be In moving, I went through many of my things to reorder and found some old notes on Tantra. I was inspired to read them this morning and it was delightful to remind myself of this wonder. I learned tantra as a way of learning and developing yourself so you could be better in relationship. Understanding the poles of masculine and feminine within you, supports you to interact more fully and harmoniously with others.
What struck me today was the idea of "Goddess" in woman. Woman are Goddesses. The Divine Feminine principle of God is Goddess, I am a woman and want to be my full expression of femininity, my divine nature as a woman. We are different than men in most all ways. Our culture doesn't inspire us to cultivate the ways of woman as a daily practice. It is a masculine run world and business clearly set up and running in this way. The issue with this is that we are all developing ourselves in these ways and the Goddess practices and traditions don't get their due. As woman we need to develop our way that is a bit different.
Woman have lost the sense of womanliness in this culture. We don't nourish and develop ourselves in the ways of woman. It is not just of beauty and outward looks of delight deemed oddly by our society. It is cultivating our nourishing, nurturing creative nature. In not doing this, our essential nature is being lost and our health, wish fulfillment and natural way is not getting cultivated as it did in the past. Our flowing creative nature, has given way to production, logic and efficiency. These are great principles but the ways of nourishing do not get filled by them. As nurturers, we can not develop these qualities for ourselves or others if we are not cultivating this feminine side of ourselves. Our relationships with all people, especially ourselves, are not going to be nourished through production principles.
Femininity is very changing and flowing. It has great freedom and openness in expression and rarely does the same things. It is adaptable, flexible, changeable, creative and freeing. Dance versus march is a good way to sense the direction or rhythm of it. In marching through life, which is good for men, woman have lost much expression of this feminine, Goddess nature that occurs with a dancing, more flowing vibration.
Self development is key to relationships with others. To know and cultivate happiness, joy within ourselves is to find greater flexibility and cooperation with others. Having practices that develop your individual essence and nature are very important in all things especially relationships. Otherwise we are seeking fulfillment outside ourselves in things and others and we will not find that they fill us.
What struck me today was that woman really don't take a lot of time to put forth energy to develop this nurturing quality for themselves, toward themselves. It is the age old self care that is talked of everywhere yet not really done properly. When woman strengthen their sense of their own beauty, feminine flow, changing nature and emotions, allowing this great expression, they are doing this self care. Having practices or rituals that develop our beauty, our sense of playing, our gliding adaptable nature and giving honor and delight in it, are key to this feminine expression of divinity. Loving our emotional, feeling nature as part of the heart and nourishing we add to the world, is paramount. We are often so disconnected from this flow of feeling, flow of playfulness, flow of creativity. It is not just doing an artistic project, it is approaching all life in a very artistic, changing, creative, evolving way. This is very different from production, order, logic, system mechanics.
This honor of myself, the developing of my beauty through honoring my sacred feminine body, really feeling my feelings deeper, allowing my creativity to be present in all things can always go further. To give myself permission to know myself as a Goddess, open to the exploration and expression of this nourishing divine principle is my intention after reviewing tantra. Our culture of thinking doesn't support the feeling way of woman. We do things for different purposes, using the tools of the intuition and heart, from a caring space that flows naturally and nourishes gracefully. Making sense of things is not always the way.
Combining all of our nature, blending the thinking and feeling parts is the natural blend of Mother Father God. The Mother God or Goddess part not very present or cultivated outwardly in our world. Without this, we are all unbalanced in relationship within ourselves and with others. No harmony can exist if there is no balance between the yin and yang, femininity and masculinity, giving and receiving aspects of the world.
Quite interestingly as well, when we do take the time to cultivate or express in these Goddess ways, there is a bit of againstness towards this practice. Woman and men alike often consider it frivolous or not a good use of time. That is clearly a masculine "thinking" yet we all love to be allured by beauty, lightened up by a playful spirit and enticed to relax, flow and enjoy the moments. Who will do these things if the woman do not live in the way they were created essentially? We are the peacocks. the mothers, sisters and lovers, the relaxers, the beautifiers, the playful, giggly ones, the calm, peaceful forces. It is not only woman who have these qualities, yet we are the sources of such things by our very nature of being a woman. And why we were given the honor to birth life.
I am inspired by this reflection today to go deeper into my wonder of being my womanly self. When I am filled within, by my own work, my own honor of me and nourishing of my spirit, I am better able to be in harmony with others. I have greater flexibility, less expectation of others, greater energy to give and flow, creative solutions come forward and I allow myself to be my silly, fun spirit that glides about the world in a wispy way. Not trying to be too ordered that creativity can't exist. Not too caught up in routine that I become mechanical or stiff. Marching when necessary but dancing the rest of the time which is most of the time.
Yes I do honor being a woman! The Art of Being a Woman is just that. It is artistic, flowing, creating, adaptable, charming and mysterious, communicating in ways greater than words, youthful and playful, passionate and beautiful to be and observe. Thank you Mother God, Goddess! We are divine in such a magnificent way. I vow to cultivate and honor it more in this year ahead.
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