Ways to Manage Your Empathic Gift!

We all have the ability to feel our environments and others for we are all made of the same stuff, energy. In fact, we already are using this empathic gift unknowingly in many cases. It is part of the gift of the 6th sense as well as part of being in a field of energy.

Our senses are the gatekeepers of this information. All our senses are tuning into our environments and others constantly. If we are not in our body, participating in  our senses, busy thinking all the time, we miss all this information in our conscious awareness. Our body still records the sensual experience and happenings it is experiencing. We are unaware. Often we are minding and not at all tuning in to the sensory stimulation or radio waves of feelings. We are missing an awful lot of life and the environmental signals around us. 

We are in this sea of energy, which is emotions, energy moving. How can we manage this gift of feeling? How do we know what is us or ours from what is another's? How do we discern this energetic world? This multidimensionality we are becoming conscious of? Many books are written on it and classes taught. I teach  about it in my Awaken Your Magical Woman  as well as wrote a chapter in my book, The Lotus Project, the Art of Being a Woman.

Most importantly, this is a process of learning.  This subtle energetic nature  has been happening our whole life. To become aware of something that is happening when we were unaware of it, is a practice and process. There is no one, two, three program to do it. To be masters of this emotional, energetic nature takes play and practice. This is our sixth sense to consciously tune into invisible fields of energy through sensing. It is developed and we learn as we do it. 

That said, there are a few important factors to keep in mind. Do know it is a practice so I offer that you play with becoming aware of yourself, your feelings. The first part is to know your own emotions! You must know what you are feeling, when you are feeling it and be very accurate with yourself. Often we stuff down feelings, hide them, say we don't feel something when we do. We hide it from ourselves. No wonder we are confused! Have awareness of yourself and tune in. Know your own feelings and pay attention to them. Notice when you sense anger and annoyance or frustration or joy. Most people have no idea what they are feeling until it blows up in intensity.

If you get tuned into your own feeling, your energy vibe, then you can tell what others energy vibe is because you know what it feels like. Anger is anger, joy is joy, no matter who feels it. We all have the same emotional frequencies. We may not know why one feels the way they do but we can certainly feel the feel of it. Knowing what anger feels like inside, allows you to sense anger in others. Body language helps yet most often people hide their feelings.

To one tuned to empathy, you can't hide for it is a frequency in the room. If they know what that frequency feels like, they know when it is present. If it is not their feeling, then they will know it is the others. It is basic but takes skill to know your own emotions and frequencies of them. Then you can easily decipher yours from others. People often deny their feelings and are unaware.

 How to protect yourself and all else must first come from an awareness of knowing you and your state. Not what you think you feel but what you feel. Then when you co mingle with others, you know your state and then can start to sense their state different than yours. Sometimes it is obvious. As woman, we feel a room without thinking. It is so natural that we don't even realize we are doing it.  As we embody this emotional mastery, it makes the world a whole new magical place and we can read it in more clarity. 

If you know your own emotion,  when go near another, you can perceive them. You can start to see how environments and moods of others effect you. You can watch the play of energy around you. You have to be aware and observing, not minding. Our mind often tricks us or is in thinking so this sensing can be  missed unless we are embodied.

Often we take in energy, feelings of places and people and then try to get rid of them like they are our own. It doesn't  work and  it could circle us into anxiety or depression. Trying to fix an emotion or state that is not ours can't be done. An easy question if you are in this wondering why am I so "whatever feeling" when it seems to make no sense is to ask yourself, "Is this mine?" Yourself will quickly answer you with whose it is! So it is easy to then let it go and move back into yourself. Just one simple question, "Is this mine?' If it is not then, "Whose is it?"

The last thing I will share for now about this gift is the purpose of it. We have empathy so we can know what people need without them asking us. As babies have needs, we sense what they are without them voicing it. We have this magic, built in, sensing mechanism that is always noticing our environment and others feeling or energetic state. It allows us to nourish others easily, designed by our very nature. It is a tool of compassion and service. This gift allows us to support others around us by tuning into what we are sensing and then offering what is needed. Healers often have a very developed gift with this.

The issue  that we run into, happens when we ride  in the harder emotions with others. Our gift can use us instead of us using it.  For example, both my parents died of cancer. So if I talk to one who has cancer or has a family member that does, I know what that whole situation feels like. As they begin to share, I sense with empathy my experiences of it.  I know what they need at that moment. I know the nourishing solution that will help them. So I feel, empathize with them and then I drop the gift and offer what I know will help. This is using my gift rightly. 

Often, we empathize and go into our own past experience as they are sharing their current experience and that is where we go wrong. It is not a gift to relive our past while another is in crisis. It is a gift to connect, walk in their shoes for a moment, long enough to have compassion, know what they need  and then drop the connection. Otherwise we are both now in very low vibe together and sinking further. If I don't go into my old emotion of when I was there, I can use my higher vibration to offer love, support, what is needed to lift them. If I allow myself to revel in my past tale as they tell theirs and stay in their shoes, we both get more in crisis. Do you see that little nuance that shifts using the gift and being used by the gift?

The cool thing about this sensing is that we can also ride others joy, success and  enthusiasm! It works with positive emotions too. If I am down and ride someones up, I can lift myself through this empathy. Not by taking their energy but by feeling the vibe and letting it lift! Unconsciously we are doing this for it is all energy. I don't consider energy vampires. Most people are so unaware. They are just naturally feeling higher vibrations and the law of nature is that two vibes will medium out. So you go low, another goes higher. This can be easily stopped with awareness. 

This is when boundaries come in. We offer others our high vibe when we chose to and if we don't have enough to share, we don't allow the exchange. It is knowing yourself, your feelings that allows  control of this gift. We get so lost in our minds, in our panic and rush that these energetic laws will happen and we won't be aware. We are playing in fields of energy every moment. It is fun and fascinating when you have awareness. I inspire you to know yourself better, then you won't have so much confusion of this world of your emotional nature and energy flowing.

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