We are not taught much of death but we have it all around us. In the old days where there was one dying in the other room as one was being born in another. Maybe we had a greater understanding of this circle. Or perhaps being on a farm with animals, seeing this life cycle often made us more comfortable with it. It doesn't have to always be death of a loved one either, death is in all forms. Could be a marriage or other relationship, a job, a way of living, a life cycle. Death and rebirth are all around us really. We still don't have a good relation to it or skills to cope. We need to find new ways to manage this.

Woman's bodies go through this cycle monthly. They are also usually the ones to deal with the situations of death and rebirth in our culture. Our body maybe has an innate wisdom to know what to do and to be there for others in all kinds of death and rebirth. I consider it is part of our nourishing purpose as we are the birthers of life. We can hold in these sad death like situations with comfort and care. Not really having answers to it but just being there with love for others. We want to shy away from this yet we are the ones who find ourselves helping in it. 

I have been in a death cycle for 6 years with the ending of my old life. I lost many friends and my community  from it that has been a great loss. I also supported friends with their mothers dying and at the end of this cycle, my mom passed unexpectly quick. So it seems this gloomy state has been about me for a bit. I had the  recent death yesterday of a woman I cared for part time as she went through her last part of life. It is a bit overwhelming and sad. Sadness we are not so enthused to feel and try to stuff it, shift it quick or pretend it doesn't exist. For me that has not been an option nor do I feel it as a healthy approach. Death, sadness, loss, not getting the things we want are all part of this sense of losing people, places and things. It is part of life and healthier to feel. For it does transmute us.

Blessed I am to really revel and feel my feelings for it is the healthy way to manage through life. With the discomfort we have with death and loss, most don't give it the space. It can create illness and as I have learned, most illness comes from this unprocessing of feelings. They hide inside and create this dark area not dealt with, stagnation per se that can lead to dis ease. So for the last 6 years this gloom has been about me. I have had no choice but to deal with it.

I have discovered that there is also this richness that comes with loss that is very indicating of love. We wouldn't feel so sad if we didn't love things, people and circumstances. So this grief and loss is really just another facet of love.  Heartbreak and sadness is not our favorite expression of love but we only have it if we had love in the first place. Oxytocin, the pleasure hormone of the parasympathetic nervous system is about in grief. The evidence of the love and the washing of the other side of it. We are actually in healing states when we cry, feel sad, miss things or others. This healing hormone is present and supports our body in renewal when we give into the sadness. We are healed and supported as we process our feelings. Not hindered in health.

I have also had much reflection as I finish this death cycle. A review of things comes from loss, grief and death that I wouldn't have do if I hadn't gone through it. Allowing this sadness to come forward brings the juice and gifts of things I loved. I have more compassion for myself and others. I value things differently from this reflection and find greater ease in the changes of life. It has not depressed me or condensed me but expanded my understanding of life and its unexpected shifts. Able to step back and see the good and bad, painful and liberating of the pain by actually just feeling and allowing it. Not getting caught in it but letting it be and move through me.

It also transforms how we see the surface of life. The superficial things that all seem to think matter. When death and loss is about, all those things leave. Hearing someone moan about traffic or another seems so trite. What we really value comes forward and life has a new, deeper meaning to be here. You let go of pieces of your littleness you have for you clearly see how ridiculous it is. You have greater compassion for others for you know not what they may be dealing with underneath. You have a greater connection to life, to being alive and less small thinking about  all of it. 

Judgement leaves too if you process your emotions. At death, all seem like little children. They are helpless often and their childlike nature of hoping their beliefs are true, that they don't really know what is next and even fear of a child seems about. They look so innocent and vulnerable. You can no longer hold anything against them in action or deed for you just have compassion for them as they will soon leave. Our fears of this come forward too and can be seen. Even in situations or things, this judgement can leave. Yes, it is hard to lose anything you wanted. But an acceptance comes in at some point and the whole judgement leaves you. You see more accurately and without all the mess. It is quite innocent and honest. Your feel free and open that it just is how it is and all are doing their best.

Quiet, crying, feeling low all seem fine things to do with this death cycle. I have learned not to bypass it only to find myself losing it at something small. I have learned the art of self care instead of just busying myself. Ironically, when you allow these to come forward, they don't last long like they do when you avoid them. They lie in hiding waiting to bubble up. You don't cry for more than a few minutes I have found and as I stated earlier, it offers healing oxytocin. You get out of fight or flight and actually create renewal. Tears of all situations come out and it really does feel good. We think it won't but it does. You make peace with sadness instead of trying to avoid it. Sadness, loss, are all part of life. No one gets away from it. So it is healthy to be able to process these emotions so energy isn't used to hide it. Greater joy can come in after it is cleared. 

Sacredness to the process of life and death, rebirth has become very clear to me. You can't have new things or experiences without this letting go. There is only so much room in you and you will encounter many little and big losses in life. You don't take it as seriously if you go through it and feel it. It leaves sooner than later. Avoiding it creates alot of stress. Just going through this regular life emotion and processing creates a health and an understanding. All is sacred that is part of life. Your begin to really feel life in it's highs and lows. The highs are more valuable and delicious. The lows just are. We find sacredness to it all.

In being lost, in loss or confusion means that being found or finding your way is just the next progression. If you don't allow being lost, unclear, sad, you won't get to the next leg while you are stuffing it down. All is change and has it's way so you flow with it. Accepting your feelings, acknowledging them allows them to leave and new ways to come it. It is really quite exciting to feel these things for they go and higher joy comes in. Answers, support, clues and messages stream in. It feels quite magical that you can go low only to be lifted by outer sources. Invisible support comes in. It is very mysterious and fun. 

There is a great richness of love that you know when you  feel and process your loss. Life becomes colorful again in a way it never was. You grow and expand your depth and compassion for yourself and others. You find less small things being an issue in life. You seek support from the world in magic ways. You find yourself more ok with all that shows up. You learn to ride the cycle easier. I imagine some incredible greatness will come forth in this next cycle for me. I have learned alot in this death cycle that has inspired and lifted me to new awareness. I understand that love is all that matters in a deeper way. It makes me soften, kinder and more caring. 

I inspire you to find the richness in loss. I have lost many of things, people and dreams in this cycle. I am not depressed or thinking life is not good. I am the opposite. I find simple inspiration that can lift me so high. I find inward comfort that I didn't have before. I am more accepting of all, mostly myself and my ups and downs. I appreciate life more deeply and know how powerful a smile or caring can be. All has great learning and great love in it. I wouldn't know these things without this cycle and the allowance of it to be felt and processed. I encourage all to dive into this for themselves. It is healthy. It is comforting and it can be releasing so new fun and wonder can show up. 

I am enthused for this as it makes all life richer in all ways! Blessings to those in this, for it is like compost and has rich nutrients that you would never imagine! Feel, process, cry, be sad! It will transform into great joy and learning! I promise that! This I have experienced and am much lighter for it!


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As I take all my talents and decipher them into how to share the joy vibe with others, I realize all healing, health, life energy, vitality,  shakti, bioenergy, whatever you want to call it is about play! Oxytocin, seratonin, dopamine or the parasympathetic nervous system, energy medicine, miracle healing  is about having more joy and pleasure in life! This creates the right energy, chemical reactions in your body that lead to health.

To play we must be present, doing what we are doing, in joy, giggling, laughter. This youthful art is what destresses, and heals the system to create vitality or life energy. We could go through the science, the details, the studies, the blah blah, I study it all. No matter how you cut it, it is about being in the feel good chemicals as much as you can in a day that it becomes a healing habit. Then the body repairs and corrects itself. Currently we are in the fight or flight cortisol habit.

If we lighten up, play, mess around, we get greater health and rejuvenation! This is so incredibly easy and fun! We could eat this and that, take these things, move this way or that, they all help but all this falls into place when we have more play, more present moments being in the body in fun not stress. It is that simple. You can take whatever path to play and lightness you want. There are no rules as to what makes you  feel nourished, filled, light, relaxed, open and playing.

This is such good news to me and I find it easy to work this health system. I just have to gather many ways  that get me into a youthful, playful, energy every day. Then I will find more joy, abundance and brightness in each day thus a happier, healthier life. I connect with my body vessel in pleasure, in fun, in relax and it's innate health system kicks in to let me ride in vitality.   We  train ourselves to relax and play rather than be serious about everything. The seriousness is what is creating the stress thus cortisol. We are so hard on ourselves and play is just the opposite. It is light on us.

As  I am rebirthing through this cycle from flower farmer to health and beauty coach, writer and speaker, i realize it is all about Play!  Sharing this with others and giving them awareness on how that energy feels in the body, is the way to add healing to the world and individuals. I can teach others what the vibe of the body is when they are in this healing nervous system. Once you understand this "feeling" of the body and really sink into it and know its nuances, they can reproduce this easily.  You can  create it in all ways throughout a stressful day with what inspires you.

In essence I am like a play therapist.  I like this new direction  explaining the energy medicine I learned. It all boils down to play and pleasure. Whatever your dis-ease, you can cure it through less stress and more play! To be more healthy and beautiful, glowing in vitality, play until you feel an oxytocin vibe and your body will find its healing!

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So many of the new health studies and treatments are uncovering what the Masters have known a long time. Our unconscious, subconscious, unknown part of ourselves is running the show. We use our minds and ideas to move through life and we hit glitches along the way where often our beliefs systems are not in alignment. We have many pieces to this multidimensionality. Our mind doesn't run everything as we have been trained. Yes, when in alignment with our spirit, emotions and body, certainly we can create. Yet often this hidden side, the shadow, the unconscious has a great power to our experience and we are not conscious of it and how it works. Thus, its name "un" conscious. 

What a quagmire we are in. We have this base system, developed as a child when we didn't have all the information or used our youthful mind to create ways to be in the world that runs us unconsciously.  Hypnotherapy, psychology, many of the health practices are a way to uncover these basic beliefs that run us. That is why it is a passion of mine to share the healing and expressive arts for answers lie in them. This unconscious is tied into us through our emotions. The energy element, not the thought, the feeling nature is what holds this in place. Your conscious mind may want to create something but somewhere inside you, you have a counter idea that will create resistance and you wonder why is this not working? It is unconscious or in the sub consciousness? Here I use them interchangeably. 

Know thyself, heal thyself. How are we to do this when we have a powerful system that runs us and we have a challenge to be aware of it? So much energy of protection and safety is tired in the unconscious as well for it was how we managed to survive in the world as small beings. There are nonsensical ideas and cause effect responses that have nothing to do with the reality we live in now. We have this locked in emotional energy that is holding limits for protection that is no longer needed. So what do we do? 

As I have been taught there is a plethora of ways we can address this and many ways is the best approach. More important to that is our understanding that this runs us. We have to accept this first before we can change anything. This perspective can support you uncovering the mess. When we are thinking, out of presence and in our heads, our unconscious is running us. It is driving our car to where we are going, walking, doing the things of life while we are off thinking and out of our body essentially.  The unconscious is running us while we are out thinking. This is very important to understand. We all know this and live in this world doing it more often than not.

We are out of presence when we are thinking in this way so we don't have full control of ourselves or are we getting the environmental clues about us. That is why present awareness, being in the now, being in the moment is so powerful. This is  actually in the only place where change can occur. Changing our minds is done in the mind, changing our emotions is done in the emotions and changing our behavior is done on the physical level so we have to be present to shift any of these things. We can't think a feeling, we can't think an action. We can shift how we feel (present) or we take action now (present). We can think all we want but it is not doing anything. If we want to change a level or an idea, we have to work on that dimension, not just think about it. 

As we get hold of this idea, knowing we have these multi dimensions running simultaneously, we can start to address getting things  aligned. Until then, we are just going from one idea to another through outside stimulation instead of from our core inside.  Lets consider an example. My spirit wants me to create by sharing as a life coach. My mind is on board for I have wisdom I have learned that transformed me and  I can share it. My emotions  love to help others so they are  passionate about sharing. My site, my literature, the physical plane stuff is in place. So it appears that I should have a great manifestation. I am teaching and sharing with others but I want more success at this and farther reach. Our mind would say "Do more work. Get out there, you have to have better seo, clearer words, greater visibility" and that could be true. But there are times when people don't have the physical level stuff up to par and they still create so is this the only answer?

Now lets see what my subconscious, basic self girl has inside her that needs to get on board. Is there anything inside me that I am not aware of that could be causing a glitch? Well, it is unconscious so I can't just think about it and get an answer always.  it is called unconscious or subconscious for we are not fully conscious of it. However, I can bring light to it, find sideline ways to get to it. Hypnotherapy can get me in the Theta state where this story lives and reprogram it. Looking at my childhood and what were my first ideas of success can bring in some answers. It is a dig to say the least to get this unconscious conscious. Many spiritual schools do past lives, processes, energetic shifts to re-calibrate the unconscious. So we must begin here if things just aren't right. Our world says do something different when often it is believe something different is the answer. It is not the action but the beliefs.

In this example, I have many ideas of success as I was socially trained. Get the stable job, work hard, get a paycheck and you will have success. Coaching is a relatively new industry and although gaining ground, it is not a consistent paycheck. Right there I am going against a belief on success. I am not doing the job/ benefits route so I have a part of me that thinks you can't gain success that way. My reference point for success now is out of alignment. I must update that success can come in numerous ways, the job idea is just one way to reach success. 

I also have an aversion to the word coach. Words mean different things to people and often why communication is hard. Coach implies sports and I lived in a sports household and although I played sports, I didn't like its competitive nature. It had too much pressure for me. So now when I call myself coach, the seo word that describes my industry, I have an aversion the name or have an odd association with it. Here again, my unconscious ideas have a programming going against my life path. I am starting to make these beliefs conscious. 

In the hidden part of me  beliefs exist that go against what I am doing. They are counter the plan. I like the word mentor more. Yet mentor implies free and that will not gain me success financially either. We have so many of these inside us. It is a tangle of a life and quite the can of worms. It is part of the learning here to be conscious and in control of what is running you. 

So there are just two beliefs and there could be many more things inside me working against my creation in the unconscious. I have to know myself, find ways to dive in and update some of this dark side that I am unaware of. That is why alignment, getting all of your pieces on board of a dream are the only way to draw things forward. We must have all our being on board and if the subconscious, unconscious, hidden side of me have things running counter, I will not be able to create in full vibration.

Another example is  someone trying to get well yet inside as a child they got loving attention when they were sick. So they create illness as a way to get attention even though it is not so healthy, it gets them what they are seeking and the unconscious is doing this. They may consciously think, I am doing all these healthy things, why is this happening? For when they want love or feel they need support, the pathway to get it is to become sick in the unconscious.  We have loads of this stuff inside us that is just bad information seen through the eyes of a child. This is the work of know thyself. To uproot these ideas and let them go free and adding the correct beliefs that we know to be true now. It is a process, an unfolding.

Illness and genetics are passed down this way. Our family has heart issues or cancer so if we use the same beliefs of our ancestors, we too can have those issues. But today, science is showing that with evolved thinking and emotional processing, we can change our path and  shut off those genetics or evolve them to new experiences. Our DNA is not set information as once thought.  We can evolve these strands through our experiences and actually change them.  So we have many ways this patterning of the unconscious runs us without our full awareness. The game becomes, how do we unlock these ideas when we are unaware of them.

Developing ourselves through bringing the light of Awareness is key. We uproot these ideas time and again until the new pattern sticks. We realize that an under layer exists and we uncover these things as we go through life. It is a process of knowing ourselves and our unique operating systems as they come forward in life. We find ways to align ourselves fully and this dig is part of it. These patterns are not bad or wrong, they were how we saw the world and kept safe when we were young. The issue is that we are not those small beings in survival. We have gained many experiences and successes that override that information and we just need to reroute ourselves by conscious awareness. We don't need to get upset with ourselves or use self berating behavior that we are making odd connections and choices. We just love the pattern that worked for a moment and realize we not longer need this outdated information. It is how it all works. 

This is the core of self development. We allow ourselves to update our selves, our stories, our beliefs, our motives. You learn to know yourself and the odd ideas you have collected. You see if they are purposeful now, and then shift or discard them.  It is what we are doing anyway. Science is now offering great therapies that dive into this unconscious as spirit schools have been sharing practices to reveal this as well. This is how we grow and evolve.
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Grounding our spirit is bringing in our unique way which is clearing the trained way of being. We unmask. The unconscious, subconscious, the dark hidden parts of ourselves that we through protection tucked away in these areas, must be unmuddied. It is what it is. Our being is set up this way to survive and protect. Once we no longer need these protections, we root them out as they appear. Being mindful, aware, going through old issues as they surface, all for our development of being who we really are underneath these things. 

To clear our body of these emotional ties is the play we are in. So many processes out there are on the mental level. That level will not access the subconscious or clear it. It is the job of the emotional nature. Fear, protection, anxiety, unworthiness, are all emotions. They can't be thought out. We know for we have all tried that for that is what we are taught. It doesn't work. It is not the level where they came to be so we can only shift by using the feeling nature. This is the cause effect level. That tends to be a problem for we have discounted this nature. We look at it as the lower nature, to be subdued, not listened too, unstable. In fact, it could be but it is what creates this unconscious dark inside. So we can only rework it through an understanding, a processing that goes in on the emotional level. Another reason to play and notice our emotions. They are guidance as the thinking is and yet, no one is really teaching us about it very clear or popularly. 

Until you want to get cozy with this energy nature, the emotions, energy moving, you will not uproot these outdated beliefs. You will be run by childlike eyes in many areas and unaware of them. Self development is developing these into wiser ways. We become aware of our idiosyncrasies and change them in a steady process. The good news is there are great roots to the many connections we have so we go for that root and many unconscious beliefs change simultaneously. Our roots are created in our childhood so clearing those ideas is the way to do it with greater efficiency.

We are just opening to really understanding this multidimensionality on the mind level. Be patient and gentle. This is our evolution. I find making it play, not so serious is how to work it. That is how I was taught and there is no right or wrong in play.  Just an uncovering of information. I showed you about myself and how these ideas could effect my success. I look at them, feel them and then let them go. I live more accurate beliefs and watch for when another tie to that idea comes forward in the present and clear that. It is the process and we do it unconsciously so now we can do some of it consciously for a healthier way of being.

 Let me be clear that we do not need to go back to our childhood like opening a can of worms with our mind. We investigate it presently as issues come up in the present. If I consider, something is out of alignment, I then investigate what beliefs I have that could counteract it, then and there. I am present, going forward in sharing my gift and then as I find a block, I then investigate in present awareness. That way we are not getting caught in a mental loop trying to find a needle in a haystack. We are doing something now, we look at then to see if there is a clearing of old information to be completed. It is very different than living in the past or allowing it to run us.  Present awareness will bring us to these past things easily, in play, in investigation and as an observer. It is effective used this way. I have found it to be the easier, quickest way to play with my unconscious.

I Inspire you to play in the same way.  Present awareness unlocks the past! Method is very important here so you can free and update rather than rerun the program! Playing with life!



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