple. The mastery of it is Celebration or celebrate whatever comes. It is funny these words would be part of my Gene Keys when infact, the beginning of my ministrial blessing also speaks of celebration. That life is a celebration and as I grow, I will know this in every level of my consciousness, realizing all is a celebration. Pretty much the same thing principle.
As I learn this challenge, I must say it is hard to not get caught up in wanting others to do what you want, join you as want them to, play, collaborate, whatever it is. We do as humans expect things from others not in a bad way but often just thinking we are on the same page and we are not. Then comes the disturbance. When we realize others act differently, mean different things for the same words, do what they want. It is important to learn this clearly for I want to do what I want. Yet how often is there disagreement with what one thought from the other?
I walk through it again, still playing with whom I call wild boy, I was perplexed last night again at his behavior. He is such great learning for we are sooooo different and I really must pay attention, understand, be open and communicate. He not so good at any of that. I do see this shadow of myself though, where I make my own mess out of overthinking things. How many times do we do that and will continue to be caught in the imaginary tale in our head when truly nothing is happening. We are just minding and creating all kinds of conversations in our head. Such ridiculous inaction!
However, as I was in it, I just realized you can't fight this bear of mind. I tried to watch it and observe knowing this has nothing to do with wild boy, it is one of my buttons or patterns with others. I tried to do the "who cares" which can often reset me. Nothing really worked so well and sometimes it is just like that. That is karma and patterns. They are no easy deal.
I did realize "here I am again in the "expectation" shadow learning to get to detachment". Sounds so easy when you are not in it or over it. I saw this pattern of mine and tried to switch to anticipation, seeing what I wanted to occur as well. All tools through our minding. Nothing worked but finally sleeping. When I awoke, all was gone like magic. I could easily say who cares and keep going to the next thing on this fine day. Truly fascinating how this vehicle, our bodies roll through life. Never sure how it all fits, how we surf from our mental to emotional, to physical then spirit. The key to align all and why I like these gene keys to support me to lift if I am in a pattern. Awareness the ticket to clear these negative habits. It may take many times but each time supports the incremental change.
So play with this one for I am sure you will run into it. Some days it is easy to detach from what is going on and celebrate whatever comes. Other days we get really caught up in wanting what we want. Remembering that when you are in expectation, detach is the gift of that. Learning that we adjust and keep going rather than get disturbed by others choices allowing freedom to do what they want. Then the highest state of detachment is celebration of all that comes in. Knowing that some times what you want is not as good as what occurs. Rising above to know 20/20 hindsight brings in clarity.. We see why certain things didn't occur. Living from that place as often as possible will clearly support detachment.
Just thought I would share what I find to be a good set of words, keys when we are in expectation. A pathway out where you could call in the other ideas to support you through, rather than just complain on how it is not going the way you expected. Not that you won't have to walk through some feelings about it which is important as well. Learning of yourself is the greatest gift of relationship and the only way to see many sides of yourself. Expectation is a big problem in relationships when things are not clear. Finding tools to detach and in fact celebrate a good practice. Even if you don't and can't get out of it, in spirit you are always learning. May look like you missed the challenge when in fact you don't. You are always learning there and this plane not a good indicator of progress always.
So watch out for those expectations! They can get you in some hairy places! You get to go though some shadow of yourself and love it anyway!!! Learn though, then it is worth the understanding.
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