As I journey through continually learning of my body, especially as a woman for we learn not much about the feminine body, I find that gentle movement and treatments are greater support to me. I find my body more powerful and lean through this honor of its flow and flexibility. It grows my power of shape with greater grace and ease. I am thankful for I am not into push or hard. I have tried it and proved to myself that it is not good for my beautiful body.
I got a treatment yesterday of Feldenkrais therapy which I think is the most fascinating thing for building your body and learning of it. I share Tia chi health, dance and other Eastern arts so I am educated in flow for the body and how it effects our health more powerfully through gently working with it. This therapy yesterday was so educational in experiencing the power of how connected all parts of the body are. The greatest learning was that I was not standing in my feet fully and that was glitching my body up at the neck because of my riding my feet to lightly. It was amazing that as she worked on my feet, showing me how using the edges was not using the power of my full foot and energy or power. As she showed me the way I was riding and the way I could use all of my feet by grounding, I could feel the energy clear through my body to my head.
Standing tall, fully in your feet, feeds the whole body with energy. Grounding it is called, using the support of the earth and the blessed full feet we have, electrified me with energy. Filling my legs fully powered all the way up, opened my heart and shoulders, expanded my rib cage, relieved my neck and widened me in a good way.. To feel this while laying down was truly amazing. I had to share this magic of grounding in your feet so you to could observe yourself to see how to feel greater power and energy in your body.
Grounding, standing on the ground, feeling its support is something I know. We hear it, we do it but to experience the power that we are missing by not fully standing in our feet was amazing. We don't fully engage our legs which causes us to use our hips and shoulders in less open ways, creating constriction and often pain. It was so simple that I was awestruck at how just simply becoming aware of my feet fully engaging with the earth could electrify the energy in my body. You hear to ground and maybe you do that but to really feel the full power of it was new to me in this way. A body presence is necessary and a subtle sensing of all your parts. Indeed this simple learning and adjustment in how I embody my body has energized me today in a new way.
We do these things yet don't know the power to the subtly of presence in our bodies. When we begin to use our senses fully and pay attention on these other levels, we can have more power by not doing much of anything but correcting inhabiting our body. I am continually surprised by how I can keep learning of these most simple body mechanics and be more powerful and energized. It is an amazing learning that inspires me to continue on my mission to support others to tap into their bodies, their senses so they too can have more pleasure and joy, power in their bodies. It is not about doing more or strengthening through movement always but just being fully in your body with all consciousness. Retraining how we ride in it.
Ease and grace is my motto. Why? So I do it, so I enjoy it, so I can find health and beauty for I engage and understand how and why. This was so powerful. I don't know how I was walking before but I can feel myself stand straighter, glide really about rather than tip toe topsy turvy. I never would of gotten such an understanding of how to walk, how the use the ground, how to "ground" as it is called in a new way and stall tall. I feel my whole body, the power in my legs, the opening of my rib cage, heart, the widening of my shoulder and, ease in my neck. Truly amazing therapy and learning.!!
So glad I am curious to check out all these healing arts!! Great Goddess Play!
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This is the topic for all woman!! Men seem to have a better handle on taking care of themselves and their needs. As a stay at mom for most of my life, I was used to other care and the catch all for most of the community. I was available for sick kids, airport runs, hospital visits, flat tires, all kinds of odd emergencies. I enjoyed being the grounder and one available. After my daughter grew up and left, it was apparent my role was different and being me in a new way was up for creation.
When I became a minister, my goal was to learn self ministry, a very important part of ministry. I knew how to care for others and often over cared in ways or atleast put others needs first. I believe this is part of being a woman, nourisher, our innate role that does delight and fuel us. However, with the onset of being in the workforce, trying to run a home and take care of others, self care has dropped out and near impossible. We don't seem to know how to do this or give ourselves enough. Then we get upset that no one cares for us but we act limitless. We need to share what that is and often, it is something we can only give to ourselves. This is a big quagmire for femininity at this time. We hear about self care, we try to do it yet we often fall short of doing it in a way that fills us enough.
I was awakened to how, the true value and energy from self care by Woman Masters in Femininity. It is a continual journey that I find so delicious! It is being given permission to manage myself first and then I have the most power. We hear these words but when you really practice this daily, it is the most expanding, sensual experience that just keeps getting better. Your Shakti, this well of energy within us is blocked by our current thinking and culture. When we learn of this energy well, begin to do the things that activate it that are easy, natural and fun for us, we have boundless energy to serve and support. It is truly a magic teaching yet so present in us all as woman.
Learning of our body, how it flows, what oxytocin is and how to get in this state bring us health easily. We are cruising in the wrong nervous system most of the time so we begin to train our body through easy ways of being that we love as woman. In fact, if it is hard, it is not healthy for woman. Just is. The no pain no gain is not for woman! It is a masculine principle and we are so entrenched with. It must be hard or we can't find true health is wrong for woman. Our bodies are pleasure vehicles of sensuality. Pain kills our sensory connection and the connection to our gift of intuition.
Yep, and people will battle me on this. Science will prove it soon enough. Why wait when it is the truth of our body and has been part of our sacred femininity for all time. We just don't have the feminine community that we have spent thousands of years in over the last 75 years so the knowledge has been lost to us. The wisdom is always around and in this time of "divine feminine" the truths, the health, the practices, the stories, the Goddess way is resurrecting back to our world and culture. You may think against it or feel it is not for you but you are a woman and this is your heritage, the wisdom of being a sacred woman. This art and magic has been lost yet it is our true nature.
I often wonder when people tell me, "You like Goddess and I just don't buy into that as a woman". It is almost like an oxymoron. Really? There is a masculine, Father God and feminine principle, Mother God, in this earth existence. Two poles. How could you not embrace that which you are? We are woman and Goddess is the divine representation of divinity in feminine form. What is there to reject or not buy into? It is the lost wisdom of woman that creates all this odd thinking and competitive disturbance among woman that are truly the great collaborative nourishers of all things.
We all do things our own way and each is perfect. I embrace the wisdom of self care, Shakti, Blessed Mother wisdom, Persian Red Tent knowledge that we had longer than not. As you learn it, it is amazingly simple and delightful for it is all about femininity and if your a woman, this stuff is in our DNA. Self care, the right kind, understanding our body and selves as dynamic change and will o wisp beings we are is the quickest way to health and a magical life experience. I was blessed to be open, challenge my cultural untruths, play with these ideas and find it to be so transforming I have made it my purpose!
So ladies, I invite you to investigate and participate in daily self care! Little by little you learn to honor yourself in ways that delight. It is all about delight and pleasure with woman. If it does that, it gives your health and juicy essence. It is that simple. We play with life, we make love to life, we are the creatures of nourishing. We do it for others and the power you receive as you do it to yourself is 10 fold! You can help so many others in a more enjoyable way by reversing the order of care! Like magic! The nourishing forces of Blessed Mother, of Goddess. of Mother Nature all support us for it is our purpose and gift.
I encourage you to check out this Goddess, Divine Feminine, Red Tent Wisdom or Captivating Ideas!! It is magic and just part of who we are! I co-host a day retreat quarterly at The Room at Meadowbrook called "How Lovely to Be Queen!" A whole day of self care practices, hour long Jin Shin treatment, self help, tai chi health, good food, inward time, dancing, numerology, lots of stuff. We only have at most 9 gals for it is intimate fun. You walk away after a full day of this with an understanding of how to nourish yourself furthermore and a plan you created. It is a delicious day and the results create magnificent health!!
Check out this self care study!! It is the most powerful transformation to woman, divine connection and health, beauty and magnetism I have found!! It is fun, playful and fulfilling on all levels!! Ooolala!
I have been taught the easiest way through things is to love them. Not the love that we think of emotionally. Obviously when we are in challenge, loving it that way is not possible. It is more of a practice to bring in the vibration of love for it moves all things. Often I am screaming in anger that I love this! It kind of becomes funny as though those words and what is occurring don't even go together. Yet in the crack of a smile or the silliness of just saying that, there is a shift, a movement that lifts me ever so little from the stuck place to a lighter note. Often that is all it takes to get us rolling forward again.
Not that this is easy , but it is a simple practice, a play with words that can simply shift us toward a better state. Often that is all that is needed to shift conditions, make movements, open us to another idea, do something else, anything to move us from a resistant, solid position. As silly or simple as this is, I find it to be one of the most powerful tools I have to get myself through life and challenge, that is very simple. Life is fluid and anything can go haywire at anytime. The game to me, the Yoga of Living is to have all kinds of tools at your fingertips to inch you from feeling locked in to an emotion, a thinking or a physical circumstance. A small bit of shift is all it takes to keep going. Like singing in the rain!
You could make love to life on this level and find yourself getting out of stuck situations. Taking that idea out further, what if you considered just making love to all life in every minute as you strolled through? What if you made everything a pleasure or chose to extract pleasure out of all you did. This may be an easier practice for there is so much good that really goes on in a day that you could revel, savor and truly find the pleasure vibe in.
Imagine how your state, your health, your relaxation would be if you actually where making love to things and feeling the pleasure of it. The I love this feeling that gives you the oxytocin, champagne bubble in your body experience. Rather than dwell on what is crappy, dwell on what is good going on in as many moments as you can with all your body being. Not just mind thinking of good or emotions, feeling good but all of yourself! Single focus on good, on feeling the vibe of the good and experiencing the good. Then when the not so good comes along, you are in the best position to handle it. For you are already in a good state so you are clearer, more calm and open to quicker, greater solution from this pleasure state.
These are the simple things, the momentary tools that living a life of health, beauty and joy encompass. They are not about these elaborate techniques or this extensive spiritual study to have more joy. They are momentary tools, playful ways to lighten up the heaviness in the world. Ways to see the world from a different perspective that changes your whole reality. In fact, perspective is all there is!
There is strife, challenge, hardship and responsibility in this world. It is what it is. We accept that and then learn faster ways to cooperate with it when it shows up. Consider this is the game we are in. How do you surf through the conditions of life with the most health and joy that you can? Then you begin to use your energy efficiently. You begin to stop getting caught in time wasting low vibe behavior by finding tools that energetically shift you out. It becomes like playing, like fun, like a game goal situation. The goal being, how can I shift myself from one place to another quickest. Sound and movement are quicker than thinking. Remember that for it is a gem of living in great joy.
This is where making love to it all is good direction! To me this is just extracting the pleasure out of things. If there is none present to be extracted, I shift my perspective to try to find some or as quickly as I can, move to the next place I can find pleasure in something. This pleasure seeking, hedonism you could call it is a great elixir. Why? It creates oxytocin, the hormone of the parasympathetic nervous system which is our rejuvenation system. Our system of healing, of rest, of renewal, of sustaining health and vitality. Knowing life is creating adrenal stress, it becomes the job of our spirit to find ways to get to the opposite of that as often as we can.
This is where true pleasure comes in. Pleasure can be found every where and I continue to expand what pleasure is, where I find it and create new ways to see it. I expand my understanding of it and it creates health. It supports finding and making love to all things. It opens my senses in greater ways to beauty, joy, lighter perspectives and humor. It is the greatest practice I was taught and continue to play with. It is a never ending tool in a good way..
I inspire you to use this affirmation to Make Love to Life. However that sinks in you. Whatever that means. It grows and expands in so many ways in a good perspective. There is a giving and receiving to it. A co-mingling. A playfulness. A sensuality that involves all your body, emotions and mind. There is a spiritual quality to it. It involves it all. And it is fun! Easy! Simple.
Check it out and see if it works to lift, create lightness and more happy in your life! It's like playing in the rain puddles my friends!
It is one of my mantras daily!!Make love to your life!
I have been sharing Sacred Femininity for years and it is so familiar to me that I often forget that others have no understanding or awareness of the power of being a woman. They know not of energy well of Shakti. I hadn't either yet the sound of Sacred Femininity called me. It is important that I find those who are seeking the wisdom I am sharing. It is a niche market so I continue on my mission to find my tribe. You can only know by putting it out there and seeing the response
In an effort to make connections, promote the Room and its spiritual workshops as well as my own work, I went to the usual business woman meeting yesterday. A lovely group of woman that seemed to have great sisterhood. As I was listening to each and what they do, which is in 10 seconds, the elevator speech, I felt this anxiety. The quick energy that each spoke, the businessy vibe of things and my own discomfort of sorts for this is not really the way woman empower each other as I know it, I left the meeting feeling kind of stressed with this uncomfortable energy. I know when I spoke of myself saying I support woman to embody the Inner Goddess Glow, an energy of not understanding pervaded the room. Many have clever phrases so I tried to do that with my work. Many don't even consider themselves a Goddess so maybe not so clever.
We only have 10 seconds to share our work and how do I describe myself and my unique work in 10 seconds? It is the way business is done yet I am not sure just throwing out a quick word can describe the essence of Sacred Femininity. I am not a normal business coach or seller of products or have a retail store. I work with woman regarding their inner essence, their essential nature of being a woman, an art lost in our culture of business and life. You can do all the business you want, take courses to increase productivity, learn how to's yet none of this will create as much success as embracing yourself inwardly.
After I left, I fortunately had a Svaroopa Yoga Class and that recentered me back to my calm oxytocin state. In the interum, I really had to check within to see if this static, this anxiety was fear coming forward from expanding in new ways and groups or was it a sign that I am in the wrong tribe. This is the point of self awareness, checking in with yourself to learn what the message of your feeling nature is. It is a guidance system that supports you to know what or where to be involved. Many miss the importance of the emotional nature. It is an indicator of the world around you and gives you information on how to move.
I determined that this group just wasn't my tribe. I reached out and put forth my work and it just isn't the group for me. I know that what I teach and how I teach it is not common or something all woman want to embrace at this time. Sacred Femininity stirs many of our outdated belief systems. When I wanted to call my book that years ago, the publisher thought it wouldn't sell as easy. She thought many woman haven't been taught the Sacredness of being a woman and they would unconsciously not get it for that title. So I am looking for woman wanting to expand beyond the belief systems we have regarding being a woman and open to being sacred as one.
It is good learning to know your tribe. It is like selling sneakers to someone with no feet. They have no use or interest in footwear. As one of my teachers said, how can you share the magic of the womb and its creative power with woman who are blocked from their womb, don't know and don't want to know. So it was a good day of business for me to realize, through my own experience of how I felt and was received, that I am in the wrong place. This way you avoid feeling rejected or bad about yourself when you are just not in a place that resonates with what you are offering. Whether business or pleasure. Rejection is protection. Being rejected is guidance of "dont go there. Staying in places where we don't feel good to be yourself can cause more issue than realizing we just don't belong there. It is not good or bad it just is an indicator of where you feel safe and good.
We all have gifts that can awaken others to new things. Not all are on the same level and vibration so you can never please everyone. There is a discernment about your work that is very important. In my ministerial blessing there is a line that says, " and those that are in that ray are easily and openly reminded of the light and joy of spirit." The key is "in that ray". So there are other rays that I will not easily inspire. It is important that I don't take that as rejection but know when I am not inspiring, I am in the wrong tribe I learned of that this morning. It is a blessing and guidance.. I will keep going, for they are out there as I am inspired to find and share what helped me. I will just keep going!
I recently joined a 90 Day Challenge with the Natural Life Business Partnership! I jumped in for Camille the founder got me enthused by her enthusiasm. An energy source hard not to ride. I considered this would move me to manage my life's work as Lyn Hicks in a new way. It has been on the back burner somewhat for I was busy managing other priorities. I wanted to make a personal commitment to put this on the priority list. Often making an intention out loud, aligns our consciousness.
I was not in the mind set of beating myself up for not accomplishing this task yet. In transition, working with presence, other things were more important and showed up to handle. This is often the case for ourselves. We spend too much time beating ourselves up that we are not doing something and waste energy. There is never a reason to do that, it is energy wasting, we are not doing, we are mentalizing. Discipline is important but I see it more as direction. Directing myself toward my expansion, not contracting about what I haven't yet done.
That said, it seemed with the move behind me, the festival complete, gardening phasing out, it is time to consider how my Clinical Homeopathy, floral design and educating/mentoring can be presented to the world in a way that sings my heart. Many say I should pick one of these and do it hard. I am not of that philosophy. I am about being authentic and I enjoy these three ways to create money. I don't want to focus on just one for all are my wisdom I am called to share. I like that I am multidimensional, unique and have a mix of offerings.
Being a woman, awakening to the Aquarian Age, the individual, the gifts and talents of the creatives will be the focus. I sense that and find having a blend called the White Lotus Cottage is authentic to me. So I will work it that way and give up the elevator speech mentality. If I have one it would be to Play with Life, Make love to life or I offer things of beauty! I want to inspire woman now that a feminine awakening is in full thrust that we are allowed to use our multifaceted gifts for career. It doesn't have to be linear if a mix brings us health, beauty and happiness.
One focus works for some but as woman we have the gift of multifocus. This is not wrong, it is a gift that many men don't have. They do one at a time production. Woman can do many things at once and accomplish in a very graceful way that looks effortless. This is a gift we have naturally and we need to use it more for success rather than feel we are unfocused.
So as I entered this challenge, I listened to the kick off and it cringed me the list of things to do, how to get to my goals, it was like static in my body. I thought, i will not do well at this. The first day I am already in resistance about it. I looked deeper to see if it was temper tantrum girl in her indicator position, showing me a lesson or if she was just whining about task work. It was good for me to go in and see if this resistance was a pattern that needs to clear or a message of going a different way.
I appreciated the challenge for this was a self growth moment already on day 2. I realized it was not just me being lazy as society would call it. It was my authentic self saying make this fun and playful or you won't do it. I am trained in the feminine way of pleasure and this sounded like yucky work. In the feminine way of pleasure it is not that we don't do yucky work. Cleaning is yucky and we do this. It is not about the activity, it is about the way we approach the activity and how we use our creativity to make the most boring things playful. The project was presented to me in a linear, boring, production way so I need to put it in perspective.
I realized that one of the goals of this challenge was to make it a pleasure to develop my career, my presentation of this refined me to the world. I could not just listen to the advice and linear offerings( that work no doubt). I had to come up with my own way to do this challenge that seemed playful, inspiring and authentic to me. This is the feminine way of creativity that makes listening to little kids music while driving around in the car fun. We can take anything that is presented and make it fun, add joy, create a sing songy vibe and complete it. This is a very important understanding of feminine, creative, sensual energy! I must do that for my 90 day challenge. Use my feminine way to work toward my goals.
I share this for often we sense this discomfort with what is before us and shun it off as laziness, say we are not motivated, we are not ready, using this discomfort as a way to push ourselves into something we don't want to do or beat ourselves up. For woman, it is all about creativity, pleasure and play. This other process just won't work long term for our nature or our body. It will create adrenal stress as we "push" ourselves through. It is not a good use of energy for woman.
To look at it from the feminine perspective which involves more emotion which is the tool of action. I had to reframe what I heard into words and ways that cause my passion to arise and thus I can do anything. Just thinking I will get success by doing this, that and the other things may very well work. Yet I am not about to change my light attitude and happy daily living for success. I can do anything before me if I use my creative mind and playful spirit to inspire me. I find this most important for woman. We are not mental as men. We can do things that way but we will stress over time and be unfulfilled. It is just the nature of femininity.
In all this I believe there is a huge key and message from spirit. I must teach this to other woman in a way that delights me for it will delight them. I have been on this path for over 8 years and I know it works, supports me each day and it is wisdom that woman are seeking in how they operate. To do this challenge from a feminine way for myself allows me to really remember, woman are all over trying things from the linear way and running into the same static I did. They are looking for me to remind them, they are not lazy or unable to accomplish goals. They just need to use their innate feminine way to inspire and motivate themselves rather than use the mental concepts before them. Then their magic flows.
Yes.... this is my gift and I will happily, joyfully, playfully remind others of our magical way of being! The Art Of Being a Woman!
It is quite a journey being in relationship. In fact, it is probably the most adapting thing we must do. It is so valuable to observe and learn from your ways you interact. They say others are our mirrors of ourselves. It is not always easy to see it that way. It is also not so easy to be mature and do things the way you know work versus your reactive level. Relationship is the quickest way to refine your consciousness so I see it all as upliftment and learning of me.
Relationships bring up our wounds, our triggers, our unhealed parts of ourselves. When we get hurt, by nature we get angry and want to protect. It is a good tool anger, to let us know where we feel scared, hurt, vulnerable. Our quick heat reaction not always so effective to communicate with others our truth, our feelings yet it has it's place. We do react. We create issue, we play small, we have tantrums, all of this is just part of learning how to be in harmony with another while learning of ourselves. Sometimes we just won't find harmony. We can love others deeply and have moments of disagreement, even battle. It is normal and part of learning the tantra of two. I learned much about anger with my wild boy. In my school they call it sandpapering, Refining the diamond.
The wild boy I was dating has ended our relationship. The passion and tension between such opposites was delicious in so many ways. We just couldn't connect in communication in a way that I could manage. I am a woman so of course, I wanted more connection, communication and attention than I received. Woman seem to chat how men don't give them enough and men chat how their woman wants far too much attention. Part of the opposing poles of things, us learning that a balance will always need to be addressed. Some times it will work and other times it will not. Part of the man/woman learning.
I learned good things about anger and passion. Woman generally don't show anger for then we are "bitches". Men are allowed to be angry and it is just men. So for me to go head to head with this anger was freeing. I said and acted in ways I would of judged as not nice girl. It was quite freeing. I appreciated that tap into my anger I don't show. At first, I beat myself up for going to that reactive space but then realized how anger transmutes energy and clears it when you speak it. I am not saying it is ok to manage that way but it was important to see the protection and force anger offers. Men get to do that. Woman not really. I saw the wild cat in me and it was freeing to express it rather than hold it in. I embraced being a bitch and seeing the power in voicing what I didn't like.
We all learn milder ways to express anger. When ever we learn anything we often go to extreme. I think my anger expression ended it. He responded back that I was immature and I haven't heard back since. I think it is why woman don't express anger. They don't want to get dumped or scolded. Well, I felt what I felt and need to share and be honest if I want a good relationship. So I did. I got dumped. It is better to be truthful and get left in the dust than hold in anger, create resentment and then have a slow burn. .
I did like this guy for the experience of difference and fun he gave me. I was giggling when we were together and found our twisted connection quite adventurous. He was as shocked to be with me as well, so maybe it was just one of those flings that rolls through craziness. Opposites attract. In tantra, it is the most delicious connection but managing it properly is the whole art. I obviously am a novice.
I did appreciate the feistiness!. Maybe we couldn't manage it to a reasonable level but it is powerful energy. I think many of woman hide this wild, crazy part of themselves or stuff it down and it becomes destructive to them and their relationships. Maybe that's what happened here. I liked getting tapped into my fiery nature. I am thankful to wild boy for bringing out wild girl! I hold tantrum girl in a dungeon mostly and mildly speak my discontent. That doesn't serve me either. Not sure what the full lesson of this balance will be but I liked having her unleashed. She has great power, protection and energy that I am not using. I don't think I used her rightly here either, but she got to be a present, that is learning. I will find when and how she is appropriate and it won't be by the rules of womanhood I was taught.
Our rules put this presence of life force, protection, honest feelings in the dungeon for woman. She is not effective there and leashed up. Her message muted to me and the world. I appreciated her having a space. I think she has often created havoc and destruction by keeping her quiet. Then she emerges in reaction. I do know there is a better way to use her energy. If it wasn't for Italian wild boy and his fiery way, I wouldn't of tapped into mine. This is a great awakening to a part of me that I like. Society has told me to be proper and quaint but I like this wild child girl inside! She is allowed to express and I will find more positive ways to share what she is.
Passion protection, anger, wild fun, adventure are all on the same vibe of energy. We are always having to learn how to ride that edge of playful excitement and destruction in many ways. I am grateful for this awakening to this energy in me and this expansion of a part of myself that only a relationship would of shown me, even if I was dumped. It didn't make me feel unlikable, it made me like myself richer for the parts of me he supported to be.
Maybe I learned that our ways weren't rightfully blended? Our timing wasn't good? I am just a bitch and want more adoration than I may receive? We weren't meant to play long???? Don't know those answers yet but do know that this wild girl he reflected is out to play now and I like it! That is the delicious tantra of relationship!
Years ago, I was at an equinox celebration at Lauren Nappens of Original Medicine. She shared how only two days a year does Mother Nature have perfect balance at the equinoxes. I thought that was fascinating and it made quite an impression on me. We all talk about balance and feel uncomfortable with ourselves for not having enough, yet nature finds full balance only twice a year!
The Equinox does tell us it is a time to re-balance, to consider balance in our lives and create more. It doesn't mean that balance is a consistent state. We are on a moving planet in a moving experience so if we do find balance, it is for a moment. It is more like we go off balance only to rebalance and then go off balance again. We are in a cyclical dance, expanding, growing, recreating ourselves all the time.
The symbology of the equinox calls us to notice where we need to reign in more balance. We know this for when September hits, we are so glad to get a new routine! Summer, where the light is in full swing, has almost burned us out with all the activity. We instinctively seek the fall clean out, reorder and let go we are all familiar with this time of year. The solstices are when the light (Summer Solstice) or the dark ( Winter Solstice) rules. We can look at how this yearly cycle goes for it shows us a greater picture of what is happening and how to use these times and energies for ourselves.
It is the pendulum swing that we all experience in life! Our learning, our cycles run to one side and we get way off balance, we notice then we slowly center Then another area goes out, we notice and center. Our year runs in this cycle through the seasons having inward and outward times, with the balance inbetween of spring and fall. Realizing we are in the balance cycle, we innately begin to create this within ourselves.
Most importantly to me, I realize life isn't to be balanced all that often. Yes, I can create routines, practices and ideas to have all areas of life stimulated on a daily basis. I can't expect that to stick for very long. Inevitably comes a crisis, a situation, a growth spurt, a side adventure that will take me off into an area of family, career, hobby or philanthropy that will take up alot more attention then the other areas. This is normal when you look at the larger cycle of a year. It gives me a greater perspective on balance. I can notice and see when I get too far off yet it is the way of living to be in this swing and cycle.
It also tells me that my days can have balance in a smaller way. If you take the seasonal year and use the day as a representation of it, then each day I can find moments that I reorder and call in a balance of myself. Times to recenter, to breathe, to relax, to notice where I need support and what I am truly feeling. This is what I teach and how I learned the yoga of living. Using each day to pay attention to all seasons and cycles. Making all a practice of yoga, noticing, resting, activity, silence, crisis, solution, Life continues to move along so we learn ways to adjust and move along with it rather than get stuck in what has happened, letting that run us. Having a tool box of techniques to support our centering crucial to this yoga of life.
These cycles support us energetically and give us information on how the world, the physical plane runs. We learn to use its laws for ourselves in expanded and mundane ways to feel ok. There is no true landing spot, only moments of balance activity or stillness. We must learn to work with this movement in a way that supports us to grow, expand, rest and reflect.
Remember balance is only momentary. It is a dance to use these moments of reflect, activity, balance and rebirth so daily we can direct ourselves. Also remembering that weekly, monthly and yearly these cycles are simultaneously running in our lives. Nature shows us the blend of these cycles in large and daily ways. It is our awareness that allows us to use them to create a sense of balance within and without.
We have a culture that supports us to be like others, look a certain way, act a certain way and express according to a set of norms. With the greater the energies about us with this Aquarian Age upon us, there is great support to be your own unique, individual expression. No one fits the norm. Trying to is a waste of time and creates alot of dis ease within us.
There are many beliefs within us that don't support us being ourselves. Our whole life we have been told to be this, do that, success is this or that, talk this way, blah, blah. Important it is to watch these come up and observe the silly stuff within us. I listen to the advice people give me, the ideas or comments they make about my attitude or way and it is really not so supportive. People want us to succeed but they don't know what will work for us. Only we do and we know ourselves and what feels authentic. It is a challenge to clear these ideas for they have been part of us forso long. Yet, we have an obligation to be ourselves, authentically, uniquely and in truth.
I was watching the Houseswives Shows last night and was in such disbelief and even sad. Such beautiful woman acting so negative. I have been around woman all my life and that is such a odd representation of who we are. I don't know if they are comfortable with themselves for such behavior and back biting indicates that maybe not. Caught up in the better than or competitive edge doesn't suit any of us. Especially in this time when we are being called to honor ourselves and express that. I was part stunned, dumbfounded at the insanity of the behavior and saddened that this is what is being presented about beautiful, well off woman. As though anyone wants such an unhappy life. Yes, they have many things but by the situation and conditions they were in and creating, it didn't seem fun to me. My preference of sisterhood is much different than that. I know of a sisterhood that supports us in adoring ourselves and each other.
Adoring ourselves is the answer to health, beauty and well being! It opens us to express who we are to the world. It is not looked as appropriate to adore ourselves for it shows in great confidence outwardly. I often have men tell me that I am too open with my confidence. I feel good to be me, pretty as I can be and filled with hope and excitement for my life. I know I am a good seed and I must support myself in lovely ways if I am to shine in the world. I let it go when they tell me these things. I feel powerful and maybe that makes them feel different or uncomfortable. However, I will not back off from feeling good about myself for others whom are uncomfortable with a confident woman. Often others look at this as arrogance yet feeling my magnificence going to meet others magnificence is what it is all about. I love to see others light and seek it. So I let it all go.
I practice this adoration daily! How do we do this? We consider ourselves as divine wonders. We see what we like, how we are, what our natural gifts are and we revel in them. We find what we like in ourselves and focus on expanding that. Our world seeks problems and solutions yet it seem easier to find your strengths and expand them. Trying to change a weakness is already the wrong vibration to start. Noticing your strengths, your gifts and wondering how to use them in a challenging situation sets up greater success and confidence. I am done working things the way others do. I am creative so my process in most all things is very different than logical mind and I embrace and use that.
I daily do things that inspire and delight myself in all ways, big and small. I study spiritual things in the morning to set myself up for my day. I get ready and really get into my artistry and creativeness of how I will present myself to the world. I like my clothes and put on colors and styles that I feel good in. I try to move at my own pace rather than others when I can. I do things for myself like savor my coffee in slowness. I hike outside or atleast go outside between things for it settles me and clears me. It inspires me in the beauty of the world. I delight to find new people and reach out to others in my field that I find their cards or a tip from another. I get healing treatments when I can and do self help of Jin Shin, self massage, meditation and facials at home. When I notice I am in not so good a place, I reach to balance, shift, find support or something to get back on track as soon as I can notice. I listen to music as much as I can to get inspired by the sound vibe. It is important to schedule in delight as much as I can. It won't just show up.
These are ways of adoring ourselves. Finding what delights us to feel good and doing them. As you do, it expands into a vibration that is continually operating in you without conscious choice. Your innate health system thrives when you add relaxation or delight. It brings in this vibration of it's own accord for it is healing and supportive. I seek ways to have automatic good habits rather than just what is considered negative. I practice soothing, calming and centering myself continually through the day when I notice I am feeling not so good. I reach to feel good and it works. It is my intention and I work it. This is adoring yourself.
Each of us is a divine spark of spirit here in a particular way purposefully. We do not need to learn new things as much as let go of stuff that isn't supportive or true. Allowing who we really are to express outside of our training to be this or that. My whole life has been a telling of me to be different and I finally realized that being different as I am is what brings me the greatest success in all things. I let go of the other stuff and really find the divine me that is here wanting to be. I see her and adore her, coax her out, tell her with my mind I am her best friend, support and she can be who she wants. For me it is the child like empress inside. I let her play within me, create in my mind and offer me new ways to overcome the training that stops me from liking this spirit of me.
Consider practicing ways to adore yourself. You can do it quietly, inwardly if that works. Observe what thoughts come forward or emotions as you do that don't support you adoring yourself. It is really quite funny. I remember when I learned a practice in the feminine arts that involved talking to my body deva as I was in the shower, using the finest products, thanking all parts of my body for its support and beauty. As I was doing it this voice came in, "What are you doing? this is absurd talking to yourself in this way. Do you really think this is helping you?" It jolted me and then I thought, " If I don't feel this way about myself who else will? Then I must endlessly seek others that adore me?" It made greater sense for me to love myself in the shower and I do that to this day. I allowed that training to come forward but updated my thinking to a way that was greater truth. This is part of loving yourself. Kick out those beliefs!! They are wasteful to our energy and beauty.
Play with these ideas and adore yourself. You have your own ways and they are delicious! I constantly seek new ways and find feeling good about me to be my pattern more than feeling bad. I love my body as it is and it gets healthier and shapelier. I honor my giggles and they come more often. The more you adore you the more you find others that do. It is a great reflection of within/without. It raises your vibe so only those with that match come around. I find it an amazing magic that we all have. So do please play with this self adoration!! Magical!
Life throws a lot of curve balls! Being in heaven on earth, blissed out, nirvana the prize. Some days it just creeps in. Not sure what brings it. You just have this vitality, this joy, this bliss within and nothing can mess with it. Right now I feel that! How delicious!!!!
When these moments come whether it is a great accomplishment, an ending, a beginning or just because it is so key to really revel. When we feel good, often we consider it won't last and often can kick ourselves out of this joy by considering that. Of course, it won't last! Nothing does. It is a better practice to just sink in fully and ride it. To me, it is so available as you get more cozy riding it. When you revel, savor, seek ecstasy and entice it, it comes easier.
You know my way to health and well being comes through play and pleasure. I actively cultivate this. It is not easy especially when the world tells me to be serious, "you can't be happy all the time", there is things to be done. I understand the world has much going on that is not positive. But why on earth would I focus on such? We have control over our thoughts and if joy, fun, pleasure is the Garden of Eden here, why wouldn't I try to see it everywhere??????
We don't have to work at seriousness, stress, hardship or negativity. It is a given and it is all about. But pleasure? That must be sought, cultivated, created. We are creators so we can see and look for what makes us feel good. Why would we allow the other stuff to take our focus? Maybe it seems to simple or impossible yet I do it daily and have a joyful life filled with bliss along the way with all the other stuff everyone has.
For me, with all my spiritual, philosophical and life training, it seems apparent if you want a good life, you must find it. It is all about focus, finding more positive ways to see things, ways to shift yourself from strife and keep moving forward. So why would I allow the conditions to dictate my disposition? Seems like a sure loss. The conditions are often not so cool. Yet with my eye and focus on play, pleasure, seeing joy, finding bliss, creating nirvana, guess what? I find it among all this other stuff.
Beautifully, as I do that, I create more! I am a minister so I am certain I land in way more strife than most. I go into it to serve. It is part of my world. I still find the sparkle, beauty, joy and lightness in the darkest situations! Why? For I focus to find it even if it the smallest giggle. From there it lightens, then it grows and the vibe and fog lifts onto a new path. It becomes a habit and creates a different vibe. A hopeful vibe for we all have to keep going on no matter what.
So as I roll in this unexpected bliss, I encourage you to seek more ecstasy! It is a worthy goal and it can be found. I don't know why on this day I am so grateful, blessed, filled, satiated. There is nothing in particular that seems to have brought it on but it is here. I imagine I cultivated somewhere and now I get to feel the vibe. We are creators and although, there are many things we don't feel we have a hand in creating, there are many things we do! Work them. Use your power of focus, of humor, of shift to continue to seek the wonder. It pays off and creates more!
Consider this blissed out feeling! Consider how you can create it. Consider looking for the brightness in the dark. Consider it is in your power to be blissed out! It doesn't have to be anything outside, just a mind set you want to expereince more. It works for me so maybe it will work for you? As we say in my school, "Check It out!
When I met my teacher Maria Soledad, I knew I had found the right woman to share with me the gifts of being a woman. Not only was she beautiful, but soft and warm, gentle and powerful. We often only see powerful woman as bold and strong in very masculine ways, as men would be, competitive, dictorial, overbearing and often a bit scary like Mother Superior. This was not Maria's way and why I was so inspired.
I wanted to share my softer, gentler me. In our world power, being seen, projecting, being bold is encouraged to succeed. Maria too, had done what we all do to survive and thrive in a masculine world. Use our Kali, lioness power to be heard. Yet it is not the highest or most healthful way for woman. Her Tai Chi teacher, a man instructed her to do feminine practices to find her more authentic womanly way. It transformed her and she became interested into the many lines of femininity around the world, inspired to share the teachings with woman. I am lucky I was one! This whole femininity awakening has inspired me to share in the same way. Her power was greater and far more intriguing when she shifted to her truth as the loving woman she was.
When we express in masculine ways, it is not wrong for we are many Goddesses. There is a time and place for all facets of ourselves for we are dynamic change. It is why men are allured to us, we are unpredictable even to ourselves. it is good. This is the wonder of a woman. Of course, men try to tame and understand it yet it is not set up that way. We are different and it is supposed to be the opposite of yin and yang. We have gotten stuck in this yang, power way of being and it is not our truth. Yes, we can use this side when we want and necessary, yet health wise it will stress and deteriorate our bodies which is what is occurring for us now. We ride in other ways more healthful and it is all a matter of understanding and balancing.
Our state is oxytocin not adrenaline. It is the pleasure hormone and it is the opposite of power in the man's way. It is power though and equal to a man's. I think of it as the roles of King vs. Queen. Both equally needed and very different. Nourishing, relaxing, feeding, playful, creative, inspiring, helpful, alluring, negotiating, larger group mentality, for the good of all thinking, grace, all things of flow are woman's ways. To many kings are like too many cooks in the kitchen. There is no nourishing going on of the created things or ourselves. We must create a more balanced way for health and our world. It is called the feminine reawakening.
You don't have to change or do some big transformation or list of to do's. We are woman and it is about us really remembering ourselves, our innate way, honoring it and being more of it. Actually the simpliest thing I learned from all the great teachers! It isn't about doing these few steps to get here. It is about uncovering your true feminine way and let go of the training against it. It is about seeing your authenticity and expressing it more for health and joy. It is a process of embracing the girl in you and it so excited me that I have permission to be such. In fact, in doing so life will be easier, healthier, more fun, more creative and you will feel your power and energized! All by riding rightly in the body you were given in a way that creates health and boundless energy!!Yippee!
This is my passion that inspires me to share with other woman by my book, in Sisterhood Circles and One on One Mentorship! It is opposite the information out there of how to be. It is graceful, easy and delightful. We are woman so it is not hard to be them. We have just been trained to use our more masculine energy which is not our innate way all the time. It goes against us and exhausts our bodies, emotions and mind. Being in feminine ways is just the opposite and energizes us. It is powerful too and we can attain all our goals, feats dreams easier for it is just the way we were created to flow.
I invite you to really consider this way of woman. Reawaken to your femininity and the wonder of being a woman different than men! I love to share all that I know and magically, once these ideas are awakened again in you, they take their own course. You don't need me for long as the Shakti power of woman is already alive in you. The well of energy already there and your own authentic way will come forward and up in you. It is why my teacher's showed up, shared in long retreats and then left for years. They knew it was already who I am and just wanted to remind me. We have all we need to be ourselves and the power necessary to really enjoy and create. We are woman! Nourishing, collaborating, gathering, enticing, alluring, creating anything...... for these are our natural feminine gifts!
Let us rise to be ourselves fully!! I invite and inspire you for life gets more magical and delicious as you do!! Health, beauty well being and magic!
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