Friends, mentors, connections and like minded folks are so valuable. Self care is knowing who to keep around you in life and who to let go. I grew up in the community I now live. I had known many of the same high school friends for over 30 years and they were valuable for most of my life. We had an incredible loyalty and acceptance for each other that many never get to experience. I added people along the way but generally my community was the same until about 8 years ago.
Shifting directions for us all at some point changed things. Behaviors and interests became different and who knows what Karma was involved that the main system of support I had began to change and drop away. It was a big challenge for me. New people more in line with what I am doing and where I am going came along but having a group for so long made it a challenge to let go. Slowly, however from my spiritual study and divorce, things shifted dramatically. I went more inward, distance came between some of my greatest long time friends and lessons to be learned created new community.
I can only take all things as perfect and divine so I walked through this phase realizing things were different and what was so important at one point in my life was no longer so valuable to my self development. We all go through a change in friendships somewhere along the way so you know the hardship this can be. Trying to understand doesn't always have an answer so you find letting go of the old, honoring it, letting it be and calling it complete is a good support for yourself. Married clans hang out with married clans. Friends move away, another's husband passed, things change is the law. I speak with many woman and this is a challenge for us to allow this break in relationship as community holders.
Although this felt bad, harder when the same crew is as your network for so long, you keep walking and seek to find those people who will flourish you now. We all change, marriages end, new ones begin, careers change, where you live shifts, this is just how it goes. We are evolving and growing so we will change our environments about us. It is important we grasp this on all levels, allow it to occur and try to keep the emotions of these changes to a minimum. Feel the sadness, the loss but keep going knowing when one thing is lost another greater thing is made room for.
This eclipse has been true clearing of things for the last 9 or so years. I felt this most in my circle of people. New spiritual people and missions came in and over time, many of my normal supports have fallen off. I understand with my mind the value to these things, the changes within and without yet often our emotions, memories, loyalty and feeling of a clan mentality create deep loss. As I feel this, I direct myself to those that are support now. Seek greater experiences for yourself in the space of now rather than yesterday or way back when. It is no longer then. Life is fresh and new each day, there is no better or worse, just different experiences.
I inspire you to take inventory of those you have had in your life. Honor those that where there and those that moved on. Don't hang on to things that have shifted. It is a level of being in the past that doesn't support you forward. This has been a great lesson for me. Allow what is and has happened to be. Find peace and know there is purpose in it and that it will come forward down the road. Change is not always easy at first, but it is always occurring and we do great self care by flowing with it. Even if a part of us wants to hang on, it won't work. Keep going, seeking the next joy, the next connect, mentor, friend. We have more struggle and low energy going over the past, trying to hold onto it than we do by moving forward.
Self care is finding the right perspective for the people in your life. Maybe there are draining people in your life now that you need to re-evaluate and stop considering loyalty, past fun is the reason to stay connected. History is good but we change, evolve and we need our friendships and connects to be just that. People are powerful influences in our life. We need to only cultivate those relationships that fuel and inspire us to be our best. Those that hold the past against you or create more drama than fun are to be let go.
We have only so much time and if you have personal strife with one, maybe it is time to move forward to newer supports. Not as easy as it sounds but in the long run you are expanding with change and others that will love and support you in your becoming will show up. I have watched it happen for myself. The only thing that stops this being a joyous process is the hanging on.
Open yourself for the next leg of connections. It is time for our purposes to be expressed and often that will be different than the crew you grew up with, raised your kids with or lived in the same neighborhood. Soul families are coming forward to support us in our divine mission so make room for it. It is for the highest good and you will delight in it if you truly let go of what was. Say goodbye, thank you for all we had and open to those who you will be riding with next!
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