Life comes at us with such force some times. Crisis, panic, sadness, challenge, all stress us to barely get through the day. This is normal. There is no landing where this experience of life is all blissful. Often we see things in cycles and we just must ride it out. In these times, finding joy, laughter, motivation and enthusiasm is a practice. There is a lesson in this of rest, rejuvenate and care for yourself so you can get going again.
Choice is always with us so we can rise up when we feel the intensity is too much. Self care, self compassion and self loving are the most important things we can do. Often another part of us wants to push, know, get out of the scene or deny the yuck we feel. This is far more detrimental than accepting the crap we are in. It is not lovely, there doesn't always have to be some reason or rational that the mind wants to have. Shit happens is the phrase and for good reason. We don't have to always claim fault, ridicule ourselves or berate ourselves for feeling bad and being unmotivated.
I feel like I have been under the shadow of death for a good part of the year. Watching two matriarchs go down as the circle of life has it. There is no mental rational that makes this feel good to participate in this. It is life. We all go through death and it is a heavy cloud about us. There is great pain and sadness in crisis. To be as healthy as you can through this, you have to acknowledge and accept that. You will not feel so full of joy and energy. In bad times we are tired, overwhelmed with emotion and we need a break of self care. It is the best path through it without getting further issues emotionally, physically or mentally.
Down time is not valued in our society and it is the very thing we need to recharge and reboot. It is also the way that we have vital energy when we are left fielded by life's experiences. The value and healing of self care is the only solution. Something we all know yet do very little of. It is as though we must pretend, buck up and get going again and that is not always our best way back into happier states. We have to go through the low vibe and ride to the other side. Otherwise the feelings, the low energy persists in the back ground until we allow it to pass through.
No one is excited to do this. No one wants to feel bad and experience sad, exhausted, overwhelmed emotions yet this life has plenty of it. To avoid is to allow it to persist. So hug yourself and go through the crap that you feel. Gently allowing this low energy to express for a moment by taking time to step out of life. There are so many options of self care. A bath. A walk in nature. A facial, a movie day. A nap. Self indulge in something that feeds you on the inside.
The rush through causes more illness and low states. Our body has it's limits and will fight us if we push it to far into the doing aspect when it is out of energy. So we call it a low time, go into caring for ourselves and know all changes. We will get through this hard moment as we have all the others. We can inspire rejuvenation and renewal by doing the self care. It is what you body, emotions and mind are calling for. It is the only healthy way through.
If we don't take time to rebalance when we have just gone through a crisis, we will add more issues of dis ease to ourselves. There is no way around it. As part of my reset through this dark year, I am nourishing myself in so many ways. In fact, I am not doing much else. I have stepped outside of doing anything other than the minimum. How long this will take and when it will end, I have no idea. I do know if I don't stop and regroup in ways nourishing. I will not be ready for anything good or even be able to revel in it fully with this exhaustion. I also realize that I can make bad choices when I push further as though I am fine.
We pretend so much of our lives rather than living them. Pretend we are "good" when we are not. It is not a healthy choice to live in vitality. It is normal to feel off at times. It is normal to be overwhelmed and angry that life offered us a not so delightful experience. To deny or pretend goes against our body wisdom and care. We have to see clearly, feel and find peace with the challenge of life. We learn, grow and appreciate the joy when we have been in the non joy. Don't fake yourself out or anyone. We are human and can only take so much til we get to needing a break from it all. Soothing ourselves back to enthusiasm.
Awareness of ourselves is a powerful elixir. Often minding our way through the world we go with no awareness of our body or feelings in a way that could support greater health and joy. We are not making up the world in our mind totally. We have many pieces to ourselves that we can be aware of and use as knowledge to get ourselves on track. Don't discredit your emotions, your body or your state. It is all you have to experience this plane. Give it some love, some attention and some tune it. That is multidimensional living. Rest, care and down time is part of it. You don't need to feel bad for noticing life sucks for the moment. You can gently care for yourself to renew through it. Knowing that your energy will replenish and greater joy is right around the corner.
This is how we get through the hard times. We notice, we feel, we sooth ourselves and we recover. Like the animal we are, we go sleep in our space and do gentle things until it has passed. Our mind needs to quiet down for a bit so the rest of us can catch up. It is the power of caring for you as you do all others. It is a powerful healing tool that is always available. We know it but more importantly, use it! It is your path back into an magnificent life!
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