See the Goodness!

People often ask my how I can be so happy and kind. I often am  more forgiving than most, I open to many chances with others, I trust in the world and I anticipate goodness to come from all things. Today, as I think of why I see the world like this, I realize maybe  it is because I have been around alot of death. Not those close to me, but those who have lost others since I was in high school.  It really has inspired me to be open to what is here and now. 

After time, only the good remains of others. Yes,we all hold things against others in protection but I don't hold on too long. It seems senseless and time will wash it away. I try to embrace that and remember the good.  To take that forward. In the end, it is all that matters. Regrets and guilts are useless.  I don't want to carry them forth. When people pass, the good things are what are missed and the oddness or behavior that was not so brilliant is forgotten. So I have used this learning for all people. To remember the good. We all do wacky things and that is not who we are. We are bright inside.  I see and seek that in others. I let the rest go. 

Often when others are not so fine, it is stress in life that causes reactions. We get the spin off. It's just how it is. When we are stressed, we act in ways that are not who we are. They are responses, Others can get offended or hurt. We don't mean to do that. We are just working out issues and confused, so we do messy things. We all have done this so I give myself and others this benefit. I know it is not often as personal as it seems or feels. 

We don't know what is around the corner. As we get older, we see more people pass on and we realize we all will.  It becomes so important to really value what is now and appreciate it. I try to clear up issues, let go of past things and move on toward good  remembering the good that was. Many friends I am no longer in contact with. I still remember the fun, the greatness and support that was there and consider there is a time for everything. Maybe now we are different, have divergent paths, whatever that separates us need not be an issue. We can still recall what was good and keep that with us, letting the rest go.

Holding grudges, judgments, anger just has no positive health purpose. It is useless to keep such stuff inside us. It takes up room where more could come in. It all washes away anyway at some point and it doesn't matter. We all move onto new things. So I seek the good in what was, let go of the bad and direct toward more new good. It is energy efficient, as my teachers would say,  "Hold onto only what fuels well."  Keeping your energy positive, your focus on what is good and move forward with better energy rathan than weighted down by negativity. 

I inspire you to clear out what old is within that just isn't worth remembering. If the past comes forward, review it, let it go and I often say, "Who cares?'" Let by gones be by gones. I don't want to hold crap and pain inside. I want to recall good and fun. We are alive. Love is the healer and joy it's expression. Keep this in mind and put it into practice. If creates health and happiness. We chose to keep kindness in our hearts and let the rest go. We can seek new positive things from our learning and not be bogged down by it. Update your past. Allow the good of relationships to be with you. Let the rest go and if they are gone, be thankful for the fun and even glad they are. Who cares. The next moment is waiting for attention. It just may have something really good to fill you with.