I spent over 15 years growing organic flowers on my farm in Hilltown, providing magical pieces for green weddings and events. I had many local businesses and private homes getting fresh flowers delivered throughout the season. When I left my vast farm kingdom, I expanded my love of beauty through woman's health education classes and promoting the healing and expressive arts. This was an outcrop of my growing. I was inspired after Himayalan Masters came and taught me ways to understand my body, beautify myself and transform my energy. I changed my thrust from just flowers to educate others but continued to grow flowers on smaller scale and create for events.
This spring I did a peony wedding where I created that most magical, handheld, cascading wedding bouquet so perfect for the bride, We added a wrap of her grandmothers handkerchief on the stems and one of her rosaries. It was beautiful and will post it once I get the pics. She loved it and the flowers at her wedding so much that I wondered why am I not doing a few more weddings a year? I have another this fall and realized that I had given too little time to a gift I had cultivated for so long. I know all the local growers so not growing enough flowers isn't an issue, I certainly have a wondrous gift for the right bride.
As we grow and expand, we shift in our purposes and there is a period to rebalance in our new way of life Adding in new things, others take the back seat only to recircle in remembering to blend all the things you love. I had a hairdresser once who had owned a salon, decided to sell that and purchased an antique store. I would get my haricut there on Sundays and he often did scrulptures in the back as he was minding the shop. His continual expansion into new arts and recreation while keeping in the old always inspired me.
Leaving my farm was a challenge and I let go of this creative gift because I was not in my kingdom of gardens anymore. After a few years away with many new projects, i realize that I should continue creating with the gardens beauty whether I grow it or not. I always collaborated with the other growers anyway and we shared flowers all the time. This new leg of life, need not be absent of floral creations for I am inspired to support brides and gifted with how I create with natures beauty. I will give more time to this magic art I have.
This year as I review and reflect with my marketing team on how to update my website, I will put more attention and time into playing with flowers. I also will offer my new love of Clinical Homeopathy. That too has healed me of many ails and supported my energy to be vital. A creative mix of things I have gathered from life that I love to share. Whether it is flowers for a bride, being the minister to perform the ceremony, educating woman on sacred femininity, teaching the martial arts, promoting the Room where spirituality grows through the healing or expressive arts or just playing garden goddess in my small patches, these are the things of me. These are the gifts I have garnered through my life thus far that so inspire me to health, enjoyment and service that I will make a life of mixing them all.
We are multidimensional beings with so many facets that we develop on all levels. Others find a single focus to be how they work. For me I am a creative woman that likes to share on many levels. I thrive on the mix of things, evolving my experiences and my gifts into new ways to share beauty, health and wellness. Expansion and growth for me is the elixir that keeps me vital and mixing my artistry.
Stay tuned for my new look to the site and how I blend all my offerings into The White Lotus Cottage. Growing beyond Harmony Hill Gardens to a new home with many rooms of elixirs and gifts. I am here to support beauty on all levels so I delight that more eco chic brides will be coming my way.
We have a new moon eclipse this Thursday and it is to be powerful. We have much stirring in the skies to invite us to let go and fly forward in greater authenticity and happiness. Eclipses are about those things hidden, those things buried or unknown to our consciousness. It is the perfect opportunity to transform and leave the past behind.
We hold onto things, people and memories often as nostalgia or protection. I understand there is often ways of life that created great fear or panic in us so we hold them present so we don't run into them again. However, so much has usually occurred since many of these things and we need to update the world here and now. Often parts of us are still operating as the small children, holding fears and scares that really can't touch us now. Holding on too long creates patterns and ways of being that are not necessary now that hinder us. We all have this, these unconscious fears and patterns. Yet when we have these and never really let them go or clear them, they run us and take us away from joy or happiness that we could be experiencing now.
With consciousness, we can use things like the magic of the eclipse to transmute and use the energies about us as a way to release the old, outworn, no longer serving us. It does takes conscious choice and action to allow it all to be transformed. We don't need the worries, the energy tied up or the odd habits that keep us from our true selves and joy. Each day is new, each moment can be fresh, all is moving and growing and we can ride with this by updating ourselves. Allowing our new experiences, our greater wisdom gained from living, our reordered version of life to be born anew.
As the eclipse addresses these things, in the sign of cancer which is watery and of emotion, we call allow old feelings and fears to be seen and released. Cancer is a very mothering sign offering us an opportunity to nourish ourselves with those things that support and let go of those things that no longer serve. Maybe they did at one point but the time is now to release with the support of the higher energies. We also have expansion of Jupiter about and the wonder of Neptune, the spiritual oneness planet supporting us to be more of who we are and not who we were programmed as. Whether you believe in this stuff or not, you can allow yourself greater expression through consciousness.
I invite you to truly feel the power of this new moon when we are to be putting forth new ideas and ways of becoming. Use the eclipse as a way to let go of stuff within. Whatever it is that comes forward, old emotions or situations that have plagued you, it is time to Let it All Go! Who cares what was. Who cares what you have done yesterday? We can begin to allow ourselves freedom from our critic, our past mistakes, our indulgences, our bad ass ways. We no longer need to carry forth things that don't nourish and inspire. We all have skeletons in the closet, we are all a mess on some levels, learning about life as we go. No need to hold ourselves back with these errors or miss takes on things or fears of what was done to us.
Our being is in constant evolution. Gaining wisdom and knowledge about life as we go. What we honored yesterday means little to us now. Our thoughts, behaviors and actions are in constant shift. We get that opportunity to update and cleanse ourselves with consciousness instead of keeping junk around. We become lighter, clearer, have greater opportunity to thrive and live vitally when we clear ourselves and let go.
The balance of the year offers such beneficent energies for growth, joy, expansion and experience. Clear yourself so there is room for the greatness ahead. The world truly does support our becoming. Life is live and is happening each moment. We get the opportunity to participate in this or to carry old stuff keeping ourselves clogged and weighted down. I say, Let It Go! Be present to the wonder here! Allow yourself permission to shine and open to a greater you. It is a sky full of stars supporting our greater unfoldment whether you believe it or not. The new Age of Aquarius is knocking at the door offering us new ways to be and experience. So might as well just join in!
Blessings and peace to your journey!
We hear that life is a celebration! Each day a gift. Why do we wait for big things or key turning points to rejoice in the blessings? Some mornings getting up and getting where we need to be is it's own celebration! We could experience greater joy and a better moments if we expanded what our view and meaning of celebration is. Part of my ministerial blessing directs me to rejoice that life is a celebration. It states that as I get this deeper in my mind, heart and consciousness, I will be a greater gift to others. This rings in my head to remember, to notice what there is to rejoice in.
If life is a celebration, how can we experience this more? Pondering that expands our ideas and ways to be in joy for what is happening in the moment. We often wait for something or are seeking an end result. There are things that we could celebrate for they are already here. Expand your expression and lift your mood by pulling in this vibration. For instance, this morning on the porch, this cat bird was in the tree. on the walk and coming very close to me that I almost thought it would attack screeching or singing at me. I wasn't sure if I was near his nest, he was giving me some message or this was just a celebration of nature noticing and engaging with me. I chose to see it as a cool absurdity that I never had before. I giggled and talked to this flying fellow! It lifted my mood and vibe.
Nature continually brings in small moments of celebration. The blooms, the scents, the small miracles can inspire this rejoicing vibration that brings spring to your step. Others good news is often a moment for celebration. Really feeling their success can bring us into a greater mood. I see it as mine must be coming soon for they are receiving goodness. Feeling their joy can give me a joy vibe easily and switch my perspective.
Small things like completing a project or task I hate can bring in a "Wahoo"! Any time we accomplish, even cleaning or organizing a mess can be an inspiration for rejoicing. We do these things daily and can accentuate the vibe they give us by amping it up rather than moving onto to the next quickly. Taking the time, resting in the moment of completion or settled feeling, the glee we have. These simple things renew our energy.
Good connections with others. Finding a piece of information I was seeking. Getting an answer to a question I was pondering. A synergistic flow of things. All these are opportunities to celebrate and delight in the simplest of things. So many ways in a day to see life as a celebration. Seeing different animals cross my path. Catching the sunset at the lake. A look at the moon or starry sky in awe. Seeing kids play is a vibe so infectious. What brings your life greater richness each day? Celebrating often can support us gliding over the rough spots. Redirecting our focus, relaxing our mind, allowing lighter vibration to carry us and inspire us.
I invite you to considerhow to bring in this 'life is a celebration" in your own way. We hear many quotes and they sound good but lets apply and live them. This one especially, for it offers good energy and sustains a positive attitude. There is always something to bring us into the joy. No, it may not be a pollyanna world, yet the more we celebrate the minutia, the more positive direction we have. This is what creates goodness. So celebrate!!
Talking things through with others is so important. We must present in honesty what we are feeling and thinking so we can continue to be connected well with others. In our techno world and with such speed of things, we often put out all kinds of words without the immediate interaction with others. It has it's place but a good relationship needs true discussion or things can be interpreted wrong and havoc ensues.
We often don't speak up when we are uncomfortable, afraid to say what we are thinking and how another will react. This is a terrible practice that causes conflict where there could be none. It is hard as well to honestly share our feelings sometimes. Vulnerability or what others will think comes into play. Yet if we don't share it when a discomfort occurs, how can we learn the nuisances of another? When you bring it up later, the person may not remember or be able to support in an honest answer. We call it clearing in spiritual circles. If something comes up, we are advised right then and there to deal with it. Then there is no opportunity to fester it within, overthink it, create more of it and eventually build resentment fromr not speaking up. When we do speak after we have over thought about it, we come with a form of attack and how is another to support you with your understanding if you come at them. They can only defend themselves.
We all have done this overthinking and the way society teaches us, doesn't support thriving relationships. Marriage seems the easiest example to see this. Many times we look the other way, don't say what we really feel and then resentment builds between two people. Feelings are not right or wrong. They just occur and often we get triggered by situations and our feelings may not even have to do with the one we are with. If we don't bring forward that we feel off then and there, it is much harder to clear and get good communication by holding things in.
My last blog was on wild boy and how I felt he was maybe desiring one different than I. In putting forth what he desired or liked, I took insult to who I was. Not knowing him well and my own experiences with others created this disconnect. I told him boldly after I felt things and let them stew inside me and created a disconnect in our relationship. Yes it felt honoring of myself to say what I felt. That was good and I got learning there. However, the way I approached it was anything but a way to thrive in connecting with him. I should of done things differently if I wanted to continue forward.
When we feel uncomfortable and don't share it right away, we can make more of things in our minds. It is not easy but the study of tantra is about reaching past this to find higher connection. Old situations come into play, triggers of other relationships and we are not dealing directly with that person live and present. Relationships get ruined from this. I may have done the same with this guy by not really being clear and open so we could discuss it properly. I told him, he was angry, we stopped chatter and it dropped out. At one point we did have a discussion on things and greater understanding was reached. I could of prevented this by being forth right in a chat rather than a message. We all know this and don't heed it. It creates havoc in our connections.
When we do discuss things in a live manner, tones of voice, ideas, ways of seeing things, interpretations, feelings, moods, all can be walked through to create understanding. After we spoke, there was questioning of what was going on and how it would work. The way I handled honoring myself created more disruption than harmony. I am not sure if we worked through this, but I realize again what we all know that chatting is the way to connect with others. Feelings are not right or wrong, they are energy and can come out of no where. The best way to work with them is notice, share and let go. Often we don't do this and cause ourselves and others disharmony.
We all have different ways of doing things. It supports to have opposites blend and expand into a greater whole when two are not alike. Communication is key in this tantric process of harmonious relationships. Since I had no reference for this new man, it is even more important for me to share what is going on. Men and woman are very different and if we are to create harmony, we must be open with what is occurring so we can support each other. We know that we are very different and the only way understanding can occur is if we communicate clearly for our way of processing is different.
I claim no full understanding of men or dating or relationships. I do know the ways that will create greater connection yet I like every one do not always follow the ways that will best support that. Life is live and we make errors in how we do things. This creates growth. I can't waste time feeling bad for doing it the way I did. I can only look at what could of better supported the connection and do better next time. It is the way of life to miss take on things and then hopefully do differently next time. I do give myself freedom to be wrong, to make error and know it is just how it is here. I also allow others that freedom and have to remind myself that communication is truly the connect of energy that creates harmony.
After discussion which was pretty uncomfortable, we came to a greater understanding of each other. We found common ground again to atleast not walk away with anger or misunderstanding. We had a better take on each other. That is what communication brings, understanding. It is such a simple thing that we often don't use it to support us rightly. He gave me adoration and did many wonderful things for me when we were together. I said how much fun it was. I just got stuck in hearing other things that he didn't mean the way I took them. We were enjoying ourselves most of the time and I went off on something that probably had nothing to do with him.
We don't know the inside of others. We all have past ways in relationship and communication. It comes in as baggage whenever you step into something new. In essence we often have many more things going on than meets the eye. How we grew up, how we were taught to manage things, how our other relationships went is all present. Being live and communicating clearly is our best hope to surf through truly connecting. He reminded me of others and when I claimed my position boldly, it reminded him of his ex. We both got hurt and annoyed which naturally creates a desire to run. Yet we can't clear or learn of each other when we do that. I am not sure how it will play out but I see how valuable in dating this honoring of self could be done to my better advantage.
Communication is not easy always. That doesn't mean we avoid it or think our way is right and shut the door. Tantra is a whole study and science of harmonious relationships and it is something we must continue to learn. Each of us is different so honoring that, being open to share yourself truly and seeking connection through understanding is the only way for good relationships to thrive. This wild boy whom I don't really know has already taught me so much of myself. If we want to blend a mix of opposites as in man and woman and thrive, we must be very willing to communicate and allow for that process to unfold.
I inspire you to stretch in your relationships to allow others to be who they are and give the space necessary for them to be open. Allow yourself openness to share as well. Truly share, even if it is uncomfortable. That is the only way to reach a soul connection with anyone. Knowing you both will interpret things differently can be expanding if you discuss things through. We are taught to run and cut cords and there is definitely a moment to do that. Yet the highest tantra, union is only reached when you expand in understanding and love with another. It is the highest form of connection and creates fabulous sex. Worth reaching for even if you fall short!
The journey continues.......
As a recent divorcee and a woman, I often find I am very communal in nature. I consider the group first and often forget to include my desires in that group. I seek peace, negotiation and collaboration which is just part of motherhood and running a family. Since my divorce, I"m on the path of me, myself and I. It has been a great learning for me. I have had to continually untangle myself from getting involved in supporting others in hardship. Not that I don't want to be a help, but this is now a time for me to take care of myself first and know myself as an individual and blend differently with groups and partners.
I am so familiar with working in a group dynamic that I forget that I get what I want now. I blend well with most others and have the great feminine qualities of flexibility and adaptability. I often work with others that are OCD or detail oriented. So I can manage others that have a strong controlling instinct. I am learning further not to get caught in that web of control. Being a wife, you are used to partnering and making things work no matter what. So I am having to learn this is not the case now. I can work with others I chose and of course, still blend but it is not the same as when you are married most of your life.
I am very new to the dating scene and all of those I had dated have been friends I already knew. For the first time, I dated one I never met. It was a friend connection and I went for trying the unknown. I am not absolutely sure I am ready for this dating yet but you have to expand to learn so I went for it. I met a fun guy that was way out of the box for me and I for him. We had great fun for most of 28 days and it was certainly learning of others ways. I don't think I really achieved the goal of one not in the throws of hardship but I didn't know him or the story at first. As a minister, I find myself constantly in contact with others that need support. That is fine, for as I said I am used to it, yet I am to be thinking of myself. It is a new practice.
So it went fast and furious, lustful and wild by his direction, Yet he is in quite a challenge still going through divorce. It brings in turmoil and old emotion as you walk through such a severing. Maybe not so wise to be in a relationship like that at such a time? I had previously been with a friend whom lost his wife and he is still finding his way. I finding my way too and certainly not so good at this. Dating men that are not really ready for me and my whims? My minister, feminine, nourishing gift runs deep.
As I enjoyed playing with this out of my comfort zone wild boy, I started to notice that he wasn't really as attentive as I was used too in dating when we were out. Maybe he was into me, and we were just very different. He was street smart, I like the innocent, naive girl. He had very particular tastes and made me aware of them. He wanted someone with this and that and I was my own way. It is good to share these things I think. I tried many new ways and even created some of my own wild so it was all good. We had fun and enjoyed the wacky differences most times and I giggled and adventured with him.
After a weekend away, I really noticed all the things he requested, I should do this, why do you do that, and why this, etc. I am a confident woman and this threw me off. I didn't like second guessing my wonder. I told him to be more adored would suit my tastes better. I know he liked me but in the throws of divorce you are watching your old world shatter. He certainly couldn't be as focused on me for much was going on. It was a high request for me and maybe I should of thought what am I doing in this situation? And bold enough to be making impossible requests? I am new to this! I took it all too personally perhaps? He also liked to tease me and it often went over my head. I chose to be hurt when it could of been his way of flirting or just part of our differences. We were just getting to know each other and it was lightening speed.
Well, I told him of my dismay, of course it ended whatever was occurring there. I was saddened as we had fun but timing certainly wasn't good for such a relationship or request. At the same time my desire to be truly adored by whatever man I choose next is important to me. I want to be the apple of another's eye atleast in the beginning. Don't we all? Not that all this could occur in 28 days under such stressful conditions really. Yet I don't need to settle for medium and decided to speak up. This is a great "yipee" for me, I normally would allow such by feeling for him. Saying to myself "oh he's in a hard place" or " its his humor", anything but "hey I want to be adored". But I did. I said it, and that ended it.
Inside though, I was so proud of myself for standing up for the true romance I desire. Maybe the request was ludicrous and the fulfillment impossible but I went for asking for what I wanted. It may sound really trite to another who is used to dating or has a stronger way of me, myself and I. For me this was important growing for I often get intuitions to run but stay in situations worrying about another over myself. I think many woman do this and why I am writing a blog of this personal stuff.
I will miss in the fun of this wild situation that had some great kudos in it. Yet I am settled that I stood up for the honor I want. Bad timing, ridiculous request or too soon to say, I don't know but I take all as learning. Maybe I will never find another that does adore me but I certainly need to try. "Why go for the loaf of bread when you can have the whole grocery store? " So I did. I am proud of it. This is not usually my way. Soooo Yipee again!!
It is a learning of many woman to put their desires into the equation when making choices with relationships of all kinds. Whether family, friends, groups or men, we just naturally move into supporting group peace yet forget that our desires matter too in that loop. It is can be a challenge but we must honor ourselves! I got divorced to live differently and expanding from my way of 23 years is a process. I chose for me this time and I am glad. Neither of us were probably ready for this.
In the end, I may have totally read the whole thing wrong but learning came from it. We all have our own perspective and he could have a whole different story about dating a mystical, priestess girl. It was fun though and I did enjoy the great diversity and he stretched me way out. For some reason I couldn't feel the full sweetness I wanted. Not the right timing or mix, I guess. I am very grateful to him though. I played, I learned, I expanded and I honored my own crazy desire. For that I am very thankful for my 28 day fling!
Life is an adventure they say and I like that. It inspires intrigue and mystery! Adventure has challenge and hardship too, yet the word inspires me toward fun and excitement. I am a Bucks County girl for most of my life. The world here is pretty predictable for the most part. The diversity is relatively low, my friends were many of the same since high school with some new folks along the way and we tend to see things in a certain way here. Then in came the Himalayan Masters from the Northern Gate and it all switched up.
I like the unusual, the curious, the unpredictable, honestly. I have adventured many new places but seemed to always come back to the comforts of usual. But after the Masters, my life took a spin to engage in the more unusual of things. I learned many of the healing and expressive arts, met new folks, raw foodists, alternative healers, and learned of the things invisible. As I got engaged by this less than normal fare, my life switched up tremendously and I ended up moving, getting divorced and was called to inspire others into this magical world of the ancient traditions.
It certainly has been anything but predictable and keeps getting zanier still. I do love it with all its unusual and expanding ways. I do know sometimes it does take me out into areas that I never expected I would like. I have learned not to keep my old ideas so strict and be open to maybe things I didn't like before are intriguing now. Like a child that hates vegetables but as they get older, suddenly new foods taste delicious. I find alot that way these days so I keep myself open to reorder my thinking.
I invite you to really allow adventure to come into your life. There are hardships or more challenging moments whenever you go, I often ask "Am I really experiencing this?" Shifting your perspectives, trying new things, going out of the box is unpredictable and throws you off a bit. Yet the growth in experience gives you vitality and a true sense of exploration. You find yourself in many situations that you're not quite sure exactly what to do. It keeps me alive, present and on my toes. That is what living, adventure, true exploration is all about. Newness adds youthful wonder and fresh views. It certainly adds fun and excitement and I wouldn't want life any other way now that I have come to appreciate the not so normal.
Keep open to new ways. new types of people, experiences that maybe you would have judged. As we grow and change, it is amazing how much new fun can be had rather than sticking with the way we were taught or were raised. I get surprised often, learn to be open and compassionate, find empathy with so many people for we all are seeking much of the same things. We just go about it differently for we come from different views.
My latest expansion is with a new boyfriend who is quite unlike those I have played with before. Very opposite and truly from different worlds. Yet there is a fun, learning and openness that I wouldn't have without him. He shows me things I have never seen or experienced, I learn viewpoints I would never have looked at and I find myself intrigued by the surprise of what may come next. It is not always easy to be in this uncertain place yet it expands. Expanding is often scary but it is indeed blissful as well. To truly explore is the wonder of being alive. You can always consider not to do something again but to try the first time is a good experiment. We are here to gain experience and adventure means going for the unknown.
Do use this summer season do expand into adventure. On small and large scale. The exhilaration is enlivening and you just might find something new you adore!
Everyone could use more fun! This is a dog eat dog world for the most part so I inspire you to find greater health by using the child like way of having fun! So many pressures, worries, situations uncanny are whisping about us. The perfect balance to all this stress is to enjoy ourselves when we can.
We do that by having fun! Playing, relaxing, hobbying, exploring, expanding our idea of fun in whatever way calls us. I give you permission to have more fun! Give yourself permission! Who said we have to work all the time and why? Don't we work to have things so we can play and relax?. We have been trained to always be so productive and efficient. Yes that is important but not at the expense of having fun. We can do both and balance our worlds in health through this most exciting and easy practice!
Whatever happened to this most important goal we had as kids? Being adult turned into being serious and always working. Leisure time is a lost art. Yet for greater health, joy and happiness, fun needs to have a piece of the pie. Steven Covey says 3/4 work, 1/4 leisure is the rule of the most productive folks. We really need to get on board with this one. If we get down time, play time, relax time, we open ourselves to creative vibes. Being creative comes when we are out of stress and moving at a slower pace. This creative, open space offers solutions, bright ideas and the most balanced mind that can support us in being more productive.
Relax, play, pleasure, leisure, these are all nourishing qualities! We need to nourish ourselves more, revel in them and that creates more! It creates happiness, balance, health, joy, all the things people desire in life. You must make room for these elixirs! All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy is a truth! Creative imagination, a master tool of the mind, is inspired by these activities of the parasympathetic nervous system. It gets a chance to play as well and bring in those ideas and dreams that take time to conjure. We have so many drugs to chill people down when if they just allowed more fun in life, they would get an even better result.
Relaxing, playing, fun are all practices that are easy to do. Yes, I know that our monkey mind likes to tell us we should be doing something productive yet it is productive to chill. i inspire you to start adding more of this in your life as summer is upon us. There is great fun to be had in these warmer months and lots of options. So partake. Play. Engage, Hobby and Enjoy!
One to the greatest elixirs to a youthful look, attitude and spirit there is!
There are days when enthusiasm is not the vibration we feel. We are worn out, exhausted or facing some challenge that seems to have no solution. We are more deflated toward life than in spirit about it. In the end, this too shall pass so we learn to find ways to shift quicker to get to this bubbly vibe of anticipation toward life.
Sometimes another can add some inspiration, a quote or an unexpected kindness. Thank Goodness for these wonders of outside influence. We can't wait for them however. We must reach to request support or go within to find our way back to the feelings we desire. Often the mind gets on a track and is quite rambling. It gets the emotions all tangled or visa versa, and the spiral down where all of life looks a bit gloomy. These are the moments where we just have to feel it, be aware but not hang too long and reach to shift our vibe. It is our responsibility if we want a happy life to find the way to a happy attitude.
Here are some ideas I use! Nothing works every time so it is best to have many tools. The mind can be our toughest enemy as it can be our brilliant ally.
Redirect. This can be a master tool and it is best described with children. They may be doing something not so good and we redirected them to do something else rather than yell at them. I find this works for myself as well. I say redirect and use my google search mind for something better that will inspire me. Our life has many facets and something has to be going well somewhere! There is an action we can take in positive direction at any moment so we find and do these small redirects to shift.
Step Outside. I often use this one. Finding the beauty in nature is a master tool. The fresh oxygen resets the whole body being. The sensory stimulation brings you present and can inspire a better attitude to reset you. This will work most to change something in you. It does on so many levels and often the quickest way that most don't reach for.
Move and do something. Often if you keep going, just move to another task that requires effort, you can find a lighter vibe and head toward being enthusiastic again. "Sweep the floor" as they say in Eastern traditions. Getting physical can relieve stress and create pleasure hormones. "Movement is quicker than thinking" a shaman wisdom. Try to jolt yourself into higher emotions!
Plan Fun. To feel good and enthusiastic about life, you got to be having fun! Being too serious is not a way to enjoy life. It creates such heaviness and it is everywhere you go. So be sure to do silly things. Take adventures for the morning, day or weekend that inspire you through the week or challenge. I liken it to the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. The anticipation keeps enthusiasm alive. If you stuck in your low mode, do something fun!!
Connect to Your Spirit. Having a spiritual spin on life adds such magic. Enthusiasm comes from En theos, in spirit or in God. However you connect with your own spirit is important. Remembering we are not our behaviors, our mistakes, our darkness. We are truly spirits having a human experience. Cultivate the knowing, the being of that. Maybe it is meditation, yoga, church. There is so many ways to celebrate the spirit of life and the creation we are part of. I couldn't make it through without my spiritual study for it reminds me of the joy, humor and love of life.
Play with Life. This is different than plan fun for it is about not being so serious about all of life. If you mess up, consider to laugh at yourself and try a new direction. If you like a hobby, delve into it, seek play as an avenue of expression. If you are faced with a challenge, lighten up and see how you can play with ideas to shift your perspective. I continually remind myself to play with whatever. My struggle, ideas, dreams, errors, strengths, joys. All of it. I just find my way to feel lighter about all of life. Even moan the drama outloud and exaggerate it til you giggle!
Cultivate Friendships. It is so important to be connected with those you make you feel good. Hobby groups, old friends, new adventure meetups, whatever works to keep yourself connected to others of like mind. We developed The Room at Meadowbrook as a place for like minded spiritual connections of the healing and expressive arts. It supports us greatly in enthusiasm when we find others who think, play or participate in life like we do. It adds great vitality and excitement to the stress of everyday.
Help another. Often when I am in a funk, supporting another in strife is the perfect solution. It reminds me of the power I have and the ways I can inspire others. It also puts whatever issue I have into perspective and just stepping away from my own story often brings in a solution. It feels good, brings in joy and energy to support another. I find it an easy way to redirect back into the higher vibrations.
Use your creative imagination. We can get caught up in how our life is blah blah, rather than dream and imagine what we want. Often so busy doing things that must be done creates displeasure and we don't take out time to think about what brings us joy or what we do want. We must use our creative imagination to know what things will get us excited about life. Visualizing, leaning into ideas is valuable to support our direction. Often what we wanted changes based on situations and being scientific, noticing what inspires truly is important. It takes time to know yourself and know what will bring you the spring in your step. The imagination is a key tool of the mind to find our life to be filled with zest! We must know ourselves and dream our stories.
Continually seeking to have joy, enthusiasm, fun and great moments of life is a path we cultivate. It is a practice we must put time into. I feel so enthused at my life not because it is filled with fluffy things. It is how I look at things in lightness. It is that I continue to seek the fun, laughter, things that entice my playful spirit. I do it daily and often hourly for the world brings us many things that are not so fun. However, I get to see through the world in the view that makes me most joyful. So remember, you are the captain of your ship! Find ways to ride the waves that will giggle, delight and even tearfully move you.
Seeking pleasure is a full time focus!! Keep it light and your eye on the prize!
We all know that if you give a man and a woman the same task, they will do it differently. They will both get the same end result but the processing of how will be different. Unfortunately, the feminine way has been dropped by many woman in business and in life for the way of men. Business is the man's world traditionally and their natural ways run it so we have adapted ourselves to it. This works but not as efficiently and easy for woman for they have a different way of doing things.
I have spent 9 years sharing this shift with woman and men as a basic understanding of ourselves. For woman, it creates more flow, health, beauty and changes the ease and grace they operate. To use their innate way, a way that is natural for us, shift our perspective, which means giving permission to be ourselves and open a well of energy we have awaiting us. The issue is that we, as woman, haven't cultivated, honored or used our unique way we approach life. We have adapted ourselves to man's way and we are just not as productive and healthy using their perspective.
What does this mean?
We are effected on all levels to a different experience of the world when we use our way of woman. This includes using our flowing nature, our adaptability and our natural slower pace. We still get as much if not more done when we come from this creative, flowing way. Efficiency is a man's way, speed and direct. Woman manage things just as quickly but it flows differently with a grace that appears slower. It is flow rather than production. Creative rather than mental. They say if you want a project done, give it to a woman! Not only that but she makes it look easy.
Woman have a strong sensing and intuition that guides them magically. We sense and move more from this empathic place, have knowings and can use this naturally. It is not a mind process but an intuitive one. We have incredible connections to our environments, others, the energy or flavor of things and can know how to move situations. We are natural communicators which takes more time yet when things are clear the action steps go more smoothly.
We can negotiate peace, collaboration and co-operation with finesse. Taking extremes, opposing views and blending them to a greater solution is just our way. We listen intently with our ears and sensing so we can understand others perspectives and find the common ground. We are more friendly, forgiving, less hierarchical, and understand give and take through a longer term relationship over this for that thinking.
We have a community mindset and larger world picture where all elements have their order and place. We are not so ours and yours, we create win/win by the nature of being a woman. Collaboration over competition. We like to gather others, create peace, have more fun doing most all tasks. We are heart centered over head centered. We connect the head heart naturally.
These are just a few of the many magnificent traits woman have naturally. They need to be rebalanced in all areas of our lives. The work place will benefit most but we even need to express these in our homes more, our neighborhoods, our community at large. We run most things that have a "group" mentality and we have been overusing the more masculine traits in all things. We have lost this natural connection to ourselves from our experience in the business world which is far more dog eat dog than the innate way of woman. In this collaborative Aquarian Age, our feminine way is needed for it will evolve the world quicker. This way is easy for us.
I invite you to really savor these traits in woman. We are opposite in tantra and perfectly so that a greater world can be with the whole of all traits used synchronistically. Too much production and no nourishment of the things produced has way too much senseless creation of things. Woman are naturally the tenders of spaces and we don't need more space, we need our spaces to be safe, nourishing and well run.
Woman are seeking change, settling and purpose using the mental, masculine practices that just won't work. We only get so far for we have the emotional, creative, intuitive nature that moves us not the mind. We aren't the powered up, no pain no gain part of the species. We are the heart inspired helpers. We need to use all our sensing and mind combined. We have incredible movement through passion and compassion different than logic and reasoning. It just is the way of woman. As we connect to this in ourselves, connect to it in each other as a sisterhood and collaborate ourselves to empower and support this way of being, the world will follow suit. For we truly run it underneath. We are the infa-structure to all that is going on. The silent workers holding it all together.
This feminine way will support all the world gracefully, naturally, in sync as we will flourish in our rightful power position in the new world! Our health and beauty will juice up too!
PS. I am doing a class in June on the 7 Petals of the Creative Chakra so we can remember these innate gifts and be sure to cultivate them in our everyday life for health and wellbeing! Grace and ease is the woman's way.
.Nutrition is the first layer of health. You can only be healthy when you nourish yourself wisely. What we eat, how we move and what ways we inspire ourselves are the triad to health and beauty. Food takes time to convert to energy so using the proper food is key to our system running properly.
There is alot of information on this and I find it all too much. I stick to the basics, keep it simple, notice how my body feels, see what works and forget about it. There are basics that we all know but remembering them is important as we head into the season of less clothes and wanting to feel good in our bodies. Simplicity is the key to mastership. If you cover them, health is given.
1. Drink plenty of water! We all could continue to practice this daily. It is key to all processes in the body and supports us in fluidity, flexibility, detoxing, refreshing and looking vibrant. We are over 70% water so it pays to flush ourselves continually, supporting that juiciness of hydration. So many health issues, tireness, hunger, headaches, dizziness, soarness can come when we don't drink enough. It is simple, so just do it. This practice alone goes a long way to looking and feeling more vibrant! I continually work on this one.
2. Eat fresh, colorful, organic food in all varieties. Keep the mix shifting and be seasonal. The freshest food and close to the vine is key to all vegetables. If raw food is a struggle, when you don't have enough digestive enzymes, then steam, roast or stir fry. You can also get bitters in a spray an use it before you eat to awaken digestion. I do 3/4 vegetables in colorful, seasonal variety and it contains the most nutrients of all categories. They fill you and add great nutrition. Organic may cost more yet it is worth it! Money spent on food is the best investment overall other purchases, for it builds your body!
3. Eat lots of protein! Protein provides the amino acids used in every process in the body. Most don't get enough protein. This it what 1/4 of my plate is. If I just need to grab something out of the refrig quickly, it will be a protein. It regulates blood sugar immediately, supports stress quickly, builds all things in the body and ignites your brain. Nuts, cheeses, eggs, humus, meats. fish and poultry. I do all organic so the meat sources are rich and humane. I eat all foods and I switch it up. Most woman do not get enough protein If you are vegan and the like, make sure you find complete proteins and eat lots of it.
4. Eat healthy fats that are saturated. Saturated fats do not go rancid. Butter, certain oils, lard, all these are so rich in things our body needs. Fats have gotten a bad wrap and yet they create the outer layer of our cells and are our main fuel. We need fats to sustain our processes in health. Fat is the most efficient fuel for our body. Watch out for unsaturated fats for they create damage to our body. Fat is one of the satiation triggers. In this low fat world, which I would never suggest anything low fat, we eat too much for nothing fills us. Fat fills us and stops the overeating. I use full butter, whole milk everything, real half and half, etc. If it is not real food, the body doesn't recognize it and the liver puts fat around it and sticks it on your mid section! The more real fat you have, the less you eat, the more filled you are and the healthier your cells.
5. Avoid sugar. It is such a dangerous substance that is in everything. The main issue is that it gives us quick fuel and creates havoc in our blood sugar. I think here and there, all in acceptable but overdoing sugar causes the type 2 diabetes which is a killer. Too much sugar whacks our insulin production and gives us highs and lows in energy. It creates that Hangry feeling. It also stops us from burning fat which is the best fuel for our body and keeps us in shape. If you continually use this artificial fuel, you will pack on fat. In all things moderation and with sugar, be very aware of that for it is already in everything!
6. Don't eat much in a box. Boxes, frozen entries, anything quick and easy is rarely nutritious. There are exceptions but I avoid most anything that comes in a box. Too many preservatives and your body doesn't recognize or digest them. If it doesn't know what a substance is, it will put fat around it and place it on your midline. No one wants that so I just avoid as much as possible.
7. Enjoyyyyyyy foood! It is a pleasure to eat! Savor, revel and take in the deliciousness of food. Healthy food is so delicious! When your eat, be in good spirits so you can enjoy, relax, create pleasure and oxytocin the healing hormone! Avoid negativity on any level, emotional, mental or physical when eating. Make eating 3 times a day a moment of pleasure, satiation and nourishment. Emotional eating without presence and in low emotions is the way most overeat and gain weight. Be aware and avoid eating when down. It takes in those crappy emotions and thinkings right in with your food and they too go into your cells. No need to create more. Notice emotional eating and atleast eat with joy and realize it is your call for pleasure. I think most miss the joy of eating and the satiation, pleasure and nourishment it offers us on many levels.
8. Eat moderately 90% of the time and INDULGE in whatever the other 10%! All things are to be enjoyed so do not give up anything totally. Allow yourself the joy of what is termed "bad" food. If you like it then have it here and there. When you do, soooo enjoy it fully. Don't tell yourself you are being bad or shouldn't have it! Indulge fully and taste every ounce. Then you will find great pleasure and only do it once in a while. So important not to avoid things forever unless your system can't take them. But is can usually manage anything in small amounts! So enjoy eating!!
9. Pay attention to how food makes you feel. Notice your body and its messages. We all have different bodies and digestion. So watch how food makes you feel and avoid those things that create ill feeling. We all know how good McDonalds can taste but it hurts our bellies in a hour or so. Pay attention to anything that doesn't sit well. Low nutrition bring low emotions. So you can get depressed just by what you eat! You can feel sick, tired, gasy, burpy, many not so cozy states. So pay attention and avoid what your system doesn't like. I have a gmo wheat allergy and found recently nuts are not cozy for me. So I avoid those things for they will make me feel sick.
10. There are no magic pills to anything! Eat good, real food. Watch reading into fads of certain foods and hoopla on health. Good food produces health. Moderation is key. My quick fixes are If you want to drop some pounds than cut out sugar so your body burns your fat. It works, it is simple body mechanics and fuel properly. Drink lots of water to flush out your toxins in your fat as you burn it. Move more. Do a fast 2 times a year of some sort and make all things easy. They are the simple quick fixes that work. Variety in food adds in lots of vitamins and enzymes so switch things up.
Eating, nourishing your body that houses your spirit is a practice in love. Love the body being you are and treat it well like you would your pet. Take care of your body with utmost care. Watch what you put into it like you would a baby or your dog. You are in charge of how you feel and how you feed yourself so do it well and with pride. It doesn't need much brain or take much time. We put to much thinking into nutrition. Eat good and move onto the greater thinkings in life. It is simply a process of pleasure and nourishment. Your body knows what it needs!
Do savor and enjoy this pleasure 3 times a day!! Delicious satiation of flavor!
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