Self development is about seeing what is really going on. We love to romance things and use our mind to logic our way into places that we know inside somewhere are not our true expression. Patterns, beliefs we were raised with, ideas of how we want things to be allow us to live in illusion of what is really going on. This plane of 3 dimensions is called a school and Maya or Mara, the great illusionary kingdom. 

We know things we thought yesterday, today we don't believe anymore. Our experiences shape what we believe and how we operate. It is ever changing, growing and we are becoming. So how do you see your way through to truth or the truth of the moment? We need time to look and reflect. Usually it shows up as dismay or disturbance in our lives. Something isn't right and it calls us to its attention. That is where we work to uncover our true nature. It is learning in the sense we experience things and we decide that we don't want them anymore. So we see how we are creating them. What silly belief or limited view is blocking full vision. How are we messing with ourselves and not being authentic? Then how do we reorder or rework it. Unfortunately our lives don't have alot of room in it for this reflect or stillness. Yet to have the best life, we must make it part of our lives. 

I find I am often uncovering the same beliefs over and over, deeper and deeper, in yet another area in my life where that block is working. It is the onion unlayering we hear of. Often the same aha moment just richer, wider, more expanded and deeper at the root. So much of our illusion is created when we were small and didn't quite understand the world as we do today. We created these weird pictures of the world that today we just need to grow up. Nonsensical unconscious. It is unconscious, not known. So we bring the light of consciousness to rework it. 

Since it was created when we were small we stacked experience on top of experience and created these tangles over time about what is real in the world and ourselves. I find it kind of funny for it is a ball of unwinding. You don't always have to do it consciously and know though, that is where spiritual light can just untangle it. Intention the power not mind or understanding. It is how we are set up so prayer, chatter with others, meditation, these things have a power that can support and we don't necessarily have to know or understand. It is good to have a way to develop your spirit so this spirit of you can clear some things up to for it knows the game here. This wiser part of us knows and can support us for we are not always in connect or using it for our lives. 

I call them lucid moments when suddenly I see what is happening. I am not in the emotional story, it is like being above it and the plot so clear, the mess so evident, the solution easy. Through self development or uncovering our spirit, we can have these supportive moments come forward more often and in the areas we need. It isn't like a systematic or set way this occurs. It is more that we have the intention to be our real best selves as our direction, we work it and then many magic things can occur. I am not sure how to explain it but through my process to express my true spirit, unfoldment comes.

It is not easy for we are shifting an illusion and it is in an area that has disturbance going. Yet it is clearing up a challenging part of our life thus ourselves. Another and another will come for as I said it is the plane of learning. It is ok. That is what is going on here. So we flow with it, make tracks, develop our connect to our spirit more each time and sail for a bit in shining

. Then another change or wind or occurance, unbalance comes forth and we do the clearing up of things again. Simpler it becomes, yet deeper it is. That is why we call it Light! We bring in the Light to areas. We eventually get the light on it and we clear up. But all that new light works us to find some more dark that has to be lit up and cleared. This is what is happening. Each time we become more of ourselves, more light filled and more aware of how we create.

The good news is our power of true spirit does get to be in greater control. When that happens, more magic and synchronicity, serendipity, coincidence shows up and life has a lighter feel. it is a worthy thing this creative self development. I inspire you to be involved in this as consciously as you can. When you are, miracles occur everywhere and THAT makes life much more joyous. Pain is part of here but so is joy. For me finding my spirit and connecting as well as expressing it is how I get to have more joy here among the pain!

We clear consciously for a lighter view. It is happening anyway so may as well use it all for upliftment!

We all have our own way to do things yet there is a described way to do business, to do this and that. Everyone acts like you should do it your own way but how many times have you and someone rolls in with criticism?? I have had that happen my whole life. Others feeling the need to improve me and the system I use. "Why do you do it that way Lyn? Or how is that going to work? "Wanting me to offer some science that has proof or fits in with preferred practices. Well..... it just isn't the way things work for me!

My whole life I have listened, tried to blend my style with the way of things. I have  attempted to shift to the way it works and guess what? It never works for me!!! FINALLY, I am going to full force do life the way that feels right and perfect for me! It is still a challenge with the opinions and concepts of others who seem to think they can improve my method or don't understand how my way will lead me right. Yet I have realized through my experience that I can accomplish best when I use my own magical way.

I have no real science to it other than that it works. Creatives roll through the world differently. There is a different pace or timing we use. It is whimsical, rhythmic, appears not to be work, flows in an un-syncopated way. It is not a task master, logical route. It is more like a swirl that flows in many directions at once but leads to the same point as the other. There is a focus, a plan that is more lose yet directed. It is just how it works for me. It looks like a mishmash but out of it comes great production. 

I need to look at tasks from a playful angle or i won't want to do them. If I am not all on board fully, I don't give my best and then I am doing things half throttle. I am  realizing how to work with myself to get the best results. It goes against the systems I have been taught. It looks like I am not working. Many get annoyed at how I operate for I get results and make it look like fun! I would tame myself down, try to be more solemn doing things, quiet up, get serious, all those things that just aren't my nature. Why? Because our society expects a certain way of being and we do get shunned if we don't fit the standard. It just is what it is.

This new age, the creatives will get their place. I may not get to see it fully but it is the way the world is going. Why? Because to get the best selves of everyone, the individual path must be honored. There are no cookie cutter people or true said paths to anything. Give 4 people a task and 4 ways will be created. We are given the gift of creative mind to solve issues in unique, fun ways that are endless. The evolution of this creative mind is the step coming forward. It is a more magical, exciting path! New ways, easier  methodologies, out of the box roads are being forged before our eyes. Our world needs this for a whole humanity to get along and solve together.

We are becoming more aware of the greater whole we are. As that expands, ways to work together in harmony will take creative, unusual paths that have never existed. So we need all to be their best self so we can get the best work out of them. All the individuals make the whole and each has a one of kind way offering their unique mix to it. So we need them in that unique power so they can add their piece to the solution. We need that or we will not find the answers. Honoring the individual way is paramount. 

At this time it is the initiators, innovators, inventors that are leading into this way. We have set methodologies that are agreed upon that effect us from stepping out in our individuality. Peer pressure or pack mentality scares us to step out for ridicule and criticism comes at us. At some point, the magical creator within us can stay tamed no longer. It must express and be no matter what others think. It is a force, the uniqueness we came here to share. I am embracing this part of me and supporting others to do the same. We will reach a tipping point where more will find their power in this than the trying to fit in to the sameness mentality. 

I am doing a 90 day "challenge" and doing it my way. I am considering it an expansion of self rather than competitive project. I do not thrive on challenge. I learn from them but I certainly don't want to create anymore than the world throws at me. I make money in ways that have no rhythm. When I need things, some project comes in. I did a wedding this fall and 2 days before it, the bride added another 30 centerpieces! That is unheard of but at that moment in time i needed a couple thousand dollars and guess what, it cost that to create her day. How could I have seen that coming? Or planned it? Synchronicity, serendipity, all those things come in out of plan. I wander more about in the world and things just show up in the oddest ways. I find myself in places wondering why I am there and suddenly in comes the reason and it is perfectly something I was doing or needed. 

This to me is the magical way to live. This is why I teach others to be magical. Not like some dark magician creating manipulation. Like a force of creativity that flows with the larger wave of life, allowing the greatness to participate. We are not in full charge but going in our direction fully. Then all the things about us can move and fall into place. It is like we are the director of ourselves to stay true and the rest is happening and we fit into it with this more open presence. 

So I inspire us all to do it our own way. We need all the magical creators to integrate this greater experience we are in. If we do not allow this creativity that we have as individuals to express, it creates shadows pieces in us and plays in destructive ways. That is our shadow. Our unique way that the world has asked us to hide to fit in.  A life of this has causes us to be addicts, do hidden behaviors, be less integrated and authentic. Then we beat ourselves up for doing these "wrongs". Yet that force that causes these destructive behaviors is the very magic that just wants to be it's unique self. It is quite a quagmire!!

Meanwhile we are "medding" out this great wonder we are. Hiding it. Pretending we are this or that in very subtle ways. It is just how the world is set up at this time. Yet it is opening and I am a force to support this greater way. This honor of the individual and uniqueness.  There is some really cool magic out in this world when you start to open and work in this way. The old methodology is missing it for it is too limited in its vision and scope! 

This is how my magical self sees it. I inspire you all to take yet another look at yourself and the world and find your own, magical way to see it. Drop the limits, the proposed way and expand into your own way. It is greatly needed! Life is way more fun too!! You can be open in your expression and this magic force in you has great power to create. Take it out of the dungeon and play with it!!

I came upon a personal crisis that had to do with money. This is a big fear to many and we have long term patterns regarding this. I have worked to shift my thinking on abundance of wealth on all levels so this was a true test. We all get afraid when we feel lack or don't see a solution to any challenge. Being a single woman, just getting my own place which is a stretch financially, creating a new career, I am definitely in the bold move club. I knew it was the next step of empowerment so went for it knowing that sometimes you just leap and see if your spirit of faith and trust supports you.

I am reaping the many benefits of my own space but was challenged when expected money didn't flow in. I had a back up plan so I thought, "I can do this." Then Monday morning, the back up plan had an unusual occurrence that made it not work. Normally, I have a large cash stash but the move has it a tad low. I went into panic, fear and the usual self questioning that occurs in pattern especially in crisis. I was smart enough to notice and observe and thought, "I was through with this wasn't I?"  I was being tested to my resolve, I knew that and  my being didn't want to go into the pattern of fear. I redirected my thought quickly and knew I would be over this in a few days. I felt better but my mind started frantically searching for a solution.

When frantic is around even in your mind, you are still in panic so I decided to use my tools. First I held my finger, a Jin Shin technique for fear to calm your nervous system. Then I decided to meditate to see if solution could come in through connecting with my highest self or atleast calm me down. Earilier a wealthy  friend had mis-texted me and I was kind of annoyed for it was meant for another.  During meditation, I realized this was no accident for he was wealthy, I was feeling money pressure. Hmmm! I stepped into his  energy field of money and felt, i got this.  I pretended I was him, felt being a billionaire and suddenly, my issue seemed small. This is a power of using the imagination. A clue as to how to get above what was appearing as a panic.

This shifted me to calmer waters and I thought,"I have all day to find a solution and truly believed one would come". I also shared my fear with others knowing that help comes from others in advice, support or often just from naming your fear. Later in the day, a solution came in, one offered support. A part of me wanted to have some miracle greater come in, where I did it all by myself. I had to redirect and instead of feeling bad for needing assistance, consider this works. Not how I wanted something different rather see the solutions appeared. Give up the  " oh you need help and that makes you weak "thinking! I have helped many others and sometimes that is the miracle. God works through others. It was a solution for the moment . I relaxed. 

Then along came yet another event that made the financial situation stressed again. " Your kidding me!!"   An error from a supplier  created an added layer to the scene. I started to go back into the fear.  I recovered quickly though, for the stuff I did earlier, remembering my power. Remembering,  I always make it  somehow. I just kept saying you can do this. Even though they seemed like words, I just kept saying them. I kind of giggled at it though, saved one minute then challenged again. I consider this is the work of the Lord o Karma! Can you really keep above your pattern?

It was kind of funny for I saved the first situation, felt good and then along came another. It was truly a lesson in watching myself, my emotions, thinking and physical sense. Crisis is like that, it keeps coming and that is why it is a crisis. Really being aware and observing yourself is truly the path. Although you start in your repetitive thinking, you can stop it sooner, use tool after tool til you calm down. Then you don't ruin your week just maybe a few hours. You also stop the energy of swirling down before yet another thing comes in. Energy is like that, it attracts to the same.  That's why we often run into slew of bad things. The energy collects about the same energy.   

Crisis is filled with cortisol and adrenaline. it really effects our physical state which effects our mental and emotional state. At moments we can be really clear, like in an emergency which is what adrenaline is for. But only for a bit. When we extend it to hours or days, we start to get foggy, confused, tired, agitated and disempowered. It can become a chronic state of how we move and it is not clear so solution seems far off.

I am still finding my way through this untangle but it was averted, my pattern shifted sooner and I walk through the rest of the details.  Nobody likes to challenge themselves in any area. This could of been a health crisis, an emotional crisis, any of them all call us to step into our power. Money is the perfect one for me as I am stepping into a different level of financial responsibility. 

Later that day, I found a misplaced  $100 bill. Cash makes me feel powerful. It was also another layer to this "crisis". How could I lose a big bill? Well after all this work, shifting my state, calming down, suddenly it appeared. That chuckled me. It gave me this surge of power. Yes you got this girl! Step by step we ascend. It really is a mental game and playing with energy, mind and action. I did it. Found my stash to begin again, solved my issue, had a playful giggle at my fear and danced in celebration for the $100 bill.

Recap:
Notice,
Use shifting tools, (Jin shin, Mediation, flower essences or oils could of worked, as many others)
Share with others
Be open to support on whatever level
Keep your eye on solution or outcome.
Dance that you shifted and got through!

Onto the next thing! And blessing to the support of others! 

​As I journey through continually learning of my body, especially as a woman for we learn not much about the feminine body, I find that gentle movement and treatments are greater support to me. I find my body more powerful and lean through this honor of its flow and flexibility. It grows my power of shape with greater grace and ease. I am thankful for I am not into push or hard.  I have tried it and proved to myself that it is not good for my beautiful body.

I got a treatment yesterday of Feldenkrais therapy which I think is the most fascinating thing for building your body and learning of it. I share Tia chi health, dance and other Eastern arts so I am educated in flow for the body and how it effects our health more powerfully through gently working with it. This therapy yesterday was so educational in experiencing the power of how connected all parts of the body are. The greatest learning was that I was not standing in my feet fully and that was glitching my body up at the neck because of my riding my feet to lightly. It was amazing that as she worked on my feet, showing me how using the edges was not using the power of my full foot and energy or power. As she showed me the way I was riding and the way I could use all of my feet by grounding, I could feel the energy clear through my body to my head.

Standing tall, fully in your feet, feeds the whole body with energy. Grounding it is called, using the support of the earth and the blessed full feet we have, electrified me with energy.  Filling my legs fully  powered all the way up, opened my heart and shoulders, expanded my rib cage, relieved my neck and widened me in a good way.. To feel this while laying down was truly amazing. I had to share this magic of grounding in your feet so you to could observe yourself to see how to feel greater power and energy in your body.

Grounding, standing on the ground, feeling its support is something I know. We hear it, we do it but to experience the power that we are missing by not fully standing in our feet was amazing. We don't fully engage our legs which causes us to use our hips and shoulders in less open ways, creating constriction and often pain. It was so simple that I was awestruck at how just simply becoming aware of my feet fully engaging with the earth could electrify the energy in my body. You hear to ground and maybe you do that but to really feel the full power of it was new to me in this way. A body presence is necessary and a subtle sensing of all your parts. Indeed this simple learning and adjustment in how I embody my body has energized me today in a new way. 

We do these things yet don't know the power to the subtly of presence in our bodies. When we begin to use our senses fully and pay attention on these other levels, we can have more power by not doing much of anything but correcting inhabiting our body. I am continually surprised by how I can keep learning of these most simple body mechanics and be more powerful and energized. It is an amazing learning that inspires me to continue on my mission to support others to tap into their bodies, their senses so they too can have more pleasure and joy, power in their bodies. It is not about doing more or strengthening through movement always but just being fully in your body with all consciousness. Retraining how we ride in it.

Ease and grace is my motto. Why? So I do it, so I enjoy it, so I can find health and beauty for I engage and understand how and why. This was so powerful. I don't know how I was walking before but I can feel myself stand straighter, glide really about rather than tip toe topsy turvy. I never would of gotten such an understanding of how to walk, how the use the ground, how to "ground" as it is called in a new way and stall tall. I feel my whole body, the power in my legs, the opening of my rib cage, heart,  the widening of my shoulder and, ease in my neck. Truly amazing therapy and learning.!!

So glad I am curious to check out all these healing arts!! Great Goddess Play!

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 Dayana Pereira
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This is the topic for all woman!! Men seem to have a better handle on taking care of themselves and their needs. As a stay at mom for most of my life, I was used to other care and the catch all for most of the community. I was available for sick kids, airport runs, hospital visits, flat tires, all kinds of odd emergencies. I enjoyed being the grounder and one available. After my daughter grew up and left, it was apparent my role was different and being me in a new way was up for creation.

When I became a minister, my goal was to learn self ministry, a very important part of ministry. I knew how to care for others and often over cared in ways or atleast put others needs first. I believe this is part of being a woman, nourisher, our innate role that does delight and fuel us. However, with the onset of being in the workforce, trying to run a home and take care of others, self care has dropped out and near impossible. We don't seem to know how to do this or give ourselves enough. Then we get upset that no one cares for us but we act limitless. We need to share what that is and often, it is something we can only give to ourselves. This is a big quagmire for femininity at this time. We hear about self care, we try to do it yet we often fall short of doing it in a way that fills us enough.

I was awakened to how, the true value and energy from self care by Woman Masters in Femininity. It is a continual journey that I find so delicious! It is being given permission to manage myself first and then I have the most power. We hear these words but when you really practice this daily, it is the most expanding, sensual experience that just keeps getting better. Your Shakti, this well of energy within us is blocked by our current thinking and culture. When we learn of this energy well, begin to do the things that activate it that are easy, natural and fun for us, we have boundless energy to serve and support. It is truly a magic teaching yet so present in us all as woman.

Learning of our body, how it flows, what oxytocin is and how to get in this state bring us health easily. We are cruising in the wrong nervous system most of the time so we begin to train our body through easy ways of being that we love as woman. In fact, if it is hard, it is not healthy for woman. Just is. The no pain no gain is not for woman! It is a masculine principle and we are so entrenched with. It must be hard or we can't find true health is wrong for woman. Our bodies are pleasure vehicles of sensuality. Pain kills our sensory connection and the connection to our gift of intuition.

Yep, and people will battle me on this. Science will prove it soon enough. Why wait when it is the truth of our body and has been part of our sacred femininity for all time. We just don't have the feminine community that we have spent thousands of years in over the last 75 years so the knowledge has been lost to us. The wisdom is always around and in this time of "divine feminine" the truths, the health, the practices, the stories, the Goddess way is resurrecting back to our world and culture. You may think against it or feel it is not for you but you are a woman and this is your heritage, the wisdom of being a sacred woman. This art and magic has been lost yet it is our true nature.

I often wonder when people tell me, "You like Goddess and I just don't buy into that as a woman". It is almost like an oxymoron. Really? There is a masculine, Father God and feminine principle, Mother God, in this earth existence. Two poles. How could you not embrace that which you are? We are woman and Goddess is the divine representation of divinity in feminine form. What is there to reject or not buy into? It is the lost wisdom of woman that creates all this odd thinking and competitive disturbance among woman that are truly the great collaborative nourishers of all things. 

We all do things our own way and each is perfect. I embrace the wisdom of self care, Shakti, Blessed Mother wisdom, Persian Red Tent knowledge that we had longer than not. As you learn it, it is amazingly simple and delightful for it is all about femininity and if your a woman, this stuff is in our DNA. Self care, the right kind, understanding our body and selves as dynamic change and will o wisp beings we are is the quickest way to health and a magical life experience. I was blessed to be open, challenge my cultural untruths, play with these ideas and find it to be so transforming I have made it my purpose! 

So ladies, I invite you to investigate and participate in daily self care! Little by little you learn to honor yourself in ways that delight. It is all about delight and pleasure with woman. If it does that, it gives your health and juicy essence. It is that simple. We play with life, we make love to life, we are the creatures of nourishing. We do it for others and the power you receive as you do it to yourself is 10 fold! You can help so many others in a more enjoyable way by reversing the order of care! Like magic! The nourishing forces of Blessed Mother, of Goddess. of Mother Nature all support us for it is our purpose and gift.

I encourage you to check out this Goddess, Divine Feminine, Red Tent Wisdom or Captivating Ideas!! It is magic and just part of who we are!  I co-host a day retreat quarterly at The Room at Meadowbrook called "How Lovely to Be Queen!" A whole day of self care practices, hour long Jin Shin treatment, self help, tai chi health, good food, inward time, dancing, numerology, lots of stuff. We only have at most 9 gals for it is intimate fun. You walk away after a full day of this with an understanding of how to nourish yourself furthermore and a plan you created. It is a delicious day and the results create magnificent health!!

Check out this self care study!! It is the most powerful transformation to woman, divine connection and health, beauty and magnetism I have found!! It is fun, playful and fulfilling on all levels!! Ooolala! 

I have been taught the easiest way through things is to love them. Not the love that we think of emotionally. Obviously when we are in challenge, loving it that way is not possible. It is more of a practice to bring in the vibration of love for it moves all things. Often I am screaming in anger that I love this! It kind of becomes funny as though those words and what is occurring don't even go together. Yet in the crack of a smile or the silliness of just saying that, there is a shift, a movement that lifts me ever so little from the stuck place to a lighter note. Often that is all it takes to get us rolling forward again.

Not that this is easy , but it is a simple practice, a play with words that can simply shift us toward a better state. Often that is all that is needed to shift conditions, make movements, open us to another idea, do something else, anything to move us from a resistant, solid position. As silly or simple as this is, I find it to be one of the most powerful tools I have to get myself through life and challenge, that is very simple. Life is fluid and anything can go haywire at anytime. The game to me, the Yoga of Living is to have all kinds of tools at your fingertips to inch you from feeling locked in to an emotion, a thinking or a physical circumstance. A small bit of shift is all it takes to keep going. Like singing in the rain!

You could make love to life on this level and find yourself getting out of stuck situations. Taking that idea out further, what if you considered just making love to all life in every minute as you strolled through? What if you made everything a pleasure or chose to extract pleasure out of all you did. This may be an easier practice for there is so much good that really goes on in a day that you could revel, savor and truly find the pleasure vibe in.

Imagine how your state, your health, your relaxation would be if you actually where making love to things and feeling the pleasure of it. The I love this feeling that gives you the oxytocin, champagne bubble in your body experience. Rather than dwell on what is crappy, dwell on what is good going on in as many moments as you can with all your body being. Not just mind thinking of good or emotions, feeling good but all of yourself!  Single focus on good, on feeling the vibe of the good and experiencing the good. Then when the not so good comes along, you are in the best position to handle it. For you are already in a good state so you are clearer, more calm and open to quicker, greater solution from this pleasure state.

These are the simple things, the momentary tools that living a life of health, beauty and joy encompass. They are not about these elaborate techniques or this extensive spiritual study to have more joy. They are momentary tools, playful ways to lighten up the heaviness in the world. Ways to see the world from a different perspective that changes your whole reality. In fact, perspective is all there is!

There is strife, challenge, hardship and responsibility in this world. It is what it is. We accept that and then learn faster ways to cooperate with it when it shows up. Consider this is the game we are in. How do you surf through the conditions of life with the most health and joy that you can? Then you begin to use your energy efficiently. You begin to stop getting caught in time wasting low vibe behavior by finding tools that energetically shift you out. It becomes like playing, like fun, like a game goal situation. The goal being, how can I shift myself from one place to another quickest. Sound and movement are quicker than thinking. Remember that for it is a gem of living in great joy.

This is where making love to it all is good direction! To me this is just extracting the pleasure out of things. If there is none present to be extracted, I shift my perspective to try to find some or as quickly as I can, move to the next place I can find pleasure in something. This pleasure seeking, hedonism you could call it is a great elixir. Why? It creates oxytocin, the hormone of the parasympathetic nervous system which is our rejuvenation system. Our system of healing, of rest, of renewal, of sustaining health and vitality. Knowing life is creating adrenal stress, it becomes the job of our spirit to find ways to get to the opposite of that as often as we can.

This is where true pleasure comes in. Pleasure can be found every where and I continue to expand what pleasure is, where I find it and create new ways to see it. I expand my understanding of it and it creates health. It supports finding and making love to all things. It opens my senses in greater ways to beauty, joy, lighter perspectives and humor. It is the greatest practice I was taught and continue to play with. It is a never ending tool in a good way..

I inspire you to use this affirmation to Make Love to Life. However that sinks in you. Whatever that means. It grows and expands in so many ways in a good  perspective. There is a giving and receiving to it. A co-mingling. A playfulness. A sensuality that involves all your body, emotions and mind. There is a spiritual quality to it. It involves it all. And it is fun! Easy! Simple. 

Check it out and see if it works to lift, create lightness and more happy in your life! It's like playing in the rain puddles my friends!
It is one of my mantras daily!!Make love to your life!

I have been sharing Sacred Femininity for years and it is so familiar to me that I often forget that others have no understanding or awareness of the power of being a woman. They know not of  energy well of Shakti. I hadn't either yet the sound of Sacred Femininity called me.  It is important that I find those who are seeking the wisdom I am sharing. It is a niche market so I continue on my mission to find my tribe. You can only know by putting it out there and seeing the response

In an effort to make connections, promote the Room and its spiritual workshops as well as my own work, I went to the usual business woman meeting yesterday. A lovely group of woman that seemed to have great sisterhood. As I was listening to each and what they do, which is in 10 seconds, the elevator speech, I felt this anxiety. The quick energy that each spoke, the businessy vibe of things and my own discomfort of sorts for this is not really the way  woman empower each other as I know it, I left the meeting feeling kind of stressed with this uncomfortable energy. I know when I spoke of myself saying I support woman to embody the Inner Goddess Glow,  an energy of not understanding pervaded the room. Many have clever phrases so I tried to do that with my work. Many don't even consider themselves a Goddess so maybe not so clever. 

We only have 10 seconds to share our work and how do I describe myself and my unique work in 10 seconds? It is the way business is done yet I am not sure just throwing out a quick word can describe the essence of Sacred Femininity. I am not a normal business coach or seller of products or have a retail store. I work with woman regarding their inner essence, their essential nature of being a woman, an art lost in our culture of business and life. You can do all the business you want, take courses to increase productivity, learn how to's yet none of this will create as much success as embracing yourself inwardly.

After I left, I fortunately had a Svaroopa Yoga Class and that recentered me back to my calm oxytocin state. In the interum, I really had to check within to see if this static, this anxiety was fear coming forward from expanding in new ways and groups or  was it a sign that I am in the wrong tribe. This is the point of self awareness, checking in  with yourself to learn what the message of your feeling nature is. It is a guidance system that supports you to know what or where to be involved. Many miss the importance of the emotional nature. It is an indicator of the world around you and gives you information on how to move.

I determined that this group just wasn't my tribe. I reached out and put forth my work and it just isn't the group for me. I know that what I teach and how I teach it is not common or something all woman want to embrace at this time.  Sacred Femininity stirs many of our outdated belief systems. When I wanted to call my book that years ago, the publisher thought it wouldn't sell as easy. She thought many woman haven't been taught the Sacredness of being a woman and they would unconsciously not get it for that title. So I am looking for woman wanting to expand beyond the belief systems we have regarding being a woman and open to being sacred as one. 

It is good learning to know your tribe. It is like selling sneakers to someone with no feet. They have no use or interest in footwear. As one of my teachers said, how can you share the magic of the womb and its creative power with woman who are blocked from their womb, don't know and don't want to know. So it was a good day of business for me to realize, through my own experience of how I felt and was received, that I am in the wrong place. This way you avoid feeling rejected or bad about yourself when you are just not in a place that resonates with what you are offering. Whether business or pleasure. Rejection is protection. Being rejected is guidance of "dont go there. Staying in places where we don't feel good to be yourself can cause more issue than realizing we just don't belong there. It is not good or bad it just is an indicator of where you feel safe and good.

We all have gifts that can awaken others to new things. Not all are on the same level and vibration so you can never please everyone. There is a discernment about your work that is very important. In my ministerial blessing there is a line that says, " and those that are in that ray are easily and openly reminded of the light and joy of spirit." The key is "in that ray". So there are other rays that I will not easily inspire. It is important that I don't take that as rejection but know when I am not inspiring, I am in the wrong tribe I learned of that this morning. It is a blessing and guidance.. I will keep going, for they are out there as I am inspired to find and  share what helped me. I will just keep going!

I recently joined a 90 Day Challenge with the Natural Life Business Partnership! I jumped in for Camille the founder got me enthused by her enthusiasm. An energy source hard not to ride. I considered this would move me to manage my life's work as Lyn Hicks in a new way. It has been on the back burner somewhat for I was busy managing other priorities. I wanted to make a personal commitment  to put this on the priority list. Often making an intention out loud, aligns our consciousness.

I was not in the mind set of beating myself up for not accomplishing this task yet. In transition, working with presence, other things were more important and showed up to handle. This is often the case for ourselves. We spend too much time beating ourselves up that we are not doing something and waste energy. There is never a reason to do that, it is energy wasting, we are not doing, we are mentalizing. Discipline is important but I see it more as direction. Directing myself toward my expansion, not contracting about what I haven't yet done.

That said, it seemed with the move behind me, the festival complete, gardening phasing out, it is time to consider how my Clinical Homeopathy, floral design and educating/mentoring can be presented to the world in a way that sings my heart. Many say I should pick one of these and do it hard. I am not of that philosophy. I am about being authentic and I enjoy these three ways to create money. I don't want to focus on just one for all are my wisdom I am called to share. I like that I am multidimensional, unique and have a mix of offerings. 

Being a woman, awakening to the Aquarian Age, the individual, the gifts and talents of the creatives will be the focus. I sense that and find having a blend called the White Lotus Cottage is authentic to me. So I will work it that way and give up the elevator speech mentality. If I have one it would be to Play with Life, Make love to life or I offer things of beauty! I want to inspire woman now that a feminine awakening is in full thrust that we are allowed to use our multifaceted gifts for career. It doesn't have to be linear if a mix brings us health, beauty and happiness.

One focus works for some but as woman we have the gift of multifocus. This is not wrong, it is a gift that many men don't have. They do one at a time production. Woman can do many things at once and accomplish in a very graceful way that looks effortless. This is a gift we have naturally and we need to use it more for success rather than feel we are unfocused.

So as I entered this challenge, I listened to the kick off and it cringed me the list of things to do, how to get to my goals, it was like static in my body. I thought, i will not do well at this. The first day I am already in resistance about it. I looked deeper to see if it was temper tantrum girl in her indicator position, showing me a lesson or if she was just whining about task work. It was good for me to go in and see if this resistance was a pattern that needs to clear or a message of going a different way. 

I appreciated the challenge  for this was a self growth moment already on day 2. I realized it was not just me being lazy as society would call it. It was my authentic self saying make this fun and playful or you won't do it. I am trained in the feminine way of pleasure and this sounded like yucky work. In the feminine way of pleasure it is not that we don't do yucky work. Cleaning is yucky and we do this. It is not about the activity, it is about the way we approach the activity and how we use our creativity to make the most boring things playful. The project was presented to me in a linear, boring, production way so I need to put it in perspective.

I realized that one of the goals of this challenge was to make it a pleasure to develop my career, my presentation of this refined me to the world. I could not just listen to the advice and linear offerings( that work no doubt). I had to come up with my own way to do this challenge that seemed playful, inspiring and authentic to me. This is the feminine way of creativity that makes listening to little kids music while driving around in the car fun. We can take anything that is presented and make it fun, add joy, create a sing songy vibe and complete it. This is a very important understanding of feminine, creative, sensual energy! I must do that for my 90 day challenge. Use my feminine way to work toward my goals.

I share this for often we sense this discomfort with what is before us and shun it off as laziness, say we are not motivated, we are not ready, using this discomfort as a way to push ourselves into something we don't want to do or beat ourselves up. For woman, it is all about creativity, pleasure and play. This other process just won't work long term for our nature or our body. It will create adrenal stress as we "push" ourselves through. It is not a good use of energy for woman.

To look at it from the feminine perspective which involves more emotion which is the tool of action. I had to reframe what I heard into words and ways that cause my passion to arise and thus I can do anything. Just thinking I will get success by doing this, that and the other things may very well work. Yet I am not about to change my light attitude and happy daily living for success. I can do anything before me if I use my creative mind and playful spirit to inspire me. I find this most important for woman. We are not mental as men. We can do things that way but we will stress over time and be unfulfilled. It is just the nature of femininity.

In all this I believe there is a huge key and message from spirit. I must teach this to other woman in a way that delights me for it will delight them. I have been on this path for over 8 years and I know it works, supports me each day and it is wisdom that woman are seeking in how they operate. To do this challenge from a feminine way for myself allows me to really remember, woman are all over trying things from the linear way and running into the same static I did.  They are looking for me to remind them, they are not lazy or unable to accomplish goals. They just need to use their innate feminine way to inspire and motivate themselves rather than use the mental concepts before them. Then their magic flows. 

Yes.... this is my gift and I will happily, joyfully, playfully remind others of our magical way of being! The Art Of Being a Woman!

It is quite a journey being in relationship. In fact, it is probably the most adapting thing we must do. It is so valuable to observe and learn from your ways you interact. They say others are our mirrors of ourselves. It is not always easy to see it that way. It is also not so easy to be mature and do things the way you know work versus your reactive level. Relationship is the quickest way to refine your consciousness so I see it all as upliftment and learning of me. 

Relationships bring up our wounds, our triggers, our unhealed parts of ourselves. When we get hurt, by nature we get angry and want to protect. It is a good tool anger, to let us know where we feel scared, hurt, vulnerable. Our quick heat reaction not always so effective to communicate with others our truth, our feelings yet it has it's place. We do react. We create issue, we play small, we have tantrums, all of this is just part of learning how to be in harmony with another while learning of ourselves. Sometimes we just won't find harmony. We can love others deeply and have moments of disagreement, even battle. It is normal and part of learning the tantra of two. I learned much about anger with my wild boy. In my school they call it sandpapering, Refining the diamond.

The wild boy I was dating has ended our relationship. The passion and tension between such opposites was delicious in so many ways. We just couldn't connect in communication in a way that I could manage. I am a woman so of course, I wanted more connection, communication and attention than I received. Woman seem to chat how men don't give them enough and men chat how their woman wants far too much attention. Part of the opposing poles of things,  us learning that a balance will always need to be addressed. Some times it will work and other times it will not. Part of the man/woman learning. 

 I learned good things about anger and passion. Woman generally don't show anger for then we are "bitches". Men are allowed to be angry and it is just men. So for me to go head to head with this anger was freeing. I said and acted in ways I would of judged as not nice girl. It was quite freeing. I appreciated that tap into my anger I don't show. At first, I beat myself up for going to that reactive space but then realized how anger transmutes energy and clears it when you speak it. I am not saying it is ok to manage that way but it was important to see the protection and force anger offers. Men get to do that. Woman not really. I saw the wild cat in me and it was freeing to express it rather than hold it in. I embraced being a bitch and seeing the power in voicing what I didn't like. 

We all learn milder ways to express anger.  When ever we learn anything we often go to extreme. I think my anger expression ended it. He responded back that I was immature and I haven't heard back since. I think it is why woman don't express anger. They don't want to get dumped or scolded. Well, I felt what I felt and need to share and be honest if I want a good relationship. So I did. I got dumped. It is better to be truthful and get left in the dust than hold in anger, create resentment and then have a slow burn. . 

I did like this guy for the experience of difference and fun he gave me. I was giggling when we were together and found our twisted connection quite adventurous. He was as shocked to be with me as well, so maybe it was just one of those flings that rolls through craziness. Opposites attract. In tantra, it is the most delicious connection but managing it properly is the whole art. I obviously am a novice. 

I did appreciate the feistiness!. Maybe we couldn't manage it to a reasonable level but it is powerful energy. I think many of woman hide this wild, crazy part of themselves or stuff it down and it becomes destructive to them and their relationships. Maybe that's  what happened here. I liked getting tapped into my fiery nature. I am thankful to wild boy for bringing out wild girl! I hold tantrum girl in a dungeon mostly and mildly speak my discontent. That doesn't serve me either. Not sure what the full lesson of this balance will be but I liked having her unleashed.  She has great power, protection and energy that I am not using. I don't think I used her rightly here either, but she got to be a present, that is learning. I will find when and how she is appropriate and it won't be by the rules of womanhood I was taught. 

Our rules put this presence of life force, protection, honest feelings in the dungeon for woman. She is not effective there and leashed up. Her message muted to me and the world. I appreciated her having a space. I think she has often created havoc and destruction by keeping her quiet. Then she emerges in reaction. I do know there is a better way to use her energy.  If it wasn't for Italian wild boy and his fiery way, I wouldn't of tapped into mine. This is a great awakening to a part of me that  I like. Society has told me to be proper and quaint but I like this wild child girl inside! She is allowed to express and I will find more positive ways to share what she is. 

Passion protection, anger, wild fun, adventure are all on the same vibe of energy. We are always having to learn how to ride that edge of playful excitement and destruction in many ways. I am grateful for this awakening to this energy in me and this expansion of a part of myself that only a relationship would of shown me,  even if I was dumped. It didn't make me feel unlikable, it made me like myself richer for the parts of me he supported to be.

Maybe I learned that our ways weren't rightfully blended? Our timing wasn't good?  I am just a bitch and want more adoration than I may receive? We weren't meant to play long???? Don't know those answers yet but do know that this wild girl he reflected is out to play now and I like it!  That is the delicious tantra of relationship!

Years ago, I was at an equinox celebration at Lauren Nappens of Original Medicine. She shared how only two days a year does Mother Nature have perfect balance at the equinoxes.  I thought that was fascinating and it made quite an impression on me. We all talk about balance and feel uncomfortable with ourselves for not having enough, yet nature finds full balance only twice a year!

The Equinox does tell us it is a time to re-balance, to consider balance in our lives and create more. It doesn't mean that balance is a consistent state. We are on a moving planet in a moving experience so if we do find balance, it is for a moment. It is more like we go off balance only to rebalance and then go off balance again. We are in a cyclical dance, expanding, growing, recreating ourselves all the time.

The symbology of the equinox calls us to notice where we need to reign in more balance. We know this for when September hits, we are so glad to get a new routine! Summer, where the light is in full swing, has almost burned us out with all the activity. We instinctively seek the  fall clean out, reorder and let go we are all familiar with this time of year. The solstices are when the light (Summer Solstice) or the dark ( Winter Solstice)  rules. We can look at how this yearly cycle goes for  it shows us a greater picture of what is happening and how to use these times and energies for ourselves. 

It is the pendulum swing that we all experience in life! Our learning, our cycles run to one side and we get way off balance, we notice then we slowly center Then another area goes out, we notice and center. Our year runs in this cycle through the seasons having inward and outward times, with the balance inbetween of  spring and fall. Realizing we are in the balance cycle, we innately begin to create this within ourselves.

Most importantly to me, I realize life isn't to be balanced all that often. Yes, I can create routines, practices and ideas to have all areas of life stimulated on a daily basis.  I can't expect that to stick for very long. Inevitably comes a crisis, a situation, a growth spurt, a side adventure that will take me off into an area of family,  career, hobby or philanthropy that will take up alot more attention then the other areas. This is normal when you look at the larger cycle of a year. It gives me a greater perspective on balance. I can notice and see when I get too far off yet it is the way of living to be in this swing and cycle.

It also tells me that my days can have balance in a smaller way. If you take the seasonal year and use the day as a representation of it, then each day I can find moments that I reorder and call in a balance of myself. Times to recenter, to breathe, to relax, to notice where I need support and what I am truly feeling. This is what I teach and how I learned the yoga of living. Using each day to pay attention to all seasons and cycles. Making all a practice of yoga,  noticing, resting, activity, silence, crisis, solution,  Life continues to move along so we learn ways to adjust and move along with it rather than get stuck in what has happened, letting that run us. Having a tool box of techniques to support our centering crucial to this yoga of life.

These cycles support us energetically and give us information on how the world, the physical plane runs. We learn to use its laws for ourselves in expanded and mundane ways to feel ok. There is no true landing spot, only moments of balance activity or stillness. We must learn to work with this movement in a way that supports us to grow, expand, rest and reflect. 

Remember balance is only momentary. It is a dance to use these moments of reflect, activity, balance and rebirth so daily we can direct ourselves.  Also remembering that weekly, monthly and yearly these cycles are simultaneously running in our lives. Nature shows us the blend of these cycles in large and daily ways. It is our awareness that allows us to use them to create a sense of balance within and without.