Everyone loves the buzz word freedom but what is that really? Are we free when we are in our 20's, open to do what we want? The world says get a job and be steady and save. Are we free after we get married? Then everyone acts like your tangled and asks when will you have children? Then we do the family things and I certainly wouldn't say that is considered freedom. So when are we free? When we hit midlife and our kids are grown or when we are kids and everything is handled for us?
i take a different look on it and it doesn't have to do with our outside conditions. If it does, then there really is no freedom per se. However if we consider freedom is doing what is best for us despite outside conditions, then I think we are more on track. Freedom is a state of mind. It is choosing what will make us happy, delighted and in joy. Any other definition is not reality for we all have to pay bills, do family, manage chores, so absolute freedom is not real here.
Our forefathers wrote of freedom of choice. Choice to decide what works for us and not be impinged on by others. That is freedom, the choice to do what works within the conditions but not being run by them. It all sounds good and dandly but how hard is that? Everyone wants to tell you what to do, how to look, what to be and some image of success which I still don't understand for those acheiveing that image, don't look so delighted.
So freedom to me is a choice to be yourself, against all conditioning, programs, societal views and family patterns. A big task at that for we only seem to get the outer reward when we follow the proposed rules! As one who has not on many levels and still doesn't, let me tell you it takes courage to truly live freedom. Cast about, talked of and criticized is the least of it. Yet what is the reward?
it is the power to be yourself! Your true being without worry of judgement, projecting and playing the game. It is quite freeing and delicious but not for the uncourageious. I like myself, my path, and know the value of my teachings and story. Yet many do not and they love to let me know exactly how off I am. So it is a bit unsettling. Kind of a dual sworded situation. I get to fully enjoy myself and my way yet I am not fully accepted in all circles. So how do I manage this freedom of being?
No one is accepted in all circles truly, so to think all will love us fully as we are is a myth. Those who do, naturally gravitate to us and those who don't, fall away. It is a challenge to our side that wants to be loved and recognized. Yet if I am recognized for "playing' a role, then I don't feel so good. So I say, be free and learn your way to be you. There is greater deliciousness in being yourself and being not so liked than in being not you and being not truly loved either for the true your.
I have been through quite the ringer in the last three years yet I have been brilliant enough to find study and tools to keep me on track of true happiness. True freedom is really an inner state. It is being able to adapt, feel good, adjust yourself and flow with whatever comes your way based on an inward space. Then the outer is what it is. There is strife, judgement, chores and drama outside. But freedom to me exists inwardly as I chose what to do and how to play it based on my core and compass.
The world is full of hoopla, crappy rules and tales that will not lead us to our best self. To do that, we must develop our inward nature to be steady to ourselves and work with what ever occurs outside. It is a travel I can tell you, but the rewards so great when you are truly true to you. To me this is what freedom means. I can not please most, and my direct, honest way bothers many. My human error creates judgement as well. But deep inside, my compass is a loving girl, wanting to support growth and love and putting forth all my heart to do that.
It doesn't always come out so good but I own that. I like who I am. I like how I try and what efforts I put forth in the world to educate, love and share joy. No one is for everyone but I do love my freedom to be me! I break the rules, I mess up, I go crazy but I do give it my all and it is true soul learning. This is the freedom I inspire you to consider! Who really cares if others don't like your ways, judge you or criticize? Isn't that already happening?
I would rather be true to my mystical girl and go wrong, than try to be "normal" and be shunned just as well. So find your freedom. The world is designed to have many unique, fun, flipping odd folks in it. So add your flavor! It is much better a place when all are true to themselves. Then we can truly flourish rather than all pretending to be whatever it is we are supposed to be! It is killing the spirit! So forgive yourself for being a unique version of spirit that doesn't quite fit in! I have yet to meet one following the rules and being themselves!
Be free to be you! The delight you feel will far outweigh the judgments or gossip about you. It all becomes humorous and from my spirit school, you have reached enlightenment when you can giggle about it all!
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